Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why the idea that "they" can be used in the singular is so problematic. OP, the forum is anonymous. You could have assigned whatever gender to you and your partner you wanted. People spent pages thinking you were talking about a couple because of your use of "they."

Bottom line —you may not have terrible manners, but you do have trouble writing/communication. Although – – communication and manners can go together.

[Anonymous]

^ Meant terrible not trouble. (trouble fits well conceptually, just not grammatically).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My hot-flashing SIL did this when we were visiting with an infant (her house, we were visiting). Woke up to weak cries from the baby's room only to find he was so cold his lips were turning blue. It was terrifying.

Oh COME ON.

BOLLOCKS

Wow, I'm surprised you don't believe me. Totally true. It was winter and the baby was a preemie with very little body fat.

A baby that young and fragile would be in your room. Unless you are a shit parent. Nice try.

You are not a nice person.

[Anonymous]

Ok so now we know OP and (insert pronoun) are intimate. My question is what happened before going to sleep? (besides the obvious.) More to this story. Homeowner is pissed off about something and thermostat was a convenient way to start a fight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok so now we know OP and (insert pronoun) are intimate. My question is what happened before going to sleep? (besides the obvious.) More to this story. Homeowner is pissed off about something and thermostat was a convenient way to start a fight.

Two menopausal lesbians on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok so now we know OP and (insert pronoun) are intimate. My question is what happened before going to sleep? (besides the obvious.) More to this story. Homeowner is pissed off about something and thermostat was a convenient way to start a fight.

Pp here. Good point. Maybe the temp complaint was not the real issue at all! Or maybe the couple had their own issues and taking it out on you was convenient.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so now we know OP and (insert pronoun) are intimate. My question is what happened before going to sleep? (besides the obvious.) More to this story. Homeowner is pissed off about something and thermostat was a convenient way to start a fight.

Two menopausal lesbians on the spectrum?

This is so wrong. (Only one was menopausal - hence the thermostat argument). 😂

[Anonymous]

Our guest room is upstairs with it's own AC unit. I always let my guest know to feel free to adjust it to their comfort. As a host that's my primary concern. They are rude host but I personally wouldn't touch someone's thermostat without permission-which is why I always let my guest know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only place I do this is at my in-laws where the upstairs is on a separate thermostat, so it does not impact them. I would never do it as a houseguest where the thermostat affects the whole house.

My mother, on the other hand, when we were all crammed in my sister's house in the midwest over Christmas one year decided she was hot, so turned the thermostat down to, like 62, and opened all the windows in her room. We, and our 1-year-old, and my sister and her baby, froze our butts off and could never figure out why it was absolutely frigid every night. On day 6 it finally came out that she was doing this, and we all told her to cut it out. This was 10-odd years ago, and we still joke about how ridiculous it was.

6 days? Y'all are not bright.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My menopausal mom did exactly that at my house this week. I was LIVID. I said nothing.

Livid? Really over the AC? Christ I feel for your kids...and your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People setting their nighttime thermostat temperature at 70+ is why this planet will never stop burning.

Sleep physicians recommend the coldest temperature you can stand for sleeping; 58-62 is ideal. You’re in bed under the covers, why does the whole damned house need to be cranked up to 70+?! If you get up in the night, put on a bathrobe. Set the thermostat to warm up to 70+ 1/2 hour before waking time (no, it does not use more energy).

People who want their home summer temperature all year round - even their massive McMansions with dozens of empty rooms - are disgusting energy hogs.

Putting a house in the south at 58-62 is a disgusting energy hog when it's 90 plus half the year. Maybe 70 is the better option - little ze self-involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My menopausal mom did exactly that at my house this week. I was LIVID. I said nothing.

Livid? Really over the AC? Christ I feel for your kids...and your mom.

livid because a menopausal woman was having horrible hot flashes and needed the temperature down? Good grief—put on a sweater. You can add layers but a woman sweating because of hormones gets control if the thermostat. Period. Some day you’ll understand and be embarrassed for being livid over something so stupid.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, can't touch the thermostat in someone else's home. That said, they should not make a big deal about it.

[Anonymous]

Not appropriate OP. Just open a window, as I would assume they have it so hot for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Is anyone else pleased that OP responded and this thread is #3 on Off Topic?

OP, thank you. I support you and your comfort.