Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

We have zone Ac/heat. Our bedroom is on a different ac/heater.

I make a point of showing the guests where the thermostat is before bed and tell them feel free to adjust as needed. I also provide extra blankets etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you may have overstepped but if they are truly angry their reaction is way out of proportion.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never do it, but their reaction to it is rather odd. If a guest did it I would not care.

As a guest I would remove layers or maybe crack a window in my room for a bit.

Yeah, their overreaction (“take a poll of your friends?” Please) was ridiculous.

I’d be tempted to leave a $20 on the dresser when I left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1. It's not polite to turn down a thermostat without first asking the host, so if the host is asleep, it's best to undress as much as you can, or perhaps toss your bedcovers aside.

2. Why? Because you must always look for a solution that impacts you and only you. Turning down the thermostat affects the entire household. If they are used to sleeping at that temperature, it's not polite to make them uncomfortable. You may also not be aware of the needs of others: for example, I have a tropical bird who will not survive below a certain temperature. I also have a northern breed dog who will overheat past a certain temperature. Temperature control is a big deal for our household! But even if you're only dealing with humans, it's still impolite to inconvenience others.

3. That being said, in certain households, the guest is king. If you had been my guest, I would not have scolded you (68 is fine for my pets), because your comfort if important to me. However, I would definitely have wondered why you couldn't just take off your pyjamas or throw off your duvet... and would have privately thought you a tad inconsiderate.


3.

Don’t most DCUM size houses have zones for their HVAC? Turning it down upstairs in the guest room may not affect the master downstairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very rude to touch a thermostat in someone else’s house.

I honestly has no idea that I was being rude. I’m menopausal. Hot flashes. We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep. I don’t think this would have bothered me. But I hear everyone’s feedback.

Wait a minute, you & hosts were all sleeping in the same room?!

Yeah, this just got weirder.

[Anonymous]

71 is way too hot at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spent the night at a friends house and got hot during the night. Was hot but did not want to wake them. I went and turned the thermostat down 3 degrees and this morning they were angry that I touched their thermostat and turned it down 2 degrees —from 71-68. They said no one who is a guest at someone’s home would turn down the temperature without asking. Nobody. I explained that I did not know it was a problem. Really. If I had known it was a problem I would not have done it. Honestly did not think this would be a problem and tried to tell them this. They told me to take a poll of my friends or anyone to see what they say. I’m posting here to get feedback also. I’m honestly confused and they can’t understand me and I don’t understand them. Feedback please. TIA

They are right and you are a social idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spent the night at a friends house and got hot during the night. Was hot but did not want to wake them. I went and turned the thermostat down 3 degrees and this morning they were angry that I touched their thermostat and turned it down 2 degrees —from 71-68. They said no one who is a guest at someone’s home would turn down the temperature without asking. Nobody. I explained that I did not know it was a problem. Really. If I had known it was a problem I would not have done it. Honestly did not think this would be a problem and tried to tell them this. They told me to take a poll of my friends or anyone to see what they say. I’m posting here to get feedback also. I’m honestly confused and they can’t understand me and I don’t understand them. Feedback please. TIA

They are right and you are a social idiot.

No. You're an idiot and so is the host.

OP did not turn it down to 60. She turned it down to a very common setting.

She should not have touched it. But the host should not have been angry at all.

[Anonymous]

I would never touch someone else's thermostat without express permission and instructions. Thermostats and house temperature are often quirky. For example, if you adjust mine upward by two degrees, the auxiliary heat kicks in. That costs $$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never touch someone else's thermostat without express permission and instructions. Thermostats and house temperature are often quirky. For example, if you adjust mine upward by two degrees, the auxiliary heat kicks in. That costs $$$.

But the OP adjusted the heat down, which saves money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never touch someone else's thermostat without express permission and instructions. Thermostats and house temperature are often quirky. For example, if you adjust mine upward by two degrees, the auxiliary heat kicks in. That costs $$$.

But the OP adjusted the heat down, which saves money.

You are completely missing the point, which is that the hosts may have a reason for choosing their existing setting. OP doesn’t know because it’s not her house.

Also, the hosts undoubtedly chose a temperature they found comfortable. Unbelievably rude for OP to decide that her comfort was more important than theirs.

The right thing to do would have been to make it through the night without covers and then ask “Mitzi, do you happen to have a fan I can borrow for tonight? I’m ridiculously hot these days! Thanks!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never touch someone else's thermostat without express permission and instructions. Thermostats and house temperature are often quirky. For example, if you adjust mine upward by two degrees, the auxiliary heat kicks in. That costs $$$.

But the OP adjusted the heat down, which saves money.

Turning the heat off saves more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hot at 71 degrees? Why would they yell at you, their guest? They sound like poor hosts.

As a woman who has been freezing my entire life to now being on fire at 69 degrees due to menopause I get it. There’s only so much you can take off. I think the hosts reaction is way over blown.

[Anonymous]

You should absolutely not touch people’s thermostats; that’s crazy rude. I don’t even like doing it when they’re not home and I’m house sitting or pet sitting. As other’s have said, a person’s thermostat is usually carefully set to maximize their comforts and costs.

But the host should never, ever scold a guest like you describe so I think they’re ruder than you (which is impressive).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very rude to touch a thermostat in someone else’s house.

I honestly has no idea that I was being rude. I’m menopausal. Hot flashes. We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep. I don’t think this would have bothered me. But I hear everyone’s feedback.

Wait a minute, you & hosts were all sleeping in the same room?!

Yeah, this just got weirder.

This needs to be answered before this thread continues

"We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep."