Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1. It's not polite to turn down a thermostat without first asking the host, so if the host is asleep, it's best to undress as much as you can, or perhaps toss your bedcovers aside.

2. Why? Because you must always look for a solution that impacts you and only you. Turning down the thermostat affects the entire household. If they are used to sleeping at that temperature, it's not polite to make them uncomfortable. You may also not be aware of the needs of others: for example, I have a tropical bird who will not survive below a certain temperature. I also have a northern breed dog who will overheat past a certain temperature. Temperature control is a big deal for our household! But even if you're only dealing with humans, it's still impolite to inconvenience others.

3. That being said, in certain households, the guest is king. If you had been my guest, I would not have scolded you (68 is fine for my pets), because your comfort if important to me. However, I would definitely have wondered why you couldn't just take off your pyjamas or throw off your duvet... and would have privately thought you a tad inconsiderate.


3.

Don’t most DCUM size houses have zones for their HVAC? Turning it down upstairs in the guest room may not affect the master downstairs.

I'm a DCUM power user and we live in an apartment. We don't even have Nest thermostat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never touch someone else's thermostat without express permission and instructions. Thermostats and house temperature are often quirky. For example, if you adjust mine upward by two degrees, the auxiliary heat kicks in. That costs $$$.

Woman gets beat up for changing thermostat.
Has someone already posted this? https://news.yahoo.com/florida-woman-attacks-elderly-woman-220329866.html

[Anonymous]

I can't believe there are so many comments.

When hot, shed a layer of clothing. When cold, add a layer.
It's not your house, so you don't touch without asking.
Even if you change the thermostat, you can do it by 1-2 degrees. Technically 71 to 68 is more than 2 degrees. No one wants to wake up to a cold house or hot house. No one wants to be uncomfortable in their own house. You are a guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^lovers’! Correcting my own post!!

Maybe only one of them was in love and you were correct the first time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are so many comments.

When hot, shed a layer of clothing. When cold, add a layer.
It's not your house, so you don't touch without asking.
Even if you change the thermostat, you can do it by 1-2 degrees. Technically 71 to 68 is more than 2 degrees. No one wants to wake up to a cold house or hot house. No one wants to be uncomfortable in their own house. You are a guest.

There are so many comments — and even a spin-off thread — because so many people disagree with a standard that I thought was almost universal: “It’s not your house, so you don’t touch without asking”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are so many comments.

When hot, shed a layer of clothing. When cold, add a layer.
It's not your house, so you don't touch without asking.
Even if you change the thermostat, you can do it by 1-2 degrees. Technically 71 to 68 is more than 2 degrees. No one wants to wake up to a cold house or hot house. No one wants to be uncomfortable in their own house. You are a guest.

There are so many comments — and even a spin-off thread — because so many people disagree with a standard that I thought was almost universal: “It’s not your house, so you don’t touch without asking”.

There are so many comments because this is a 2 year old thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are so many comments.

When hot, shed a layer of clothing. When cold, add a layer.
It's not your house, so you don't touch without asking.
Even if you change the thermostat, you can do it by 1-2 degrees. Technically 71 to 68 is more than 2 degrees. No one wants to wake up to a cold house or hot house. No one wants to be uncomfortable in their own house. You are a guest.

There are so many comments — and even a spin-off thread — because so many people disagree with a standard that I thought was almost universal: “It’s not your house, so you don’t touch without asking”.

There are so many comments because this is a 2 year old thread!

And we still don’t know why OP and the host(s?) were sleeping in the same room??! What a bust

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1. It's not polite to turn down a thermostat without first asking the host, so if the host is asleep, it's best to undress as much as you can, or perhaps toss your bedcovers aside.

2. Why? Because you must always look for a solution that impacts you and only you. Turning down the thermostat affects the entire household. If they are used to sleeping at that temperature, it's not polite to make them uncomfortable. You may also not be aware of the needs of others: for example, I have a tropical bird who will not survive below a certain temperature. I also have a northern breed dog who will overheat past a certain temperature. Temperature control is a big deal for our household! But even if you're only dealing with humans, it's still impolite to inconvenience others.

3. That being said, in certain households, the guest is king. If you had been my guest, I would not have scolded you (68 is fine for my pets), because your comfort if important to me. However, I would definitely have wondered why you couldn't just take off your pyjamas or throw off your duvet... and would have privately thought you a tad inconsiderate.


3.

Don’t most DCUM size houses have zones for their HVAC? Turning it down upstairs in the guest room may not affect the master downstairs.

I'm a DCUM power user and we live in an apartment. We don't even have Nest thermostat!

I knew someone was going to do this. Yes, congratulations, you’re an outlier.

[Anonymous]

Even if you change the thermostat, you can do it by 1-2 degrees. Technically 71 to 68 is more than 2 degrees.

3 = 2+1

Only 1.

[Anonymous]

71 is way too hot for night time if you’re talking about heat.

Next time, surreptitiously put a pillow or book over the vent in your room instead.

[Anonymous]

You overstepped but their reaction was out of proportion. I would have silently seethed or perhaps made a joke about it.