Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys deserve each other.

I was going to say the same. Match made in heaven. You both are socially clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very rude to touch a thermostat in someone else’s house.

I honestly has no idea that I was being rude. I’m menopausal. Hot flashes. We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep. I don’t think this would have bothered me. But I hear everyone’s feedback.

Honestly it’s even more surprising that you made it to menopause age lacking the self awareness that it would be a faux pas...but I guess at least you know now

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s rude. I always want my guests to be comfortable, and it is much easier to be warmer (grab extra covers) than to cool down. I would be uncomfortable sleeping at 71 for sure - we keep it at 65 at night.

[Anonymous]

Your friends are super weird for calling you out on it, but yeah, you should never touch the thermostat in someone's home without asking them. That's definitely rude. You could've taken a blanket off, taken your pants off, maybe even cracked a window for 30 seconds to let in some fresh air, but the thermostat affects the whole house and its rude.

[Anonymous]

You were completely wrong, OP! Because you were hot you changed the temperature in the house for everyone?!!

Apologize. You were a guest. Guests follow the directives of the host.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine turning down the thermostat for the entire house because you were uncomfortable. Why would you think iit is ok. My guess is one of the rooms that someone else was sleeping in gets less heat and they were freezing.

They may also have an old system that takes awhile to get the house back up. Even just a few degrees in cold weather can take awhile.

[Anonymous]

Super rude. You are a guest and are not entitled to make decisions about what temperature everyone else in the house should deal with. How do you know the hosts don't have some reason they must have the house at a certain temperature? Would you also turn it UP and increase their utility bills? Just beyond rude.

But yelling at you was also not a great host response. I would just politely say I preferred if the thermostat not be touched and fume privately and maybe not invite you back for awhile.

The only time I have ever touched the thermostat in someone else's home was when they had a guest suite with its own HVAC system (yes, rich) and explicitly told me to adjust it as needed. Without told specifically it was OK, I would never. Same with rummaging through the fridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s rude. I always want my guests to be comfortable, and it is much easier to be warmer (grab extra covers) than to cool down. I would be uncomfortable sleeping at 71 for sure - we keep it at 65 at night.

True but they were asleep and it’s inconvenient to be awakened and have to search for a way to warm up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very rude to touch a thermostat in someone else’s house.

I honestly has no idea that I was being rude. I’m menopausal. Hot flashes. We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep. I don’t think this would have bothered me. But I hear everyone’s feedback.

Wait a minute, you & hosts were all sleeping in the same room?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Probably OP and friends are close enough to have conversations like this. It's probably not the first time OP has acted in a thoughtless and self-centered manner, but since he/she refuses to see it, the friends told OP to ask around.

OP, you may be on the spectrum if this is so hard for you to understand. Please read the replies carefully and think about it.

Speaking of over the top.

PP you replied to. Sadly no, I speak from experience. My teen son is on the spectrum and this is exactly the sort of thing he does. My other kids know they must think of an individual solution before choosing to inconvenience everyone. I hope DS won't end up like OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Probably OP and friends are close enough to have conversations like this. It's probably not the first time OP has acted in a thoughtless and self-centered manner, but since he/she refuses to see it, the friends told OP to ask around.

OP, you may be on the spectrum if this is so hard for you to understand. Please read the replies carefully and think about it.

This was my first thought as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very rude to touch a thermostat in someone else’s house.

I honestly has no idea that I was being rude. I’m menopausal. Hot flashes. We were sleeping in the same room and they were asleep. I don’t think this would have bothered me. But I hear everyone’s feedback.

Wait a minute, you & hosts were all sleeping in the same room?!

This entire scenario is super weird.

[Anonymous]

Whoa! I'm really surprised by all of the negative responses. TBH, I wouldn't have touched the thermostat at someone else's house, but only because I'm a little insecure about technology/devices -- what if it's hooked up to a time alarm or I accidentally turn heat/AC completely off or something else.

But as a host my priority is ALWAYS to make the guest comfortable. I absolutely cannot imagine being upset with a guest about changing the thermostat! When we have guests I always give them a choice of blankets (i.e., put a light and heavy blanket in the room) and would feel WAY WORSE if I found out a guest was uncomfortable all night than if they changed the thermostat, opened the window, or anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoa! I'm really surprised by all of the negative responses. TBH, I wouldn't have touched the thermostat at someone else's house, but only because I'm a little insecure about technology/devices -- what if it's hooked up to a time alarm or I accidentally turn heat/AC completely off or something else.

But as a host my priority is ALWAYS to make the guest comfortable. I absolutely cannot imagine being upset with a guest about changing the thermostat! When we have guests I always give them a choice of blankets (i.e., put a light and heavy blanket in the room) and would feel WAY WORSE if I found out a guest was uncomfortable all night than if they changed the thermostat, opened the window, or anything else.

As a guest is your priority also to always make yourself comfortable, even if it’s at the expense of the host like op?

[Anonymous]

What is up with a series of clueless ops? Op, are you the same op as “wow, you were so beautiful” thread? Are you a troll? I just can’t imagine someone so obtuse!