Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m the odd one out, but if I’m close enough to someone that I’ve invited them to spend the night in my home, I would hope they feel comfortable enough to bump the thermostat a few degrees. Anything between about 68-72(ish) seems normal to me. I want my guests to be comfy. Even if it had annoyed me I would never in a million years try to make them feel bad about it.

When I host people I show them where the thermostat is located and tell them to feel free to adjust it…

Yep me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spent the night at a friends house and got hot during the night. Was hot but did not want to wake them. I went and turned the thermostat down 3 degrees and this morning they were angry that I touched their thermostat and turned it down 2 degrees —from 71-68. They said no one who is a guest at someone’s home would turn down the temperature without asking. Nobody. I explained that I did not know it was a problem. Really. If I had known it was a problem I would not have done it. Honestly did not think this would be a problem and tried to tell them this. They told me to take a poll of my friends or anyone to see what they say. I’m posting here to get feedback also. I’m honestly confused and they can’t understand me and I don’t understand them. Feedback please. TIA

That's three to four degrees, not "2 degrees"

That’s 3 degrees. Not 4, not 2.

Get out of here with your new math.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and always change the thermostat. I’m summer my boss thinks 78 degrees in California is acceptable, and in the winter they want the house at 75 freaking degrees. The minute the parents leave, I change the temperature. I’m not sweating at work!!

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it rises to the level of an actual discussion and certainly not a confrontation. Especially amongst friends. Very strange.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you don't touch someone else's thermostat. You were wrong.

[Anonymous]

As a stoic New Englander who keeps the thermostat at 60 because heating costs are so high, I would thank you for saving me some money. Just kidding…but tbh, I think both of you are in the wrong. It’s a little weird to change the thermostat and it’s a little weird to get bent out shape about it. But should not be friendship ending!

[Anonymous]

3 years later global warming has gotten worse. You were a pioneer and ahead of your time OP.

[Anonymous]

If you’re an overnight guest I think fine to change thermostat. I wouldn’t want my guest to be uncomfortable and would not want the to wake me up. A gracious host would not care or would tell guest to make themselves at home during the night.

[Anonymous]

My parents house is so hot in winter i stay up in my room with windows open -- yes, in winter. But I don't touch their thermostat.

But, total over-reaction.

[Anonymous]

Don't know why this came back up, but OP was wrong as can be on this one. just wrong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents house is so hot in winter i stay up in my room with windows open -- yes, in winter. But I don't touch their thermostat.

But, total over-reaction.

Haha yes I open windows too.

[Anonymous]

Our guest room is in the walkout basement which tends to get cold imho. I always ask the guests how they like the temperature and then I show them the thermostat and encourage them to adjust it to their comfort.

I would never adjust the thermostat without permission…and I would never ask…unless it was my sibling’s house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you at Sheldon Cooper’s house?

Misery was on tv last weekend and I made DH and DS watch. They’d never seen it because they didn’t grow up in US

They were shocked.

I don’t get hot only get cold because anemic so turn my heat down and I’m all “Look what you made me do”

[Anonymous]

Super rude. BIL used to do this all the time (turn it down), including at IL's place where he drove them nuts too.

Your hosts have their thermostat set to what's comfortable for them. Hijacking it to make it comfortable for you is just... rude.

[Anonymous]

I just read this whole thing and it’s page 14 when OP returns to say it wasn’t a couple just a person she was sleeping with who got upset and the they was singular