Found nude pics on DHs phone

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Anonymous wrote:“Your choice to lie tells me everything I need to know. Please find another place to sleep tonight while I process what I want to do next.”

+1 I'm not going to become Inspector Gadget but I'm not putting up with it either.

+2 - No way in hell will I snoop on my husband or live with a cheater. People always eventually get caught....I don't have time to snoop. Plus, if I feel like I have to snoop, then I want a divorce.

How childish. Do you feel that way about your tax attorney, real estate broker, or accountant? A spouse is a bigger investment, and yes they do get away with it. Some for decades simply because the spouse believed everything they said. Remember Charles Kuralt? He worked for CBS and had a secret mistress in another state. His wife of 35 years only found out after he died. The mistress claimed he willed her some land, it became a big fight. He was a horrible man, the kids nor wife ever got over it.

Why would you have to snoop? We can access each others phones/computers at any time. If you have a private secretive spouse there is a problem right there.

WOW....

First, I am not hiring my husband to do a job for me, he is not an investment. He is my life partner, the man I love, the man I admire and the father of my kids. HE is the rock of my family, of which I cherish deeply.

Second, I have the right to my own privacy on my cell phone, thank you very much. I don't need my husband checking up on me, he does not own me. I have friends that are going through private things, they have every right to their privacy and I would betray them if I let my husband just feel like he can read everything on my phone.

Third, my husband and I talk about every financial move we make. I am not one of those women who don't know what is going on. You know, because I am actually in a great marriage, because I don't think of him as an investment. So gross. Your poor husband.

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Anonymous wrote:If legit his over reaction to her question is awfully suspicious. He wouldn't be doing himself any favors.

Dude is obviously sick and tired of dealing with the OP. He rolled out and has made no attempt to reach out and repair things making it quite evident he’s done with her and isn’t interested in “doing himself a favor” and getting back in her good graces. He’s had it.

Nope, playing the victim to throw her off the track. He's over acting which makes him guilty. She's on to his sickness.

Dude couldn’t care less about looking guilty in OP’s eyes. He’s still relatively young, he’s got a side piece who’s 10x hotter and if it is, in fact, his boss he’s giddy about the promotions to come. Nope dude is ready to be rid of OP and odds are while she’s dragging her feet wondering what to think he’s probably lawyered up and ready to roll with divorce proceedings. Shout out to the dude who knows his worth and isn’t willing to sacrifice his sanity anymore.

He clearly cares a whole lot, actually. He deleted the photo, lied, is now backtracking and saying it was just p*rn, got mad at her and then ran away to hide like a pitiful little boy. Sad.

If he were any kind of person with integrity, he would have ended his marriage before starting up something new. But he is a scared weakling with no character... as all cheaters are. Therefore "his worth" is nil. OP can't see it right now, but losing a person like that is no loss.

Gimme a break.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't be ogling other women on his phone.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't lie and be totally unapologetic about it.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't have just stormed off and cut off all contact.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would drool over pics of her instead of other women.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would come clean and not lie making things worse.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would be crying/begging/pleading for forgiveness because he can't stand the thought of living without her.

So evidently the OP ain't all she's cracked up to be nor is she the best things since sliced bread either.

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Anonymous wrote:If it was porn, why wouldn’t he keep the face?

If it’s his boss and if she gets fired, he could get her job.

You guys do know there are tons of amateur porn pics online of women without their faces, right? I mean, come on.

You need to stop listening to all of these prude women who don't even know what is free out there for our husbands to purview on a daily basis. Look, is he cheating, is is very likely if you have never ever once caught him looking at nudes or porn. But, I wouldn't jump right to this if my husband had nudes on his phone. Have a serious conversation with him. Tell him you get men look at nudes, that's not really the issue, it's his reaction. Of course, since you went right into accusing him of cheating with his boss, he is now on the defensive, and it's going to be hard to know if he is closing up because he feels like his wife is unreasonable and freaks out over nudes, or he is a cheat and has already run off to her bed.

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Anonymous wrote:Let's even say that your DH didn't cheat and those pictures were innocent. Is it a normal reaction to get so mad at being "falsely accused" that you have to leave the house and not answer your spouse's calls? I think not.

Oh shut up you don't know this guy's temperament and as annoying as the OP is the way she creates 2/3 posts a week whining about one thing or another I'd say it was WISE on his part to leave the house before he ended up having a brain aneurysm from her nagging and dying.

You're acting as if the OP made up this accusation completely out of nowhere (assuming it is real and OP is not a troll.) If nude photos are found a phone, it is perfectly reasonable to question cheating. And if you can't understand that and won't put effort in to clear up the misunderstanding - if there is one - than you should probably just be single. Nothing wrong with that, but it's a bit much to become irate about it when it is a perfectly logical accusation. Again, all of this is assuming the OP didn't behave like a complete psycho and didn't chase him out of the house with a frying pan or some other shenanigans.

You only go to cheating immediately if you don't trust your husband. If I found nudes on my husband phone, I would not think he is cheating. I would think he is getting himself worked up to come home and have sex with me. Maybe I take this view because I still have AMAZING sex with my husband all these years later, unlike most DCUM women.

Your husband looks at nude photos of other women so he can get turned on enough to have sex with you? I wouldn’t be bragging about that. Why doesn’t he have nude photos of you on his phone to get worked up over?

It's a thing we do. I like to look at them too. I send him nudes every day. It's fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Let's even say that your DH didn't cheat and those pictures were innocent. Is it a normal reaction to get so mad at being "falsely accused" that you have to leave the house and not answer your spouse's calls? I think not.

Oh shut up you don't know this guy's temperament and as annoying as the OP is the way she creates 2/3 posts a week whining about one thing or another I'd say it was WISE on his part to leave the house before he ended up having a brain aneurysm from her nagging and dying.

You're acting as if the OP made up this accusation completely out of nowhere (assuming it is real and OP is not a troll.) If nude photos are found a phone, it is perfectly reasonable to question cheating. And if you can't understand that and won't put effort in to clear up the misunderstanding - if there is one - than you should probably just be single. Nothing wrong with that, but it's a bit much to become irate about it when it is a perfectly logical accusation. Again, all of this is assuming the OP didn't behave like a complete psycho and didn't chase him out of the house with a frying pan or some other shenanigans.

You only go to cheating immediately if you don't trust your husband. If I found nudes on my husband phone, I would not think he is cheating. I would think he is getting himself worked up to come home and have sex with me. Maybe I take this view because I still have AMAZING sex with my husband all these years later, unlike most DCUM women.

Your husband looks at nude photos of other women so he can get turned on enough to have sex with you? I wouldn’t be bragging about that. Why doesn’t he have nude photos of you on his phone to get worked up over?

It's a thing we do. I like to look at them too. I send him nudes every day. It's fun.

To clarify, I send nudes of me, too. I also send him nudes I find online of super hot women. We also watch girl on girl porn together sometimes too. I like to experiment, etc. No, we don't have an open relationship and no I have never been worried about him cheating on me.

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Anonymous wrote:Let's even say that your DH didn't cheat and those pictures were innocent. Is it a normal reaction to get so mad at being "falsely accused" that you have to leave the house and not answer your spouse's calls? I think not.

Oh shut up you don't know this guy's temperament and as annoying as the OP is the way she creates 2/3 posts a week whining about one thing or another I'd say it was WISE on his part to leave the house before he ended up having a brain aneurysm from her nagging and dying.

You're acting as if the OP made up this accusation completely out of nowhere (assuming it is real and OP is not a troll.) If nude photos are found a phone, it is perfectly reasonable to question cheating. And if you can't understand that and won't put effort in to clear up the misunderstanding - if there is one - than you should probably just be single. Nothing wrong with that, but it's a bit much to become irate about it when it is a perfectly logical accusation. Again, all of this is assuming the OP didn't behave like a complete psycho and didn't chase him out of the house with a frying pan or some other shenanigans.

You only go to cheating immediately if you don't trust your husband. If I found nudes on my husband phone, I would not think he is cheating. I would think he is getting himself worked up to come home and have sex with me. Maybe I take this view because I still have AMAZING sex with my husband all these years later, unlike most DCUM women.

Your husband looks at nude photos of other women so he can get turned on enough to have sex with you? I wouldn’t be bragging about that. Why doesn’t he have nude photos of you on his phone to get worked up over?

It's a thing we do. I like to look at them too. I send him nudes every day. It's fun.

To clarify, I send nudes of me, too. I also send him nudes I find online of super hot women. We also watch girl on girl porn together sometimes too. I like to experiment, etc. No, we don't have an open relationship and no I have never been worried about him cheating on me.

Oh, and this is all me. Was never his idea. In fact, he thought I was tricking him at first. He would be happy with just nudes of me. I am sure of it. I also like when he sends me nudes. But, we are also both still hot. So, that helps.

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Anonymous wrote:If legit his over reaction to her question is awfully suspicious. He wouldn't be doing himself any favors.

Dude is obviously sick and tired of dealing with the OP. He rolled out and has made no attempt to reach out and repair things making it quite evident he’s done with her and isn’t interested in “doing himself a favor” and getting back in her good graces. He’s had it.

Nope, playing the victim to throw her off the track. He's over acting which makes him guilty. She's on to his sickness.

Dude couldn’t care less about looking guilty in OP’s eyes. He’s still relatively young, he’s got a side piece who’s 10x hotter and if it is, in fact, his boss he’s giddy about the promotions to come. Nope dude is ready to be rid of OP and odds are while she’s dragging her feet wondering what to think he’s probably lawyered up and ready to roll with divorce proceedings. Shout out to the dude who knows his worth and isn’t willing to sacrifice his sanity anymore.

He clearly cares a whole lot, actually. He deleted the photo, lied, is now backtracking and saying it was just p*rn, got mad at her and then ran away to hide like a pitiful little boy. Sad.

If he were any kind of person with integrity, he would have ended his marriage before starting up something new. But he is a scared weakling with no character... as all cheaters are. Therefore "his worth" is nil. OP can't see it right now, but losing a person like that is no loss.

Gimme a break.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't be ogling other women on his phone.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't lie and be totally unapologetic about it.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't have just stormed off and cut off all contact.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would drool over pics of her instead of other women.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would come clean and not lie making things worse.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would be crying/begging/pleading for forgiveness because he can't stand the thought of living without her.

So evidently the OP ain't all she's cracked up to be nor is she the best things since sliced bread either.

Aw. Did I touch a nerve? Deep breaths, PP! Yes, of course it must be someone else's fault that OP's husband is a liar. Clearly it's other people's actions that make him cheat and lie, he's not responsible at all! Poor guy, having to be responsible for his own behavior.

No one said OP was "all that and a bag of chips" (who says that, anyway?) You read all that into it with your own baggage. All I said was, OP's husband is a weak, scared, dishonest little excuse for a human. No one with integrity would act this way. OP could be the worst wife in the world - none of us know one way or the other - and her husband would still be a crappy human for this kind of dishonest, manipulative behavior. If you are in a bad relationship, have the courage to take the steps to either make it better or leave.

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Anonymous wrote:Let's even say that your DH didn't cheat and those pictures were innocent. Is it a normal reaction to get so mad at being "falsely accused" that you have to leave the house and not answer your spouse's calls? I think not.

Oh shut up you don't know this guy's temperament and as annoying as the OP is the way she creates 2/3 posts a week whining about one thing or another I'd say it was WISE on his part to leave the house before he ended up having a brain aneurysm from her nagging and dying.

You're acting as if the OP made up this accusation completely out of nowhere (assuming it is real and OP is not a troll.) If nude photos are found a phone, it is perfectly reasonable to question cheating. And if you can't understand that and won't put effort in to clear up the misunderstanding - if there is one - than you should probably just be single. Nothing wrong with that, but it's a bit much to become irate about it when it is a perfectly logical accusation. Again, all of this is assuming the OP didn't behave like a complete psycho and didn't chase him out of the house with a frying pan or some other shenanigans.

You only go to cheating immediately if you don't trust your husband. If I found nudes on my husband phone, I would not think he is cheating. I would think he is getting himself worked up to come home and have sex with me. Maybe I take this view because I still have AMAZING sex with my husband all these years later, unlike most DCUM women.

Your husband looks at nude photos of other women so he can get turned on enough to have sex with you? I wouldn’t be bragging about that. Why doesn’t he have nude photos of you on his phone to get worked up over?

It's a thing we do. I like to look at them too. I send him nudes every day. It's fun.

To clarify, I send nudes of me, too. I also send him nudes I find online of super hot women. We also watch girl on girl porn together sometimes too. I like to experiment, etc. No, we don't have an open relationship and no I have never been worried about him cheating on me.

Oh, and this is all me. Was never his idea. In fact, he thought I was tricking him at first. He would be happy with just nudes of me. I am sure of it. I also like when he sends me nudes. But, we are also both still hot. So, that helps.

PP, reality check. This conversation isn't about you. It's about OP. Go start your own thread bout your things with your DH. I'll read it.

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Anonymous wrote:If legit his over reaction to her question is awfully suspicious. He wouldn't be doing himself any favors.

Dude is obviously sick and tired of dealing with the OP. He rolled out and has made no attempt to reach out and repair things making it quite evident he’s done with her and isn’t interested in “doing himself a favor” and getting back in her good graces. He’s had it.

Nope, playing the victim to throw her off the track. He's over acting which makes him guilty. She's on to his sickness.

Dude couldn’t care less about looking guilty in OP’s eyes. He’s still relatively young, he’s got a side piece who’s 10x hotter and if it is, in fact, his boss he’s giddy about the promotions to come. Nope dude is ready to be rid of OP and odds are while she’s dragging her feet wondering what to think he’s probably lawyered up and ready to roll with divorce proceedings. Shout out to the dude who knows his worth and isn’t willing to sacrifice his sanity anymore.

He clearly cares a whole lot, actually. He deleted the photo, lied, is now backtracking and saying it was just p*rn, got mad at her and then ran away to hide like a pitiful little boy. Sad.

If he were any kind of person with integrity, he would have ended his marriage before starting up something new. But he is a scared weakling with no character... as all cheaters are. Therefore "his worth" is nil. OP can't see it right now, but losing a person like that is no loss.

Gimme a break.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't be ogling other women on his phone.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't lie and be totally unapologetic about it.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude wouldn't have just stormed off and cut off all contact.

If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would drool over pics of her instead of other women.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would come clean and not lie making things worse.
If OP was all that and a bag of chips then dude would be crying/begging/pleading for forgiveness because he can't stand the thought of living without her.

So evidently the OP ain't all she's cracked up to be nor is she the best things since sliced bread either.

Aw. Did I touch a nerve? Deep breaths, PP! Yes, of course it must be someone else's fault that OP's husband is a liar. Clearly it's other people's actions that make him cheat and lie, he's not responsible at all! Poor guy, having to be responsible for his own behavior.

No one said OP was "all that and a bag of chips" (who says that, anyway?) You read all that into it with your own baggage. All I said was, OP's husband is a weak, scared, dishonest little excuse for a human. No one with integrity would act this way. OP could be the worst wife in the world - none of us know one way or the other - and her husband would still be a crappy human for this kind of dishonest, manipulative behavior. If you are in a bad relationship, have the courage to take the steps to either make it better or leave.

Whatever you bout as bad at making assumptions about people as OP is as terrible at sustaining a stable relationship.
Dude is set to leave and bout to tell OP
"IT'S OVER"

[Anonymous]

Is the same annoying guy posting all these gifs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let's even say that your DH didn't cheat and those pictures were innocent. Is it a normal reaction to get so mad at being "falsely accused" that you have to leave the house and not answer your spouse's calls? I think not.

Oh shut up you don't know this guy's temperament and as annoying as the OP is the way she creates 2/3 posts a week whining about one thing or another I'd say it was WISE on his part to leave the house before he ended up having a brain aneurysm from her nagging and dying.

You're acting as if the OP made up this accusation completely out of nowhere (assuming it is real and OP is not a troll.) If nude photos are found a phone, it is perfectly reasonable to question cheating. And if you can't understand that and won't put effort in to clear up the misunderstanding - if there is one - than you should probably just be single. Nothing wrong with that, but it's a bit much to become irate about it when it is a perfectly logical accusation. Again, all of this is assuming the OP didn't behave like a complete psycho and didn't chase him out of the house with a frying pan or some other shenanigans.

You only go to cheating immediately if you don't trust your husband. If I found nudes on my husband phone, I would not think he is cheating. I would think he is getting himself worked up to come home and have sex with me. Maybe I take this view because I still have AMAZING sex with my husband all these years later, unlike most DCUM women.

Your husband looks at nude photos of other women so he can get turned on enough to have sex with you? I wouldn’t be bragging about that. Why doesn’t he have nude photos of you on his phone to get worked up over?

It's a thing we do. I like to look at them too. I send him nudes every day. It's fun.

To clarify, I send nudes of me, too. I also send him nudes I find online of super hot women. We also watch girl on girl porn together sometimes too. I like to experiment, etc. No, we don't have an open relationship and no I have never been worried about him cheating on me.

Oh, and this is all me. Was never his idea. In fact, he thought I was tricking him at first. He would be happy with just nudes of me. I am sure of it. I also like when he sends me nudes. But, we are also both still hot. So, that helps.

Oh, and I'm so open and so progressive and so cool that I'll spend so much time on DCUM trying to convince you all how lucky my husband is to have someone like me.

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14:57 you read my mind... Sorry you have to wade through the crap, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here who finds all these recommendations for extensive investigations or snooping to be exhausting? Who wants to live this way?

Either divorce him if the marriage sucks or accept that he like any other man may or may not have cheated. Let him know you saw what you saw, and you won't accept infidelity so if he is dumb enough to continue, the marriage will be over. If he loves you and wants to stay married, he will break off whatever he has done.

Life's too short to spend it investigating your spouse.

You're wrong. At this point she needs to find out what's going on. He won't tell her so she needs proof before she makes any type of decision. It could be a million things. Yes she should snoop, not stick her head in the sand. From there she can decide what she wants to do. No there's no accepting any man cheating, the man excuse card isn't going to fly.

No; it can’t be “anything.” The choice to lie now says everything.

Sure. She can just leave now, and get a divorce, and then wonder for the rest of her life if he was really having an affair or not, while their family and friends think she must be crazy.

You don't know what it's like, obviously, to need proof before acting. Most people want proof.

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OP you should have had enough time to go online to see the phone records. Any updates?

[Anonymous]

Would the jerks who have taken over this thread with their "I'm so hot, I send nudes to my husband" vs. "No, you're making that up" PLEASE STOP.

Some of us aren't interested in your hijacking. Start another thread about sending nudes in general.