Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

Why, hello there. Don't be so hard on yourself. Look, share a pic of yourself and we'll give you honest feedback

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

Of course he lied OP. And that’s why you were told to take pics of it!!! You showed your hand and now you have an uphill battle towards the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do I do?

Don't know what you should do but I know what you can expect...



In the future stay out of your partner's phone unless you like being alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do I do?

Be your own detective. Start with the cell phone and credit card bills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

Why, hello there. Don't be so hard on yourself. Look, share a pic of yourself and we'll give you honest feedback

Shoot, you called my bluff. I'm actually a dumpy mouse brown middle aged woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

LOL, no way does he have nude pics of this woman if it's not already physical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

LOL, no way does he have nude pics of this woman if it's not already physical.

I'm pretty sure it wouldn't matter to me if it hadn't gotten physical yet. So it's better that he got caught beforehand when he likely had full intentions to cheat? Still not great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

OP, please contact a close friend and let them help you navigate this mess. I understand why you wanted answers and wanted them asap but you need a clearer head making choices right now. Let a friend help you. If this turns out to be nothing more than nude pics he got from the internet that's one thing, if it's an affair you will be glad you let a friend help you make less emotional choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

OP, please contact a close friend and let them help you navigate this mess. I understand why you wanted answers and wanted them asap but you need a clearer head making choices right now. Let a friend help you. If this turns out to be nothing more than nude pics he got from the internet that's one thing, if it's an affair you will be glad you let a friend help you make less emotional choices.

I'm sorry, OP. I know it's hard but you should have taken screen shots before you confronted your DH. Now you know he's lying to you as well. You should think about your next move carefully. Don't argue with him. You know what you saw, what does that mean to you about your feelings for him going forward?

[Anonymous]

The fact that he's lying about even having them means he is cheating and that is his AP. If it was some woman that his buddy was dating then he would have said that. You know he is lying. You tipped your hand too early. I hope you sent them to yourself and took a picture of them on his phone with your phone.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP you are getting the typical "divorce cheerleader" advice here from women who don't have to live your life when all is said and done.

Back up for a moment, is he a good husband and father? is this in character or out of it? Any changes in the relationship lately?

Yes, it's entirely possible he has naked pictures of another woman who he isn't physical with. I have received these a few times in my 20 year marriage - not saying it's appropriate but it's not that uncommon.

It's also possible it's not his boss, or it's his divorced friend who is sleeping with a hot woman and shared the picture. It's also possible it's his boss and he is having a full blown affair.

Rather than spend the best years of your life turning into an amateur detective, which may or may not reveal any definitive evidence, have a heart to heart with him. Tell him what you saw, ask for his explanation, make it clear that infidelity won't be tolerated and you would feel better if you had some transparency, i.e. access to his phone to reassure you. This all assumes you have an otherwise good marriage and sex life. If you don't, and are looking for a reason to split, then do it for other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP you are getting the typical "divorce cheerleader" advice here from women who don't have to live your life when all is said and done.

Back up for a moment, is he a good husband and father? is this in character or out of it? Any changes in the relationship lately?

Yes, it's entirely possible he has naked pictures of another woman who he isn't physical with. I have received these a few times in my 20 year marriage - not saying it's appropriate but it's not that uncommon.

It's also possible it's not his boss, or it's his divorced friend who is sleeping with a hot woman and shared the picture. It's also possible it's his boss and he is having a full blown affair.

Rather than spend the best years of your life turning into an amateur detective, which may or may not reveal any definitive evidence, have a heart to heart with him. Tell him what you saw, ask for his explanation, make it clear that infidelity won't be tolerated and you would feel better if you had some transparency, i.e. access to his phone to reassure you. This all assumes you have an otherwise good marriage and sex life. If you don't, and are looking for a reason to split, then do it for other reasons.

OP already asked her husband about the pics and he is denying any such pics exist... if he won't even acknowledge the pics, I'm guessing transparency isn't gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP you are getting the typical "divorce cheerleader" advice here from women who don't have to live your life when all is said and done.

Back up for a moment, is he a good husband and father? is this in character or out of it? Any changes in the relationship lately?

Yes, it's entirely possible he has naked pictures of another woman who he isn't physical with. I have received these a few times in my 20 year marriage - not saying it's appropriate but it's not that uncommon.

It's also possible it's not his boss, or it's his divorced friend who is sleeping with a hot woman and shared the picture. It's also possible it's his boss and he is having a full blown affair.

Rather than spend the best years of your life turning into an amateur detective, which may or may not reveal any definitive evidence, have a heart to heart with him. Tell him what you saw, ask for his explanation, make it clear that infidelity won't be tolerated and you would feel better if you had some transparency, i.e. access to his phone to reassure you. This all assumes you have an otherwise good marriage and sex life. If you don't, and are looking for a reason to split, then do it for other reasons.

OP already asked her husband about the pics and he is denying any such pics exist... if he won't even acknowledge the pics, I'm guessing transparency isn't gonna happen.

He’ll no transparency won’t happen until you have something more concrete and in hand. There could very well be nothing that comes from it but if there is there’s proof. You just have to go looking for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

This

No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send the pics to yourself so you have evidence before he deletes them. Don’t confront until you have more evidence, because if he’s cheating he will lie and minimize to protect himself. Check your cell phone records. Are there a lot of calls and texts to one number? Can you access his email? Does his phone have a password? Does he keep it with him all the time? Any messaging apps like WhatsApp or Kik? Is he deleting any text threads? You can find a lot of information about what to look for on talkaboutmarriage, chumplady or survivinginfidelity. Maybe he’s not cheating, but the pictures could mean otherwise.

This.