Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

Any update?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Op here.

I am back home. The 4 days at the hotel made me realize I miss him so much. He missed me too.
We decided to have a fresh start and to move forward. He told me that it was a silly stupid mistake that he made and it didn’t mean anything. He never met up with her or touched her. He is ashamed and it won’t happen again. He deleted her contact information.

He has been attentive and nice and kind. However I am having a hard time moving past. Every time he works late or is on his phone, I get a panic attack and ask him what is going on. He gets mad and says this has to stop and I need to get over it. He says he is miserable and hates being accused of having an affair because of one stupid mistake he made.

I feel that he still owes me some room to ask questions and get reassurance as I work through this. Im very hurt that he is shutting me off from grieving or expressing my pain.

[Anonymous]

You need therapy, individual and couples.

Get over to www.survivinginfidelity.com immediately for real advice. He is the one who threw the relationship off track, even he now claims it wasn't physical (i.e.: it almost certainly was). He is utterly and completely responsible for helping you heal. His attitude right now is unacceptable. You need real support from people who've been there, especially since you have hope of reconciling.

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t end well, OP. Your DH has no grounds to be put off my your shock and grief. F him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I am back home. The 4 days at the hotel made me realize I miss him so much. He missed me too.
We decided to have a fresh start and to move forward. He told me that it was a silly stupid mistake that he made and it didn’t mean anything. He never met up with her or touched her. He is ashamed and it won’t happen again. He deleted her contact information.

He has been attentive and nice and kind. However I am having a hard time moving past. Every time he works late or is on his phone, I get a panic attack and ask him what is going on. He gets mad and says this has to stop and I need to get over it. He says he is miserable and hates being accused of having an affair because of one stupid mistake he made.

I feel that he still owes me some room to ask questions and get reassurance as I work through this. Im very hurt that he is shutting me off from grieving or expressing my pain.

Ok now you’re definitely a troll.

[Anonymous]

DH has been acting shady again. I caught him sitting in our foyer changing his iPhone passcode again. He already lost most of his data due to changing passcode and forgetting it earlier last week. He also continues to come home from work late and is unreliable. Yesterday I asked him what was up. He blew up at me yelled divorce again and ran out with a bottle of wine and a glass. He sat in the car drinking and texting someone. I went Outside and tried to get him to come inside to have dinner with me. He said we should just call it as we are incompatible. I went back inside and returned at 2 am to find him still in the car drunk and talking and laughing with someone. I confronted him. He said he is talking to his mom. I called him on his b.s. He screams that he hates me and wants a divorce. I ask him to come inside and have some food. He says he can’t do this any more and starts driving away and off into the night, drunk. I go back inside. He comes home at 3 am and crashes in the living room drunk.

This afternoon he is texting me saying sorry and that he loves me. What the f***? I can’t think straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I am back home. The 4 days at the hotel made me realize I miss him so much. He missed me too.
We decided to have a fresh start and to move forward. He told me that it was a silly stupid mistake that he made and it didn’t mean anything. He never met up with her or touched her. He is ashamed and it won’t happen again. He deleted her contact information.

He has been attentive and nice and kind. However I am having a hard time moving past. Every time he works late or is on his phone, I get a panic attack and ask him what is going on. He gets mad and says this has to stop and I need to get over it. He says he is miserable and hates being accused of having an affair because of one stupid mistake he made.

I feel that he still owes me some room to ask questions and get reassurance as I work through this. Im very hurt that he is shutting me off from grieving or expressing my pain.

You had all of August to get over this...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has been acting shady again. I caught him sitting in our foyer changing his iPhone passcode again. He already lost most of his data due to changing passcode and forgetting it earlier last week. He also continues to come home from work late and is unreliable. Yesterday I asked him what was up. He blew up at me yelled divorce again and ran out with a bottle of wine and a glass. He sat in the car drinking and texting someone. I went Outside and tried to get him to come inside to have dinner with me. He said we should just call it as we are incompatible. I went back inside and returned at 2 am to find him still in the car drunk and talking and laughing with someone. I confronted him. He said he is talking to his mom. I called him on his b.s. He screams that he hates me and wants a divorce. I ask him to come inside and have some food. He says he can’t do this any more and starts driving away and off into the night, drunk. I go back inside. He comes home at 3 am and crashes in the living room drunk.

This afternoon he is texting me saying sorry and that he loves me. What the f***? I can’t think straight.

How trolly can you get?

[Anonymous]

He’s a cheater and you are being a fool. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

At least 5/7 trolls.

[Anonymous]

This is all fake.

By this point she would have followed him or found out from the phone bill who he's calling. Or a VAR in his car. Not buying it.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is having an affair. He did not discontinue it and it was a lot more than he admitted to. His behavior will continue to be erratic. It also sounds like he has a drinking problem. Consider seriously whether you want to stay in this marriage as it is unlikely that he will get less erratic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has been acting shady again. I caught him sitting in our foyer changing his iPhone passcode again. He already lost most of his data due to changing passcode and forgetting it earlier last week. He also continues to come home from work late and is unreliable. Yesterday I asked him what was up. He blew up at me yelled divorce again and ran out with a bottle of wine and a glass. He sat in the car drinking and texting someone. I went Outside and tried to get him to come inside to have dinner with me. He said we should just call it as we are incompatible. I went back inside and returned at 2 am to find him still in the car drunk and talking and laughing with someone. I confronted him. He said he is talking to his mom. I called him on his b.s. He screams that he hates me and wants a divorce. I ask him to come inside and have some food. He says he can’t do this any more and starts driving away and off into the night, drunk. I go back inside. He comes home at 3 am and crashes in the living room drunk.

This afternoon he is texting me saying sorry and that he loves me. What the f***? I can’t think straight.

You should ask him to leave. He is having an affair. It is incredibly obvious; everything he says and does is straight out of the cheater’s handbook. He is remorseless. This won’t get better.