Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

And the women who sent these photos, presumably privately to an intimate partner? Violating their privacy is okay? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

And the women who sent these photos, presumably privately to an intimate partner? Violating their privacy is okay? Gross.

Ladies, take note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

[Anonymous]

Send the pics to yourself so you have evidence before he deletes them. Don’t confront until you have more evidence, because if he’s cheating he will lie and minimize to protect himself. Check your cell phone records. Are there a lot of calls and texts to one number? Can you access his email? Does his phone have a password? Does he keep it with him all the time? Any messaging apps like WhatsApp or Kik? Is he deleting any text threads? You can find a lot of information about what to look for on talkaboutmarriage, chumplady or survivinginfidelity. Maybe he’s not cheating, but the pictures could mean otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

+1 (another, different man here)

[Anonymous]

OP I won't play unless you embellish with more details.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send the pics to yourself so you have evidence before he deletes them. Don’t confront until you have more evidence, because if he’s cheating he will lie and minimize to protect himself. Check your cell phone records. Are there a lot of calls and texts to one number? Can you access his email? Does his phone have a password? Does he keep it with him all the time? Any messaging apps like WhatsApp or Kik? Is he deleting any text threads? You can find a lot of information about what to look for on talkaboutmarriage, chumplady or survivinginfidelity. Maybe he’s not cheating, but the pictures could mean otherwise.

Definitely this because he will surely deny it.

As a man, I can say the idea that men trade naked pictures of women is ridiculous. I have never once done that with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

Sorry, should have added ... the person who probably sent it is the woman in the photo, and they are doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

My DH has a friend who sends naked pics of his various girlfriends to him he shows me, and yes, they are hot. Ask your DH, but yeah, it’s not looking good. Do he and the boss travel a lot together?

[Anonymous]

I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

The term for that is "gaslighting."

Did you take screen shots or forward the photos to yourself?

Until your DH takes ownership of this, you can't have a conversation about it.

Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures.

Did you save the evidence in any way? He’s def sleeping w her if he’s not even trying to explain this away.

[Anonymous]

If you’re a man and you think it’s okay to look at naked pictures of your buddy’s girlfriend without her permission, you need to have a think about this.


It’s okay to evolve on this! We’re all catching up to the technology imo.



Evolving on it is not fun at all. No one was “hurt” before and now you have to act like a prig.



But it’s just clearly the right thing to do if you give the woman even close to the respect that any human being in your orbit should be afforded. There’s no way around it. It’s absolutely the right thing to do and looking at them is absolutely wrong. Your buddy is a creep. Don’t be a creep.