Wife wants another child; I do not

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

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Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

Because you apparently see no value in yourself or anyone else besides the ability to pump a baby out of your twat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then the marriage is over and she will find another man who will be a father to your son and to their second child.

Signed
Mom of two

Or she won’t be able to have a second child anyway and will have blown up what could’ve been a perfectly nice family for nothing, for a stupid pipe dream.

[Anonymous]

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If my husband had been strongly opposed to a second child we would have stopped at one. Dh would have simply had a vasectomy and we would have raised and loved our one child.

Thankfully we did have a second baby. We both agreed that 2 was enough and I got my tubes tied.

Signed,
Another Mom of two who loves her husband

So easy to say when you actually had the second child, isn't it? What you would have done isn't relevant to this situation because you weren't faced with the actual decision.

[Anonymous]

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I will not remarry. I won't be able to find anyone better than this woman

And yet she's not worth enough to you to go ahead and really try for a second child. From her perspective, you're not worth enough to her for her to not at least make a serious try at a second child. Your priorities are no longer compatible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

Because you apparently see no value in yourself or anyone else besides the ability to pump a baby out of your twat.

That's just you projecting. I didn't say people have no value without pumping out children. I said that to me, there is no reason to marry without children. And that children are more important than a man - obviously in the context of the marital relationship, and all other kinds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Then the marriage is over and she will find another man who will be a father to your son and to their second child.

Signed
Mom of two

Or she won’t be able to have a second child anyway and will have blown up what could’ve been a perfectly nice family for nothing, for a stupid pipe dream.

If she's ready to blow it up, it must not be perfectly nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

Because you apparently see no value in yourself or anyone else besides the ability to pump a baby out of your twat.

That's just you projecting. I didn't say people have no value without pumping out children. I said that to me, there is no reason to marry without children. And that children are more important than a man - obviously in the context of the marital relationship, and all other kinds.

I’m sorry you have a crappy marriage and your husband doesn’t love you lololol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Then the marriage is over and she will find another man who will be a father to your son and to their second child.

Signed
Mom of two

If my husband had been strongly opposed to a second child we would have stopped at one. Dh would have simply had a vasectomy and we would have raised and loved our one child.

Thankfully we did have a second baby. We both agreed that 2 was enough and I got my tubes tied.

Signed,
Another Mom of two who loves her husband

Did your husband say he wanted a big family? OP did. I love my husband, too, and he is a man of his word. OP isn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

This is ridiculous. I’m childfree by choice and very happily married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

Because you apparently see no value in yourself or anyone else besides the ability to pump a baby out of your twat.

That's just you projecting. I didn't say people have no value without pumping out children. I said that to me, there is no reason to marry without children. And that children are more important than a man - obviously in the context of the marital relationship, and all other kinds.

No, you said “without children there is no reason to marry at all.” That’s a blanket statement. You didn’t preface or end it with “to me”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

She knows how I feel. I said I'll do to the doctor but she knows I don't want to. She got angry and that's why we're here. I told her I know I hurt her but I just can't do this. I love her but I can't.

If my dh did to me what you’ve done, I’d haul your ass to that clinic so fast. You would be forced to make good on your so called offer. She needs to channel her anger into determination and take some pre-natal vitamins stat.

OK but I just changed my mind to the final decision so now I refuse to even try.

You’re really indecisive, OP. Now changed your mind about that after you told her you agreed? Not the best troll either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP just have another. [i]You are also destroying your family. If you have enough money and time and said you will love the baby, just do it. Maybe put a limit on it (we will try for 6 months,1 year).
I was in a similar situation (minus fertility issues) and convinced/pushed my DH to have a second. This second became the most amazing litttle girl and my DH is totally in love with her (maybe because she looks so much like me ).

I am now pregnant with baby #3.... DH’s idea...

It's not that easy. It's too much work and I don't want to do the work of having a newborn baby that will wake up thru the night. Plus, I'm now 37 and too old for that.

.....and probably cheating. I hope she leaves your selfish butt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

Because you apparently see no value in yourself or anyone else besides the ability to pump a baby out of your twat.

That's just you projecting. I didn't say people have no value without pumping out children. I said that to me, there is no reason to marry without children. And that children are more important than a man - obviously in the context of the marital relationship, and all other kinds.

No, you said “without children there is no reason to marry at all.” That’s a blanket statement. You didn’t preface or end it with “to me”.

Dude, it's a discussion board. Anything people write is their opinion, it goes without saying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP you screwed big time here. whether you want another baby is now irrelevant - you need to have another baby, or, rather, do anything your wife wants you to do to try to have another baby. this is the only way you can repair your marriage. you need to make things up to your wife, and this is the only way you can do it.

I just can't do it. I can't be on board to have another one. Wife seems done after I just told her this again tonight. So I'm going to lose my family over this.

Good....your wife and son can’t trust you.

[Anonymous]

OP, why don't you want another baby?