Wife wants another child; I do not

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

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Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

I feel bad for the dumb schmuck of a husband for not having the smarts to get out of that marriage while the getting was good.

Consider the possibility that he's getting benefits out of this marriage that you are overlooking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

I feel bad for the dumb schmuck of a husband for not having the smarts to get out of that marriage while the getting was good.

Consider the possibility that he's getting benefits out of this marriage that you are overlooking.

He was basically bullied into having 2 additional children that he didn't want to have. That's pretty bad.

Hopefully he is a good parent to them. Because if he is checked out that is really sad.

[Anonymous]

Your wife will leave you, OP. You need to accept it and prepare for a new life without her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

I feel bad for the dumb schmuck of a husband for not having the smarts to get out of that marriage while the getting was good.

Consider the possibility that he's getting benefits out of this marriage that you are overlooking.

He was basically bullied into having 2 additional children that he didn't want to have. That's pretty bad.

Hopefully he is a good parent to them. Because if he is checked out that is really sad.

He is the one who wanted the third, lol. It all worked out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

She knows how I feel. I said I'll do to the doctor but she knows I don't want to. She got angry and that's why we're here. I told her I know I hurt her but I just can't do this. I love her but I can't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

Supporting meant going thru with it. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

She knows how I feel. I said I'll do to the doctor but she knows I don't want to. She got angry and that's why we're here. I told her I know I hurt her but I just can't do this. I love her but I can't.

If my dh did to me what you’ve done, I’d haul your ass to that clinic so fast. You would be forced to make good on your so called offer. She needs to channel her anger into determination and take some pre-natal vitamins stat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

She knows how I feel. I said I'll do to the doctor but she knows I don't want to. She got angry and that's why we're here. I told her I know I hurt her but I just can't do this. I love her but I can't.

If my dh did to me what you’ve done, I’d haul your ass to that clinic so fast. You would be forced to make good on your so called offer. She needs to channel her anger into determination and take some pre-natal vitamins stat.

OK but I just changed my mind to the final decision so now I refuse to even try.

[Anonymous]

Then the marriage is over and she will find another man who will be a father to your son and to their second child.

Signed
Mom of two

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your wife's shoes five years ago when DH began stalling on having our second. I told him I will divorce him over it. He reconsidered. We have three now.

Without children, there is no reason to marry at all.

You should know that children are more important than a man. Way more important. Denial of reproductive rights is worse than rape. Especially done to a woman, whose reproductive window is time limited.

+1

Totally disagree. Woman here. I feel sorry for people like you.

Why?

I feel bad for the dumb schmuck of a husband for not having the smarts to get out of that marriage while the getting was good.

Consider the possibility that he's getting benefits out of this marriage that you are overlooking.

He was basically bullied into having 2 additional children that he didn't want to have. That's pretty bad.

Hopefully he is a good parent to them. Because if he is checked out that is really sad.

He is the one who wanted the third, lol. It all worked out.

Well, good. I'll bet he didn't even threaten to divorce you unless you agreed to a third.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then the marriage is over and she will find another man who will be a father to your son and to their second child.

Signed
Mom of two

If my husband had been strongly opposed to a second child we would have stopped at one. Dh would have simply had a vasectomy and we would have raised and loved our one child.

Thankfully we did have a second baby. We both agreed that 2 was enough and I got my tubes tied.

Signed,
Another Mom of two who loves her husband

[Anonymous]

I did want a third so we had a meeting of the minds you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do have a right to change your mind, AND she has a right to her opinions and choices. Your decision is no more valid than hers. You also behaved badly by not being up front and communicating your needs and desires.

You have a right to not want more children but she also has a right to want more children. It sounds like she wants another child MORE than she wants to be with you. Do you not want another child enough that it's worth losing your wife over?

This rambling is annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told my wife she can go to the clinic and do this. I'm not going to stand and her way and she knows how I feel and that I really don't want anymore kids and she said that's not supportive. I told her I can't support her because it's not what I want. See? I said I'll go along with it but that's not enough.

Again— troll because he posted this twice.

But if this is true, what manipulative bullshit. Fine, I concede but this is all on your head. And I’ll never let you forget I don’t support you. Is she supposed to use donor sperm? Are you going to never take any parenting duties? What else does “not supporting” mean? What the duck.

Go. To. Therapy.

She knows how I feel. I said I'll do to the doctor but she knows I don't want to. She got angry and that's why we're here. I told her I know I hurt her but I just can't do this. I love her but I can't.

Did you ever explain here WHY you don't want a second child so vehemently?

[Anonymous]

I am a parent.

Be honest with her. Hate to see kids being born into complicated situations.