Vent about my wedding last weekend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

You so remind me of an episode of Family Guy that I watched last night. Peter beats up a 13 yo kid who is a bully because he is traumatized for being bullied when he was a kid.
Did someone mess up your wedding? Does it make you think that nobody else should have a happy party? Why are you so mean?

[Anonymous]

OP, was that the Latina-you on that last rant?

[Anonymous]

I wrote in OP's defense but she and I are not voices in the same head. She is Ibero but I am African American. If the "friends" disliked OP so much they probably should have declined to attend her wedding.

[Anonymous]

I certainly didn't have a perfect wedding, but I didn't lose my mind over it. I decided that morning that, come what may, I was going to have a great day. The florist messed up my flowers a couple ways and a few other little things went wrong. But I smiled, shrugged, and said oh well. It was my wedding day and I could choose to remember it as happy and fun and wonderful... or I could choose to flip out over fondant and chairs and missing bouquets. OP chose the latter and that's sad for her.

I have no idea whatever happened to my bouquet. But we still talk about what a great day it was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

You so remind me of an episode of Family Guy that I watched last night. Peter beats up a 13 yo kid who is a bully because he is traumatized for being bullied when he was a kid.
Did someone mess up your wedding? Does it make you think that nobody else should have a happy party? Why are you so mean?

Sure. Because life is just like an episode of Family Guy. No, no one messed up my wedding. No one could have, because I was far more concerned with my soon-to-be husband and the start of our life together, and less with little things like flowers and decorations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

Oh shut up! OP only said the cake was wrong, the flower folks didn't deliver some thing and the picture man humiliated her. I do believe her when she says she didn't bother people with her concerns. You're a classic example of how things on DCUM escalate out of proportion as the thread gets longer!

You old and experienced women should be ashamed of your behavior here! We all got married and we all know how stressful and emotionally overwhelming it is. The poor girl didn't even bring her family! We all had the little details we were picky about in our own weddings and we all had our chance to be a Bridezilla too.
OP said so many times she's only venting because this is online and anonymous. Give her some peace already!

OP my heart goes out to you and I hope you get your flowers back!

old and experienced = nice and elegant - FO SHO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

You so remind me of an episode of Family Guy that I watched last night. Peter beats up a 13 yo kid who is a bully because he is traumatized for being bullied when he was a kid.
Did someone mess up your wedding? Does it make you think that nobody else should have a happy party? Why are you so mean?

Sure. Because life is just like an episode of Family Guy. No, no one messed up my wedding. No one could have, because I was far more concerned with my soon-to-be husband and the start of our life together, and less with little things like flowers and decorations.

Of course! You were too busy looking ahead, imagining sitting around the pool with your family -- no, sorry, my bad. I'm sure you were imagining being IN the pool, ENGAGING with your children and pitying the women sitting far, far off on their deck chairs gazing at their toes.

[Anonymous]

My sister aimed her bouquet right at me, over her shoulder and blindfolded, and my "best friend" just about tackled everyone on the dance floor, including me, to grab it before it reached my outstretched hands. I hate her guts.

OP, I get you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

You old and experienced women should be ashamed of your behavior here! We all got married and we all know how stressful and emotionally overwhelming it is. The poor girl didn't even bring her family! We all had the little details we were picky about in our own weddings and we all had our chance to be a Bridezilla too.

No, we "all" did not. I wasn't stressed out and emotionally overwhelmed. I was much more concerned with the aspects of a marriage rather than the details of planning a wedding. I didn't have a single family member at my wedding. This didn't bother me at all. I didn't hire a photographer and my friend make a cake. It was simple and perfect. Having a wedding is what you make of it. My friends mom asked me for my bouquet and I didn't twice about giving it to her. I didn't give a crap about those flowers. But I can see how if OP was that emotionally invested in some flowers it would be upsetting to her if they came up missing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like we could have a little sympathy for OP. It's not like she is a pampered daddy's girl having a 100K gala at the Ritz. She did not even get the dress she wanted and then to have a "friend" take her bouquet. That's just wrong. I think her "friends" were angry about the taped-on names and felt it was snobby of her to be unwilling to ruin her dress. I suspect they are generally jealous of her accomplishments (new home, respectable job, good man).

I would also be willing to bet $500 that OP is an extremely attractive woman. What else could make women behave in such a catty fashion? I don't buy the theory that everyone thought the instruction to take home leftovers included the bridal bouquet. Other women know its significance very well.

Oh, I'd have been itching to take it. Because by OP's own admission, she was a Bridezilla, and I'm going to add "high maintenance and difficult" to the list as well. Simply based on her behavior here, she comes across as high strung and needy. It would just be too much fun to drive her batty with something like the bouquet. Mean? Sure. But considering what I'm willing to wager she's put her friends through over the years... You really think this is the first time she's ever mentioned the cake and the endless litany of minor complaints she listed for us here? Oh yeah, it would have very, very tempting.

You old and experienced women should be ashamed of your behavior here! We all got married and we all know how stressful and emotionally overwhelming it is. The poor girl didn't even bring her family! We all had the little details we were picky about in our own weddings and we all had our chance to be a Bridezilla too.

No, we "all" did not. I wasn't stressed out and emotionally overwhelmed. I was much more concerned with the aspects of a marriage rather than the details of planning a wedding. I didn't have a single family member at my wedding. This didn't bother me at all. I didn't hire a photographer and my friend make a cake. It was simple and perfect. Having a wedding is what you make of it. My friends mom asked me for my bouquet and I didn't twice about giving it to her. I didn't give a crap about those flowers. But I can see how if OP was that emotionally invested in some flowers it would be upsetting to her if they came up missing.

Relax. This thread is a bit of a lighthearted joke, no?

[Anonymous]

This is the ugliest thread that I have ever read on DCUM, and not because of OP but because of the majority of the responders here. I rarely post anything, but just read for my entertainment, but this time I have to voice my disgust over the way people have been attacking the OP in this thread. It is clear that OP writes in a very emotional style and that English is not her native language. Why do you keep twisting her words? Are you really not able to get past her emotional style to get the sense of what she is saying? She has in fact repeatedly said that she can see that in time this will be a thing to laugh over, but it is surely understandable that she feels now a bit disappointed because of the vendors' mistakes and because she did not get to keep her flowers as she had planned. I am quite certain that if another post would have been written with the same facts but different style, the responses would have been very different.

OP, best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry your day didn't go as you'd planned. Think of it as a primer for parenthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the ugliest thread that I have ever read on DCUM, and not because of OP but because of the majority of the responders here. I rarely post anything, but just read for my entertainment, but this time I have to voice my disgust over the way people have been attacking the OP in this thread. It is clear that OP writes in a very emotional style and that English is not her native language. Why do you keep twisting her words? Are you really not able to get past her emotional style to get the sense of what she is saying? She has in fact repeatedly said that she can see that in time this will be a thing to laugh over, but it is surely understandable that she feels now a bit disappointed because of the vendors' mistakes and because she did not get to keep her flowers as she had planned. I am quite certain that if another post would have been written with the same facts but different style, the responses would have been very different.

OP, best of luck to you.

WTF???

[Anonymous]

OP here... I'll go back and read from when I left. BRB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... I'll go back and read from when I left. BRB

Wait for it.....