Vent about my wedding last weekend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, wedding vendors too often fail to come through. They must not be anticipating repeat business. Guests can also be insensitive.

Sorry about your negative experience.

Thanks for the support...
I even made sure to mention to all the ladies they were welcome to take the centerpieces, the decor for the buffet and candy bar... where I come from doing it is doing a favor to the bride and groom - so we don't have to clean up and I also asked them to pack stuff to take home - food, cake, candy... we had boxes and bags all set up - it's common in both our cultures to do so. They were all happy and surprised that they could actually do it... I got lots of emails thanking me for it so they didn't have to cook dinner that night

[Anonymous]

Think yourself as lucky to be able to indulge in such frustrations.

When you are in premature labour for 2 days without pain medication, your MD, PhD husband is as white as a sheet, and the nurse announces your baby is probably going to die, you will remember your wedding as the most relaxing and joyful day of your life... if you have any thoughts left at all at that point. I am just thankful my baby lives, and couldn't care less about the botched details of my wedding.

[Anonymous]

Take a deep breath...Relax...and let it go...

Life is too short to waste mental energy on a bouquet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all should be honored to be the only ones to know about the frustrations I'm facing. And sure soon my mom and grandma (who I don't see in person since 2003) will soon know why they won't get to see my wedding flowers...

I don't know about you guys, but I definitely feel honored and special that queenzilla has shared her vent with me.

Why would you leave a box containing all your decorations to be brought for someone who has nothing to do with those decorations? Doesn't seem too smart.

OP again...
I don't know if you noticed... I addressed the nice and elegant women in this website. Clearly you're not one of us.
You can now resume to your activity or crawl back under your rock.
Thanks.

Actually, you said "you ALL should be honored."

You all the ladies addressed on the ORIGINAL POST.
Sorry for the lack of details. I'm stressed 8)

No, you're not making any sense at all. You said "You all should be honored to be the only ones to know about the frustrations I'm facing." So it doesn't make sense to claim you were only telling that to one person, or that you were referring to your original post. You are chastising DCUM readers in general for not feeling honored to hear your sob story, because we're trying to point out that your sob story ain't all that bad. It's YOUR fault you left the decorations in the care of someone who shouldn't have been responsible for them. The only thing I'm feeling you on is the flowers. But now that you've shown us your personality, I don't know that someone didn't do it just to piss you off.

And stop playing the martyr for not telling your husband about stuff that bugs you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mm..Why did you have to promise not to bug him? That is odd..I was so happy to be married I could have cared less about all the little details. Move on..

OP here... Just to kill your curiosity here I go: where he comes from small weddings have 300 guests. He participated on the marriage of his brother and his sister and he knows what it takes to make a wedding happen. When we started talking about marriage he begged me to make it happen without bothering him. He wanted a very small ceremony - no more than 100 people and right now - we just bought a car, a home and we're both finishing school/working full time - wedding planning is the last thing he wanted to think about.
I promised and I made it happen. He'll never know I "lost" my bouquet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, wedding vendors too often fail to come through. They must not be anticipating repeat business. Guests can also be insensitive.

Sorry about your negative experience.

Thanks for the support...
I even made sure to mention to all the ladies they were welcome to take the centerpieces, the decor for the buffet and candy bar... where I come from doing it is doing a favor to the bride and groom - so we don't have to clean up and I also asked them to pack stuff to take home - food, cake, candy... we had boxes and bags all set up - it's common in both our cultures to do so. They were all happy and surprised that they could actually do it... I got lots of emails thanking me for it so they didn't have to cook dinner that night

You sure do enjoy pointing out to everyone how generous you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all should be honored to be the only ones to know about the frustrations I'm facing. And sure soon my mom and grandma (who I don't see in person since 2003) will soon know why they won't get to see my wedding flowers...

I don't know about you guys, but I definitely feel honored and special that queenzilla has shared her vent with me.

Why would you leave a box containing all your decorations to be brought for someone who has nothing to do with those decorations? Doesn't seem too smart.

OP again...
I don't know if you noticed... I addressed the nice and elegant women in this website. Clearly you're not one of us.
You can now resume to your activity or crawl back under your rock.
Thanks.

Actually, you said "you ALL should be honored."

You all the ladies addressed on the ORIGINAL POST.
Sorry for the lack of details. I'm stressed 8)

No, you're not making any sense at all. You said "You all should be honored to be the only ones to know about the frustrations I'm facing." So it doesn't make sense to claim you were only telling that to one person, or that you were referring to your original post. You are chastising DCUM readers in general for not feeling honored to hear your sob story, because we're trying to point out that your sob story ain't all that bad. It's YOUR fault you left the decorations in the care of someone who shouldn't have been responsible for them. The only thing I'm feeling you on is the flowers. But now that you've shown us your personality, I don't know that someone didn't do it just to piss you off.

And stop playing the martyr for not telling your husband about stuff that bugs you.

my apologies...
I'm really sorry I obligated you to enter my thread and post here.
You're excused now...

I agree those are minor issues but what hurts me is the flowers. I made sure to make a bouquet using my mom's favorite flowers and tried to mimic her bouquet from 30+ years ago.
Anyway... Life goes on
Thanks for the support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, wedding vendors too often fail to come through. They must not be anticipating repeat business. Guests can also be insensitive.

Sorry about your negative experience.

Thanks for the support...
I even made sure to mention to all the ladies they were welcome to take the centerpieces, the decor for the buffet and candy bar... where I come from doing it is doing a favor to the bride and groom - so we don't have to clean up and I also asked them to pack stuff to take home - food, cake, candy... we had boxes and bags all set up - it's common in both our cultures to do so. They were all happy and surprised that they could actually do it... I got lots of emails thanking me for it so they didn't have to cook dinner that night

You sure do enjoy pointing out to everyone how generous you are.

It's not about being generous.. what will 2 people do with 6 centerpieces and 4 topiary (sp?), tons of food, candy and cake in a 1 bedroom apt?
DH (feels good typing it for the first time ) is back to work today and me too.. we would hate to waste it all... and all the women on my side of the party were expecting the red light to take the stuff - that's what we do back home, bride says take it women TAKE IT!!

There's nothing to do with generosity... It's about convenience and tradition

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mm..Why did you have to promise not to bug him? That is odd..I was so happy to be married I could have cared less about all the little details. Move on..

I felt the same way. My wedding day was awesome. I honestly didn't care about all those little details I spent so much time obsessing over - I was getting married - and all my friends and family were there to celebrate with me! Now, I admit I would have been upset if something had happened to my beautiful dress, but otherwise - awesome day!

[Anonymous]

Have you thought about vented on the Knot?? It is geared towards weddings???

9:45, I am the poster you quoted, so glad someone else felt as great as I did!!

[Anonymous]

OP - I get the vent. But:
1) it's time to let it go.
2) You are one hostile lady whose tone toward other posters make me have no sympathy for you.

Later.

[Anonymous]

I'm just curious...how much did this extravaganza cost? I'm betting $100,000 - $300,000.

It all sounds so absurd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sadly, wedding vendors too often fail to come through. They must not be anticipating repeat business. Guests can also be insensitive.

Sorry about your negative experience.

Thanks for the support...
I even made sure to mention to all the ladies they were welcome to take the centerpieces, the decor for the buffet and candy bar... where I come from doing it is doing a favor to the bride and groom - so we don't have to clean up and I also asked them to pack stuff to take home - food, cake, candy... we had boxes and bags all set up - it's common in both our cultures to do so. They were all happy and surprised that they could actually do it... I got lots of emails thanking me for it so they didn't have to cook dinner that night

You sure do enjoy pointing out to everyone how generous you are.

It's not about being generous.. what will 2 people do with 6 centerpieces and 4 topiary (sp?), tons of food, candy and cake in a 1 bedroom apt?
DH (feels good typing it for the first time ) is back to work today and me too.. we would hate to waste it all... and all the women on my side of the party were expecting the red light to take the stuff - that's what we do back home, bride says take it women TAKE IT!!

There's nothing to do with generosity... It's about convenience and tradition

No, it's about bragging about how generous you are. That's my point. It's like you're seeking congratulations on how wonderful it was of you to give stuff away. Everybody does that at weddings. Nothing to toot your horn about.

[Anonymous]

When did DCUM turn into The Knot?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mm..Why did you have to promise not to bug him? That is odd..I was so happy to be married I could have cared less about all the little details. Move on..

OP here... Just to kill your curiosity here I go: where he comes from small weddings have 300 guests. He participated on the marriage of his brother and his sister and he knows what it takes to make a wedding happen. When we started talking about marriage he begged me to make it happen without bothering him. He wanted a very small ceremony - no more than 100 people and right now - we just bought a car, a home and we're both finishing school/working full time - wedding planning is the last thing he wanted to think about.
I promised and I made it happen. He'll never know I "lost" my bouquet.

He really, really doesn't care. At all.