Is "making dinner" part of your SAHM job description?

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Anonymous wrote:I think DH is disappointed that I don't cook dinner as part of the SAH gig. I hate meal planning and cooking. DS is 12 mos. He eats simple, decinstructed meals. I eat whatever is around. Cheese and crackers for lunch if I want. I have no expectation that DH produce dinner for me. I didn't have that expectation when we were both working, either. I don't have a bunch of school-aged kids where we all need to sit around as a family. I really hate this expectation that I'm supposed to prepare food for a grown man now that my job is raising our child. I was thinking of cooking tonight-we have this bag of potatos on the counter. If it were just me, I'd have a baked potato and a Diet Coke. But since I'm cooking for a "family" I have to produce something more ambitious - a baked potato "bar" or whatever. No thanks. I'm want to cook what I want to eat and not cater to what DH likes. Today he came home and asked what I made-I told him "nothing", and he went to the grocery store after working all day, and I don't really care.

Wow. Just wow. You are useless. It's almost like abuse. Get a job if you are so useless. Humans need food and shelter. These are the two most basic needs. A potato or cheese doesn't cut it for feeding a family. Especially when you are HOME ALL FUCKING DAY LONG. I'm a lawyer mom and I have cooked my family a hot meal almost every day of my 6-year marriage. I'd say your days are numbered as far as DH is concerned. My WAM sister in law does nothing like you and the whole family talks about how horrible of a,mother and wife she is. Her husband secretly told everyone he wants a divorce asap.

Hey "lawyer-mom" you sound like an unhinged bitch.

You are just jealous that another woman can carry some weight in the family. I bet you are a liberal woman who wants women's equality and all that. Well, here you have a poster woman for that and you are bashing her. Moron.

I say kudos to the lawyer mom, I am sure her husband is a happy man and they have a better marriage than you do as a result.

Wait, did you just write "I bet you are a liberal woman who wants women's equality and all that"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think DH is disappointed that I don't cook dinner as part of the SAH gig. I hate meal planning and cooking. DS is 12 mos. He eats simple, decinstructed meals. I eat whatever is around. Cheese and crackers for lunch if I want. I have no expectation that DH produce dinner for me. I didn't have that expectation when we were both working, either. I don't have a bunch of school-aged kids where we all need to sit around as a family. I really hate this expectation that I'm supposed to prepare food for a grown man now that my job is raising our child. I was thinking of cooking tonight-we have this bag of potatos on the counter. If it were just me, I'd have a baked potato and a Diet Coke. But since I'm cooking for a "family" I have to produce something more ambitious - a baked potato "bar" or whatever. No thanks. I'm want to cook what I want to eat and not cater to what DH likes. Today he came home and asked what I made-I told him "nothing", and he went to the grocery store after working all day, and I don't really care.

Wow. Just wow. You are useless. It's almost like abuse. Get a job if you are so useless. Humans need food and shelter. These are the two most basic needs. A potato or cheese doesn't cut it for feeding a family. Especially when you are HOME ALL FUCKING DAY LONG. I'm a lawyer mom and I have cooked my family a hot meal almost every day of my 6-year marriage. I'd say your days are numbered as far as DH is concerned. My WAM sister in law does nothing like you and the whole family talks about how horrible of a,mother and wife she is. Her husband secretly told everyone he wants a divorce asap.

Hey "lawyer-mom" you sound like an unhinged bitch.

You are just jealous that another woman can carry some weight in the family. I bet you are a liberal woman who wants women's equality and all that. Well, here you have a poster woman for that and you are bashing her. Moron.

I say kudos to the lawyer mom, I am sure her husband is a happy man and they have a better marriage than you do as a result.

Why can't lawyer-mom's husband put some damn food on the table and give her a night off after six years. Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH makes more in an hour than I could make in a week. so, yes, he gets to not do some jobs in the home.

Wtf

Because he outsources it?

Sounds like she does more "jobs" at home just because he makes more money. Thats a bad dynamic.

No it isn't. She doesn't work, so she does more around the house.

But she didn't say that, she said that he makes so much more than she could, so he gets to not do some jobs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"What's your damage, Heather?" Yes, most stay at home moms cook dinner for the family. I don't say this to be rude, but if you ate healthier than a diet Coke and baked potato you might have more energy.

Why not eat your cheese and crackers for lunch but then make a balanced, nutritious meal for yourself and your husband so you can reconnect after being apart all day? It's really shitty that after being "on" at work all day he turned around and had to go to the grocery store.

Why is it shitty though? We are both working all day. We start our days at the same time, around 6 am. Except his job involves going to the office. My job involves the work of caring for the child (and prepping 4 meals a day for him btw). When we were both working at an office -a mere 11 months ago-there wasn't the expectation that I make meals 5x per week. We both just managed-went out, grabbed something on the way home, each of cooked when we felt like etc. but now that my "workplace" is in the house I am in charge of dinner every night...

I do keep the house spotless and do all the cleaning, just because I like a clean house, but in theory I think that should also be a shared responsibility.

I could see once our son starts spending a few hours a day in school or pre-k, but right now we are "working" the same hours (6pm is when baby goes down and when DS goes to sleep). So why isn't dinner a shared responsibility?

Your job also includes the homemaking = COOKING CLEANING GROCERY SHOPPING.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think DH is disappointed that I don't cook dinner as part of the SAH gig. I hate meal planning and cooking. DS is 12 mos. He eats simple, decinstructed meals. I eat whatever is around. Cheese and crackers for lunch if I want. I have no expectation that DH produce dinner for me. I didn't have that expectation when we were both working, either. I don't have a bunch of school-aged kids where we all need to sit around as a family. I really hate this expectation that I'm supposed to prepare food for a grown man now that my job is raising our child. I was thinking of cooking tonight-we have this bag of potatos on the counter. If it were just me, I'd have a baked potato and a Diet Coke. But since I'm cooking for a "family" I have to produce something more ambitious - a baked potato "bar" or whatever. No thanks. I'm want to cook what I want to eat and not cater to what DH likes. Today he came home and asked what I made-I told him "nothing", and he went to the grocery store after working all day, and I don't really care.

Wow. Just wow. You are useless. It's almost like abuse. Get a job if you are so useless. Humans need food and shelter. These are the two most basic needs. A potato or cheese doesn't cut it for feeding a family. Especially when you are HOME ALL FUCKING DAY LONG. I'm a lawyer mom and I have cooked my family a hot meal almost every day of my 6-year marriage. I'd say your days are numbered as far as DH is concerned. My WAM sister in law does nothing like you and the whole family talks about how horrible of a,mother and wife she is. Her husband secretly told everyone he wants a divorce asap.

Hey "lawyer-mom" you sound like an unhinged bitch.

You are just jealous that another woman can carry some weight in the family. I bet you are a liberal woman who wants women's equality and all that. Well, here you have a poster woman for that and you are bashing her. Moron.

I say kudos to the lawyer mom, I am sure her husband is a happy man and they have a better marriage than you do as a result.

Doubt anyone is jealous of lawyer mom's hysterical ranting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think DH is disappointed that I don't cook dinner as part of the SAH gig. I hate meal planning and cooking. DS is 12 mos. He eats simple, decinstructed meals. I eat whatever is around. Cheese and crackers for lunch if I want. I have no expectation that DH produce dinner for me. I didn't have that expectation when we were both working, either. I don't have a bunch of school-aged kids where we all need to sit around as a family. I really hate this expectation that I'm supposed to prepare food for a grown man now that my job is raising our child. I was thinking of cooking tonight-we have this bag of potatos on the counter. If it were just me, I'd have a baked potato and a Diet Coke. But since I'm cooking for a "family" I have to produce something more ambitious - a baked potato "bar" or whatever. No thanks. I'm want to cook what I want to eat and not cater to what DH likes. Today he came home and asked what I made-I told him "nothing", and he went to the grocery store after working all day, and I don't really care.

Wow. Just wow. You are useless. It's almost like abuse. Get a job if you are so useless. Humans need food and shelter. These are the two most basic needs. A potato or cheese doesn't cut it for feeding a family. Especially when you are HOME ALL FUCKING DAY LONG. I'm a lawyer mom and I have cooked my family a hot meal almost every day of my 6-year marriage. I'd say your days are numbered as far as DH is concerned. My WAM sister in law does nothing like you and the whole family talks about how horrible of a,mother and wife she is. Her husband secretly told everyone he wants a divorce asap.

Hey "lawyer-mom" you sound like an unhinged bitch.

You are just jealous that another woman can carry some weight in the family. I bet you are a liberal woman who wants women's equality and all that. Well, here you have a poster woman for that and you are bashing her. Moron.

I say kudos to the lawyer mom, I am sure her husband is a happy man and they have a better marriage than you do as a result.

Why can't lawyer-mom's husband put some damn food on the table and give her a night off after six years. Geez.

Here starts work at 6am and is home around 7:30 pm and works 6-7 days,a week, often 14-19 days without one off. It's impossible for him to be the cook forget about it.

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I don't understand how any mom could throw a bag of potatoes at their kid and call it a meal. Nutrition anyone?

Reading this thread reminds me of why DH and I both work full time. It puts up both on equal footing and we both do equal chores after work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"What's your damage, Heather?" Yes, most stay at home moms cook dinner for the family. I don't say this to be rude, but if you ate healthier than a diet Coke and baked potato you might have more energy.

Why not eat your cheese and crackers for lunch but then make a balanced, nutritious meal for yourself and your husband so you can reconnect after being apart all day? It's really shitty that after being "on" at work all day he turned around and had to go to the grocery store.

Why is it shitty though? We are both working all day. We start our days at the same time, around 6 am. Except his job involves going to the office. My job involves the work of caring for the child (and prepping 4 meals a day for him btw). When we were both working at an office -a mere 11 months ago-there wasn't the expectation that I make meals 5x per week. We both just managed-went out, grabbed something on the way home, each of cooked when we felt like etc. but now that my "workplace" is in the house I am in charge of dinner every night...

I do keep the house spotless and do all the cleaning, just because I like a clean house, but in theory I think that should also be a shared responsibility.

I could see once our son starts spending a few hours a day in school or pre-k, but right now we are "working" the same hours (6pm is when baby goes down and when DS goes to sleep). So why isn't dinner a shared responsibility?

Your job also includes the homemaking = COOKING CLEANING GROCERY SHOPPING.

I bet if you post it ONE MORE TIME someone might pay attention.

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Lawyer mom is a fake. No lawyer would write that crappily.

[Anonymous]

Op here, ok with the introduction of lawyer-mom and her husband who has an 80 hour work week and the dude who is mad because I want "women's equality and all that" the thread has officially offered me all it can. Thank you for all the great advice!!

[Anonymous]

Op here, ok with the introduction of lawyer-mom and her husband who has an 80 hour work week and the dude who is mad because I want "women's equality and all that" the thread has officially offered me all it can. Thank you for all the great advice!!

If OP spent less time on DCUM, perhaps she could manage to make more than a baked potato and a diet coke for her family.

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Op here, ok with the introduction of lawyer-mom and her husband who has an 80 hour work week and the dude who is mad because I want "women's equality and all that" the thread has officially offered me all it can. Thank you for all the great advice!!

If OP spent less time on DCUM, perhaps she could manage to make more than a baked potato and a diet coke for her family.

[Anonymous]

Again, cooking does not have to be super elaborate. Simple meals for baby, simple meals for you. But yeah, sending DH out to the store is pretty shitty. I would not be happy at all.

[Anonymous]

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Op here, ok with the introduction of lawyer-mom and her husband who has an 80 hour work week and the dude who is mad because I want "women's equality and all that" the thread has officially offered me all it can. Thank you for all the great advice!!

If OP spent less time on DCUM, perhaps she could manage to make more than a baked potato and a diet coke for her family.

There are 15 pages of responses, I think someone made that comment already on page 6? 7?