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I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.[/quote]

I completely agree. Jesus. A balding man is ... just a man with less hair (see specimen a, a man). I'm less a fan of the fat, but a little extra weight is HARD to shift at this age (please see specimen b and specimen c, the male and female representations of individuals in their 50s who have gained weight and are having trouble losing it).

Wrinkles? As a mid-50s white woman it really comes with the territory. I'm a normal weight (not small, not large, just average size 8). I wear sunscreen, I moisturize, blah blah blah, but crows feet are real. Laugh lines - mine are deeper every year. That little vertical line above the bridge of my nose is looking for a friend across the bridge. If you use your face - wrinkles. And that hideous little bit of saggy skin on my jawline. Let me say I'm not a fan. (please review specimen d, the one sitting here at my desk).

[b]But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.

You get what you get.[/b]

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Yeah, no.  In the real world (not fairy tales), most likely the stuck-up but popular cheerleader in high school continued to be popular, have a better life and age better relative to her peers.  Usually people who are hot while young will continue to be hotter relative to people of the same age as time goes on (since they're all aging).

I am not saying there aren't exceptions, and late bloomers, etc., but in general people who are conferred advantages while young (looks, popularity, athletic skill) continue to enjoy the benefits of those advantages over time.  Even late bloomers suffer a penalty for blooming late (eg. delayed marriage, delayed kids, delayed career)--they're not any more likely to live longer so it's just a deadweight loss.[/quote]

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