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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand the obsession with equality among siblings. To me it is clear that different age kids need and get different things.

We have 3 kids who are 13, 8 and 5. The younger two have similar size bedrooms but the older one’s is nicer. The oldest has a much larger attic bedroom, practically a whole floor to himself. Also, they have all moved bedrooms at least once, and may do it again as time changes. [/quote]

I’m guessing you are an oldest sibling.

I hope you make the oldest kid move his bedroom to the smallest bedroom when he goes to college so another sibling can take the better room[/quote]

No, I'm the youngest sibling who never really had her own room growing up.  My older sister did, though. She needed it more.  My kids all have their own rooms but they get what each of them needs at their individual age. Not some random idea of equality.

My middle daughter did ask once why her older brother got a larger, nicer room. We told her, "because he carries your suitcase on trips, needs more privacy than you, and has more homework than you."

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Bizzare answer.   He does not need more privacy. [/quote]

Agree.  "Caries your suitcase on trips" ??? WTF.  Some of the answers on this thread are downright weird.[/quote]

Nope.  If she were the oldest, she'd get the nicest biggest most private room.  She isn't, so she doesn't. [/quote]

No way.  Because boys are stronger than girls and carries her suitcase, he gets the bigger room?  My 14 year old son is undoubtedly stronger than my 16 year old daughter, and both of them would look at me like I’d lost my mind if I gave that reasoning.[/quote]

You know your children best.  My 13-year old son looks out and takes care of his 8-year old sister, and with seniority comes privilege in our family.

It's not really about the suitcase, it's more of a reflection of how older children have more responsibilities and therefore more rewards. It works for us. [/quote]

Maybe you should parent your youngest vs relying on the oldest. [/quote]

This works for us, thanks.[/quote]

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