Continually get asked if I’m my son’s grandmother

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Anonymous wrote:Having kids 15 years after you’re supposed to has consequences.

15 years after? She had a kid at 39 according to her OP. Lots of women have babies in their late 30s. Granted it’s usually a last baby when you already have older kids, or in a 2nd marriage, but still - look how many kids Michelle Duggar had age 35+ and even 40+.

I suspect OP does look older than her age in some ways, and that’s causing certain comments. But she’s not going to come back to this thread so it’s all just speculation at this point.

Lots of women use science to have babies in their late 30s and age 40 after their body and God says no. When you use science to do something unnatural, don't be surprised when you look, well, like an unnatural mother walking around with a toddler. You are rightfully assumed to be a grandmother because people have eyes.

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OP stop talking to people in diners, tbh

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Anonymous wrote:Having kids 15 years after you’re supposed to has consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Unless you’re Asian

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

You mean like Reese Witherspoon who looks gorgeous? Keep coping and projecting, sweetie.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

You mean like Reese Witherspoon who looks gorgeous? Keep coping and projecting, sweetie.

I can hear your sofa screaming uncle from here.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

Exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

You mean like Reese Witherspoon who looks gorgeous? Keep coping and projecting, sweetie.

Still an oops pregnancy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Unless you’re Asian

I married into a south Asian family and everyone looks their age. No one in their 40s would be mistaken for more than 5 years younger.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

No, it’s just that poor people both look older and also tend to have kids younger. Rich people who had kids young don’t age any worse than the old moms. This is evident in any DC area UMC enclave.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Unless you’re Asian

Or apparently unless you're Reese Witherspoon.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical.

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma. Since hen is it an insult? Just laugh and say nope he is my son?

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents.

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with.

You're wrong. There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22. A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.

That means there is a ton of teenagers having kids.. I’m completely OK with being wrong but cycle breaking is not a harmful thing. Many young parents can really rock it and pull everything together be successful. But that’s not going to ge the case for all.

The point is that a 43 y/o mother of a baby is going to look like a grandmother.

Eh, the earlier you start having kids, the faster you appear to age. Just imagine how much older she would look by 43 if she'd had kids at 18.

No, it’s just that poor people both look older and also tend to have kids younger. Rich people who had kids young don’t age any worse than the old moms. This is evident in any DC area UMC enclave.

Why yes. Just look at how well Bristol Palin has aged.