Continually get asked if I’m my son’s grandmother

[Anonymous]

I’m a teacher & have seen childless women in their 40s exhibit intense jealousy toward young coworkers (20s-early 30s) being pregnant. Very nasty & petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I too had 2 kids in my 40s with 2 previous abortions. No big deal. Better than people pumping out 4 kids.

OP -- just get a makeover and you'll be fine.

Makeovers don’t fix ugly

[Anonymous]

There’s nothing sadder than seeing washed-up hedonists. At least they are “professional” & “educated.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

I am exclusively pro choice and it is a single issue voting choice for me. Nevertheless, bragging about your number of abortions is unseemly.

+1

All of this so gross

+1. Treating abortions as if they are contraception is disgusting. I am pro-choice and I think people who have more than one are absolutely vile and should be banned from having children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Lol. Nope. But I did use natural family planning, charted the f out of my cycle to avoid pregnancy, and had my partner use condoms when it was close to my fertile window. I was unable to use bc. Conceived naturally as soon as we decided to try.

I had a child in my forties instead of sooner because I hadn’t found my person. We all have different timelines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?

Ma’am, I don’t know how to tell you this but you are in fact old enough to be a grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

This is really gross and off-putting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?

Ma’am, I don’t know how to tell you this but you are in fact old enough to be a grandmother.

Biologically. It’s not the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?

Ma’am, I don’t know how to tell you this but you are in fact old enough to be a grandmother.

Biologically. It’s not the norm.

Very biologically (and socially) normal in prior eras for youngest children. Socially what’s changed is now women are having their first children at those ages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?

Ma’am, I don’t know how to tell you this but you are in fact old enough to be a grandmother.

Biologically. It’s not the norm.

Very biologically (and socially) normal in prior eras for youngest children. Socially what’s changed is now women are having their first children at those ages.

Ok pioneer woman.

[Anonymous]

I'm now 51 and yes am asked all the time if I am "grandma." It definitely hurts. Apparently if we lived in Hollywood, we would be the cool kids -- everyone has kids older there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm now 51 and yes am asked all the time if I am "grandma." It definitely hurts. Apparently if we lived in Hollywood, we would be the cool kids -- everyone has kids older there!

Pretty sure if you’re asked if you are grandma all the time that you don’t look like a 50-something in Hollywood. If you look frumpy here, you’d look frumpy there, too, and age has little to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what age you have kids, somebody will have an opinion about it. The key is to not give a frock.

[Anonymous]

Hillary Swank just had twins at 48!

[Anonymous]

Having kids so late has consequences. Being the grandma-looking mom when they’re in primary school is one of them.