Continually get asked if I’m my son’s grandmother

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree fatter = looks older. Unhealthy generally = older, not younger.

62 is not old. Educated people often have children in their 40s, including me and pretty much all my friends.

What kind of “education” was this that compelled you to wait until you are almost 20 years out of college to have a child?

Yeah, that’s not it. I’m a lawyer and still managed to have kids at 28, 32, and 36.

Well there’s some person here who thinks the kids born after 30 are “unnatural” sooooo better just put those kids back where they came from I guess.

Children conceived in a lab with high-priced fertility doctors are in fact unnatural. And you know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree fatter = looks older. Unhealthy generally = older, not younger.

62 is not old. Educated people often have children in their 40s, including me and pretty much all my friends.

What kind of “education” was this that compelled you to wait until you are almost 20 years out of college to have a child?

Yeah, that’s not it. I’m a lawyer and still managed to have kids at 28, 32, and 36.

Well there’s some person here who thinks the kids born after 30 are “unnatural” sooooo better just put those kids back where they came from I guess.

Children conceived in a lab with high-priced fertility doctors are in fact unnatural. And you know that.

You’re fertile until you hit menopause! Lots of women in their late 30s get pregnant on their own all the time. It’s not for me personally but I know lots of people who have done it. I mean even look back at your own family tree and I’m sure there’s an ancestor back there who had multiple kids in her late 30s/early 40s.

Again - I’m sure OP has a bad haircut with frizzy gray hair and is wearing outdated/poorly fitting clothes. Dollars to donuts. She COULD look more her age and, at least in the DC area, no one would bat an eye at a well-kept woman in her early 40s with a preschool age child.

[Anonymous]

I had my first set of kids in my 20's, and a late in life suprise at 43. No lab involved. Same dad, for the nosies reading along!

Anyhow, I've only ever gotten mistaken for grandma twice. Once was at oldest dc's college graduation, his wife was holding then-infant dc. Other time was eating breakfast at a Waffle House with toddler dc and adult ds and dd. Both of these, I understood-I'd have assumed the younger folks as parents, too.

But I've never gotten mistaken with just dc and I (who is 8 now). And I enjoy doing all the running around things. We do fun stuff. Yes, I get tired, but it's a happy tired!

I dress pretty casual, as always. I'm a little overweight, but not a lot and am active. I do color over my gray hairs! Not gonna lie. And color my poor faded eyebrows LOL. I am in fact the oldest mom in my kid's class. The teacher went to school with my older kids! She knows I'm not Grandma haha.

BTW, I can't wait to actually BE a grandma!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree fatter = looks older. Unhealthy generally = older, not younger.

62 is not old. Educated people often have children in their 40s, including me and pretty much all my friends.

What kind of “education” was this that compelled you to wait until you are almost 20 years out of college to have a child?

Yeah, that’s not it. I’m a lawyer and still managed to have kids at 28, 32, and 36.

Well there’s some person here who thinks the kids born after 30 are “unnatural” sooooo better just put those kids back where they came from I guess.

Children conceived in a lab with high-priced fertility doctors are in fact unnatural. And you know that.

You’re fertile until you hit menopause! Lots of women in their late 30s get pregnant on their own all the time. It’s not for me personally but I know lots of people who have done it. I mean even look back at your own family tree and I’m sure there’s an ancestor back there who had multiple kids in her late 30s/early 40s.

Again - I’m sure OP has a bad haircut with frizzy gray hair and is wearing outdated/poorly fitting clothes. Dollars to donuts. She COULD look more her age and, at least in the DC area, no one would bat an eye at a well-kept woman in her early 40s with a preschool age child.

DC is quite literally the IVF capital of America.

[Anonymous]

Apple bottom wanna make ‘em bite? 🍎

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree fatter = looks older. Unhealthy generally = older, not younger.

62 is not old. Educated people often have children in their 40s, including me and pretty much all my friends.

What kind of “education” was this that compelled you to wait until you are almost 20 years out of college to have a child?

Yeah, that’s not it. I’m a lawyer and still managed to have kids at 28, 32, and 36.

Well there’s some person here who thinks the kids born after 30 are “unnatural” sooooo better just put those kids back where they came from I guess.

Children conceived in a lab with high-priced fertility doctors are in fact unnatural. And you know that.

You’re fertile until you hit menopause! Lots of women in their late 30s get pregnant on their own all the time. It’s not for me personally but I know lots of people who have done it. I mean even look back at your own family tree and I’m sure there’s an ancestor back there who had multiple kids in her late 30s/early 40s.

Again - I’m sure OP has a bad haircut with frizzy gray hair and is wearing outdated/poorly fitting clothes. Dollars to donuts. She COULD look more her age and, at least in the DC area, no one would bat an eye at a well-kept woman in her early 40s with a preschool age child.

DC is quite literally the IVF capital of America.

Ok, and? You’re turning this into a weird anti-IVF crusade for some reason instead of staying on the topic of the fact that if you’re getting mistaken for grandma in your early 40s, there’s a reason for that and I’m sure it’s fixable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

Shame on you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

Shame on you

Not PP, but you are an ugly person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This just happened. My son (3y) and I are at a diner eating breakfast. The guests in front of us left and as they were leaving, struck up conversation with my son. He said he had a great-niece and said I had to ensure I do everything for her (misgendering my son). He said it a couple of times so it wasn’t an error. I didn’t correct - it happens often because he has soft features and my son didn’t hear it. If he had, I would have said something for my son’s sake.

Anyway, then he asked my son if I was his grandma and said he has to listen to Grandma and no pouting or complaining. To be clear, my son was eating his food and no tantrums at all, stayed in his seat the whole time eating his food so that was just a general comment. It’s just frustrating and happens enough that it makes me wonder if other people think it but don’t say it.

I’m 42, turning 43 this year. I get that I got an older start but it’s demoralizing to be assumed to be my son’s grandmother. I usually don’t correct the person bc that’s more embarrassing and I just want the conversation to end. Am I alone in this? Does it ever end?

When you use medical science to have a baby when you're old enough to be a grandma, don't be surprised when people... naturally mistake you for a grandma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

I am exclusively pro choice and it is a single issue voting choice for me. Nevertheless, bragging about your number of abortions is unseemly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

I am exclusively pro choice and it is a single issue voting choice for me. Nevertheless, bragging about your number of abortions is unseemly.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see a 40+ year old with a baby, I assume she had multiple abortions along the way.

Nothing wrong with that!

--mom of 2, with 2 abortions prior to that

I am exclusively pro choice and it is a single issue voting choice for me. Nevertheless, bragging about your number of abortions is unseemly.

+1

All of this so gross

[Anonymous]

I too had 2 kids in my 40s with 2 previous abortions. No big deal. Better than people pumping out 4 kids.

OP -- just get a makeover and you'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I too had 2 kids in my 40s with 2 previous abortions. No big deal. Better than people pumping out 4 kids.

OP -- just get a makeover and you'll be fine.

We can tell.