Winter wedding guest dress - impress boyfriend and FU to ex

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Anonymous wrote:I gotta warn you — any dress you wear that’s blatantly “look what you missed out on” is going to look too inappropriate for a church wedding and too try-hard for the reception. And it’s going to completely contradict your intended purpose of showing XH that you don’t think about him any more.

Whatever you get, get it scrupulously tailored. If it’s at all tight or plunge-y or short, think twice. Or at least wear a jacket or shawl in the church.

Here's the answer from page one of the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I gotta warn you — any dress you wear that’s blatantly “look what you missed out on” is going to look too inappropriate for a church wedding and too try-hard for the reception. And it’s going to completely contradict your intended purpose of showing XH that you don’t think about him any more.

Whatever you get, get it scrupulously tailored. If it’s at all tight or plunge-y or short, think twice. Or at least wear a jacket or shawl in the church.

Here's the answer from page one of the thread.

True, no woman whatsoever will be wearing anything tight or showing anything below the chin!

[Anonymous]

Wow look, this thread is still going.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Spend a tad more and get this in blue.

https://www.thereformation.com/products/belden-dress/1318314CRM.html?skip_atc_confirmation=true&dwvar_1318314CRM_color=NVY&quantity=1

Beautiful and so classy.

This is gorg but for someone with more classic or dramatic features - aka for those who look good with slick hair.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

Holy cow I just remembered I made this and popped in to see if there were any responses. Was not expecting this 14 page rollercoaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Holy cow I just remembered I made this and popped in to see if there were any responses. Was not expecting this 14 page rollercoaster.

Well, did you like anything?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Holy cow I just remembered I made this and popped in to see if there were any responses. Was not expecting this 14 page rollercoaster.

Do tell . . . which look will you choose? Tawdry harlot? Morticia? Summer dress in winter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a big Dress the Population fan. These could work with a large bust but you'll need a shawl for church and a coat if cold.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-monroe-side-slit-gown/5532927?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=930

over budget:
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-cherilyn-floral-velvet-burnout-open-back-mermaid-gown/8129933?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=001

maybe too short for winter:
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-mary-lace-body-con-cocktail-dress/5532920?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=001

Very nice!

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Anonymous wrote:Stop with the Adrienne Papell dress! It's terrible for a 30-something!

It’s gorgeous and classy. Grow up.

DP. No that dress is sad looking. Like something Olive Oyl would wear.

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Same here, I come for the laughs

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

Np but I also think that dress is frumpy. I’m a poster who above said that all of the long poly and silk dresses without waists are terrible. They may be popular right now (and when I was a teen) but they are extremely unflattering on all but very tall extremely skinny. Otherwise, if you have boobs, hips or worst of all any sort of rounding stomach, this type of bias dress pulls on all the wrong places, creates pull lines across your body and looks terrible instead of playing them up. I’m not tall and quite skinny and I look like a dowdy frump in these dresses solely because my stomach is not dead flat.

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

Honestly that dress doesn't even look good on the model trying to sell it. It doesn't fit well on her, is a big ugly print. That said, now that I am fully awake and clicked the other colors, the solid colors aren't bad. So I amend my statement to say that the flower print versions are frumpy and sad looking. The other colors are fine.

[Anonymous]

What about this one
https://www.azazie.com/products/andorra-black-midi-dress-atelier-dress/29380741?sourceTag=others&color=black