Winter wedding guest dress - impress boyfriend and FU to ex

[Anonymous]

I haven’t had a chance to look for dresses for op, but man this forum is filled with a bunch of sad ass women.

Of course op should do it up and look awesome at this wedding. It has nothing to do with not moving on from her husband, but doesn’t mean she has forgotten he exists or that he cheated on her.

Most of these dresses are so dull and unflattering. Op is in her 30s. Many of the women under the age of 30 are going to be dressed in something that looks like a stripper could wear it, even if it is a church wedding. Op shouldn’t go that revealing, but she has a lot of wiggle room between the nun dress above and a stripper dress, and she should lean into it if it makes her feel good. Even the Adrienne p dress…. Serisouly you guys, you’d put a mid 30s woman in that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Revolve
https://www.revolve.com/katie-may-surreal-dress-in-deep-sea/dp/KATR-WD61/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=21&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=KATR-WD61

https://www.revolve.com/amanda-uprichard-magnolia-maxi-dress-in-sorrel-burnout/dp/AMAN-WD2207/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=22&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=AMAN-WD2207

https://www.revolve.com/elliatt-perri-dress-in-black/dp/ELLI-WD611/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=44&itrownum=11&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=ELLI-WD611

https://www.revolve.com/superdown-carminia-mini-dress-in-black/dp/SPDW-WD2445/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=79&itrownum=20&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=SPDW-WD2445

First only works if OP is petite. On a normal sized woman it will look a little cheap. Second is a bit too much and fourth is absolutely psychotic to suggest for a wedding.

I really like the third though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t had a chance to look for dresses for op, but man this forum is filled with a bunch of sad ass women.

Of course op should do it up and look awesome at this wedding. It has nothing to do with not moving on from her husband, but doesn’t mean she has forgotten he exists or that he cheated on her.

Most of these dresses are so dull and unflattering. Op is in her 30s. Many of the women under the age of 30 are going to be dressed in something that looks like a stripper could wear it, even if it is a church wedding. Op shouldn’t go that revealing, but she has a lot of wiggle room between the nun dress above and a stripper dress, and she should lean into it if it makes her feel good. Even the Adrienne p dress…. Serisouly you guys, you’d put a mid 30s woman in that?

I'm in my 30s and I think most people, even in their 20s, know not to dress like strippers for church weddings. At least in my social circle I've never seen anything THAT revealing at a wedding.

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-dark-red/dp/NBDR-WD3418/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=1&itrownum=1&itcurrpage=1&itview=05 - This would be perfectly appropriate and fit in at a wedding

https://www.revolve.com/sabina-musayev-tinka-dress-in-dark-brown/dp/SBNA-WD229/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=11&itrownum=3&itcurrpage=1&itview=05

https://www.revolve.com/bronx-and-banco-dahlia-maxi-dress-in-purple-multi/dp/BROR-WD844/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=95&itrownum=24&itcurrpage=1&itview=05

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Revolve
https://www.revolve.com/katie-may-surreal-dress-in-deep-sea/dp/KATR-WD61/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=21&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=KATR-WD61

https://www.revolve.com/amanda-uprichard-magnolia-maxi-dress-in-sorrel-burnout/dp/AMAN-WD2207/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=22&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=AMAN-WD2207

https://www.revolve.com/elliatt-perri-dress-in-black/dp/ELLI-WD611/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=44&itrownum=11&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=ELLI-WD611

https://www.revolve.com/superdown-carminia-mini-dress-in-black/dp/SPDW-WD2445/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=79&itrownum=20&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=SPDW-WD2445

The third one works. The other three are for events that aren't someone's wedding.

[Anonymous]

High school homecoming dresses look pretty bad these days.

All the weddings I've been to have had confused dress codes so the outfits run the gamut from Sunday church dress to practically an additional bridesmaid (floor length satin).

OP should just look her best, whatever that is. And make sure it's easy to dance in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wore this to a similar wedding this weekend and felt that I fit in nicely and got multiple compliments on how good it looked.

https://www.adriannapapell.com/products/one-shoulder-floral-embroidered-gown-in-raisin-ap1e212333?_gl=1*1nfi2tu*_up*MQ..*_gs*MQ..&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIjvjx6ajWkAMV3m1HAR0qqBKYEAAYASAAEgKbgfD_BwE&gbraid=0AAAAADj4Rg-GnakJFI0qCFJHa7R6TihnO

I found it on poshmark so I paid <$100 for it. I really like the designer, lots of good, relatively affordable options.

I'm going to go against the group here. This dress says "young and fit mother of the bride" to me. It's nice but not a look you should go for unless you are just that.

[Anonymous]

You're headed for making another ex, prioritizing your current ex over your current boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revolve
https://www.revolve.com/katie-may-surreal-dress-in-deep-sea/dp/KATR-WD61/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=21&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=KATR-WD61

https://www.revolve.com/amanda-uprichard-magnolia-maxi-dress-in-sorrel-burnout/dp/AMAN-WD2207/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=22&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=AMAN-WD2207

https://www.revolve.com/elliatt-perri-dress-in-black/dp/ELLI-WD611/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=44&itrownum=11&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=ELLI-WD611

https://www.revolve.com/superdown-carminia-mini-dress-in-black/dp/SPDW-WD2445/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=79&itrownum=20&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=SPDW-WD2445

First only works if OP is petite. On a normal sized woman it will look a little cheap. Second is a bit too much and fourth is absolutely psychotic to suggest for a wedding.

I really like the third though.

I agree on all counts except you have to see #3 on OP's size to see if it works.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get and appreciate where you are coming from. But three things to consider:

1) You’re jerkface ex-husband has already seen you naked. So like, no matter what, it’s nothing he hasn’t already had.

2) If you dress overtly sexy, you’re going to leave room for him and his date and his friends to make rude comments about you, that you’re a “sad old sl**” or “she’s trying to be a cougar” or on and on. Even if they secretly think you look hot, the commentary is going to be that you’re trying too hard. They will—RIGHTLY—criticize you for trying to seek attention on a day that should be about the bride and groom.

3) If you instead aim to look beautiful and classy, no one can say anything against you, and you’ll look above it all. Because you’ll be above it all.

[Anonymous]

If you want to make your ex jealous, dress your boyfriend up and hang on him.

Your ex already had you and went looking for better --and wasn't how she looked clothed that concerned him. You aren't going to psych him out with a dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get and appreciate where you are coming from. But three things to consider:

1) You’re jerkface ex-husband has already seen you naked. So like, no matter what, it’s nothing he hasn’t already had.

2) If you dress overtly sexy, you’re going to leave room for him and his date and his friends to make rude comments about you, that you’re a “sad old sl**” or “she’s trying to be a cougar” or on and on. Even if they secretly think you look hot, the commentary is going to be that you’re trying too hard. They will—RIGHTLY—criticize you for trying to seek attention on a day that should be about the bride and groom.

3) If you instead aim to look beautiful and classy, no one can say anything against you, and you’ll look above it all. Because you’ll be above it all.

4) and the OP can be above her boyfriend when she gets home afterwards.

[Anonymous]

I think we need to know dress code to be helpful. Many of the ones posted are black tie level formality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spend a tad more and get this in blue.

https://www.thereformation.com/products/belden-dress/1318314CRM.html?skip_atc_confirmation=true&dwvar_1318314CRM_color=NVY&quantity=1

She’ll look like a nun.

That would look sausage like on an hourglass. I have yet to see reformation look good on anyone over early 20s. Looks cheaper than it is, too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get and appreciate where you are coming from. But three things to consider:

1) You’re jerkface ex-husband has already seen you naked. So like, no matter what, it’s nothing he hasn’t already had.

2) If you dress overtly sexy, you’re going to leave room for him and his date and his friends to make rude comments about you, that you’re a “sad old sl**” or “she’s trying to be a cougar” or on and on. Even if they secretly think you look hot, the commentary is going to be that you’re trying too hard. They will—RIGHTLY—criticize you for trying to seek attention on a day that should be about the bride and groom.

3) If you instead aim to look beautiful and classy, no one can say anything against you, and you’ll look above it all. Because you’ll be above it all.

Except op literally never said she wanted to dress “slutty”. She just wants to look good, which means not wearing most of the potato sacks people are posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get and appreciate where you are coming from. But three things to consider:

1) You’re jerkface ex-husband has already seen you naked. So like, no matter what, it’s nothing he hasn’t already had.

2) If you dress overtly sexy, you’re going to leave room for him and his date and his friends to make rude comments about you, that you’re a “sad old sl**” or “she’s trying to be a cougar” or on and on. Even if they secretly think you look hot, the commentary is going to be that you’re trying too hard. They will—RIGHTLY—criticize you for trying to seek attention on a day that should be about the bride and groom.

3) If you instead aim to look beautiful and classy, no one can say anything against you, and you’ll look above it all. Because you’ll be above it all.

Except op literally never said she wanted to dress “slutty”. She just wants to look good, which means not wearing most of the potato sacks people are posting here.

ITA. People are acting like OP said she wants to wear a loincloth and give her new bf a blow job on the dance floor. When in reality all she said was she needs to look good. Like a revenge dress, as much as I hate that term.