Winter wedding guest dress - impress boyfriend and FU to ex

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

Np but I also think that dress is frumpy. I’m a poster who above said that all of the long poly and silk dresses without waists are terrible. They may be popular right now (and when I was a teen) but they are extremely unflattering on all but very tall extremely skinny. Otherwise, if you have boobs, hips or worst of all any sort of rounding stomach, this type of bias dress pulls on all the wrong places, creates pull lines across your body and looks terrible instead of playing them up. I’m not tall and quite skinny and I look like a dowdy frump in these dresses solely because my stomach is not dead flat.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

Honestly that dress doesn't even look good on the model trying to sell it. It doesn't fit well on her, is a big ugly print. That said, now that I am fully awake and clicked the other colors, the solid colors aren't bad. So I amend my statement to say that the flower print versions are frumpy and sad looking. The other colors are fine.

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What about this one
https://www.azazie.com/products/andorra-black-midi-dress-atelier-dress/29380741?sourceTag=others&color=black

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about this one
https://www.azazie.com/products/andorra-black-midi-dress-atelier-dress/29380741?sourceTag=others&color=black

how does one even find this random scam chinese company and bother posting it on here??

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a big Dress the Population fan. These could work with a large bust but you'll need a shawl for church and a coat if cold.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-monroe-side-slit-gown/5532927?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=930

over budget:
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-cherilyn-floral-velvet-burnout-open-back-mermaid-gown/8129933?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=001

maybe too short for winter:
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dress-the-population-mary-lace-body-con-cocktail-dress/5532920?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FDress%20the%20Population&color=001

Very nice!

I ageee that these are the best. I really like the black lace a lot. I had a similar one when I was young and thin with a plunging back and I always got appreciating looks from guys in it but it still looked classy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

DP. I am calling it frumpy.

Can you define frumpy? It is DCUM’s favorite word but I think you are using it differently

Honestly that dress doesn't even look good on the model trying to sell it. It doesn't fit well on her, is a big ugly print. That said, now that I am fully awake and clicked the other colors, the solid colors aren't bad. So I amend my statement to say that the flower print versions are frumpy and sad looking. The other colors are fine.

That dress is so weird because it looks very different in the different photos. I ageee that the floral looks frumpy in the photos — or maybe just too casual like what you’d wear to a garden party bridal shower. It’s okay but not great. The solids look better but not great on the model. I can’t tell if that’s because the model needs a bra or is just too flat chested for this style. I like the red or geeen best but think you would absolutely need to see how it fits — it might be great on someone with an hourglass figure but it’s hard to tell with these photos and these models. I can’t see someone curvy with their hair up and wearing great dangle earrings really knocking one of these out of the park. I feel like some clothing sites just have these blah models that make clothes actually look worse — we are back to the underfed oissy looking model trend.

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Anonymous wrote:Revolve
https://www.revolve.com/katie-may-surreal-dress-in-deep-sea/dp/KATR-WD61/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=21&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=KATR-WD61

https://www.revolve.com/amanda-uprichard-magnolia-maxi-dress-in-sorrel-burnout/dp/AMAN-WD2207/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=22&itrownum=6&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=AMAN-WD2207

https://www.revolve.com/elliatt-perri-dress-in-black/dp/ELLI-WD611/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=44&itrownum=11&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=ELLI-WD611

https://www.revolve.com/superdown-carminia-mini-dress-in-black/dp/SPDW-WD2445/?d=Womens&page=1&lc=79&itrownum=20&itcurrpage=1&itview=05&size=M&code=SPDW-WD2445

Maybe the third. The rest no way!

The third is horrible. The others are way cute!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t had a chance to look for dresses for op, but man this forum is filled with a bunch of sad ass women.

Of course op should do it up and look awesome at this wedding. It has nothing to do with not moving on from her husband, but doesn’t mean she has forgotten he exists or that he cheated on her.

Most of these dresses are so dull and unflattering. Op is in her 30s. Many of the women under the age of 30 are going to be dressed in something that looks like a stripper could wear it, even if it is a church wedding. Op shouldn’t go that revealing, but she has a lot of wiggle room between the nun dress above and a stripper dress, and she should lean into it if it makes her feel good. Even the Adrienne p dress…. Serisouly you guys, you’d put a mid 30s woman in that?

I'm with you PP. These folks are sad. I would kill it! Sexy dress, make up professionally done, nails done! All of it.

Dua Lupa's song - IDGAF!

My favorite lyric:

"You say you're sorry, but it's too late now
So save it, get gone, shut up
'Cause if you think I care about you now
Well, boy, I don't give a - "

[Anonymous]

Agree with Ted Baker rec

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with Ted Baker rec

Depends.

[Anonymous]

Women in DC are so sad. I go to a lot of events and people always comment about how I do not dress like I live here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about this one
https://www.azazie.com/products/andorra-black-midi-dress-atelier-dress/29380741?sourceTag=others&color=black

Nice dress if you’re looking to get laid after your date. The bride may not be as appreciative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about this one
https://www.azazie.com/products/andorra-black-midi-dress-atelier-dress/29380741?sourceTag=others&color=black

how does one even find this random scam chinese company and bother posting it on here??

This is why your clothes are hideous. This company is based in San Jose, Calif.