Why are dating apps filled with MC or LMC guys?

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.


married men?


Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")


Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.


If a woman is top 1% looks, yeah she can pull something decent off like that. If OP was Amal or Markle there is no way she would be on DCUM right now, she'd be too busy turning men down. We're talking about the other 99% of women.


IMO neither of them is stunningly beautiful. What they do have is ambition. Amal was a very successful attorney. Markle became an actress and was very careful to put herself in the right situations to meet the kind of people she wanted to hobnob with. Neither of them sat around in a dead-end job, relying on a man to support them, then expecting another man to just swoop in and pick up the pieces and take over supporting them. Love them or hate them, Amal and Markle worked hard to build their own lives.

OP, please see if you can get affordable therapy. You have no close friends, which is telling in itself. Try to forge a path on your own. You deserve to have a better life, but you have to create it. Good luck.
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Is your are 32 you look for men 46+
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Anonymous wrote:Is your are 32 you look for men 46+



Lol most 40 yr old women I know look for guys under 40 and of attractive they get their pick
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.


married men?


Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")


Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.


If a woman is top 1% looks, yeah she can pull something decent off like that. If OP was Amal or Markle there is no way she would be on DCUM right now, she'd be too busy turning men down. We're talking about the other 99% of women.


IMO neither of them is stunningly beautiful. What they do have is ambition. Amal was a very successful attorney. Markle became an actress and was very careful to put herself in the right situations to meet the kind of people she wanted to hobnob with. Neither of them sat around in a dead-end job, relying on a man to support them, then expecting another man to just swoop in and pick up the pieces and take over supporting them. Love them or hate them, Amal and Markle worked hard to build their own lives.

OP, please see if you can get affordable therapy. You have no close friends, which is telling in itself. Try to forge a path on your own. You deserve to have a better life, but you have to create it. Good luck.


Markle did actually look for a rich guy to support her if she was putting herself in situations to meet a rich guy and she got a prince. That's golddigger ambitious anyway you slice it. Its a classic golddigger thing to do actually. Also both need to eat a sandwich they are at least 30lbs under weight.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.


married men?


Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")


Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.


Amal married George Clooney —- a man old enough to be her father....

Nobody is telling OP to date losers, just that her standards are way too narrow. Something has to give. Either date a hot older guy or a divorced guy with a kid or something!


As for Markle, the number of older divorced women vastly exceeds the number of incredibly dumb British princes. Too bad!


I know plenty of women in their 30s who married guys in their 30s than marrying older rich men. George Clooney is rich so of course Amal gave him a chance. He's no smarter than harry.
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I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes.


Amazing isn't it? The problem is always someone else, and not you. ALL your friends deserted you? They're ALL flakes? What are the odds?


They didn't desert me. I did because I realized they just came to me to gossip negatively, turned 2 face on me, or only called me when they needed me but women friends are like that.


Nope, nope nope. As a woman, I tell my male single friends to be very cautious of a woman who doesn't have at least a small circle of female friends. It's not a deal breaker, but it should be a yellow caution light.

You really need to get a handle on why you are choosing people that are untrustworthy or gossipy or what have you as friends. It's simply not the norm for people to not have friends, to always have people desert you. Are you driving people away? Work on your judgment, your ability to perceive someone's good character (or lack thereof). You can't separate male-female relationships from the overall issue you are having with interpersonal relationships as a whole.


I’m a woman introvert (possibly on the spectrum according to my husband.) Even I have a few close female friends.

You need therapy if you think all female friends are flakes or out to get you.


I'm extroverted but I trust some men more than women. You ask a woman friend a question and she will Dilly dally as if it were a secret. For example, I asked about a job she recently got and she refused to say. If you ask a guy the same question he'd be more than happy to share.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.


married men?


Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")


Ha! If you couldn’t get that in your 20’s, you’re not getting it in your 30’s with a failed marriage under your belt...


This frailed old late 30s girl is actually dating a 35 yr old successful business owner and real estate investor. He's never been married and no kids.
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Anonymous wrote:Is your are 32 you look for men 46+



Lol most 40 yr old women I know look for guys under 40 and of attractive they get their pick


Those guys will bang her but not marry her.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is your are 32 you look for men 46+



Lol most 40 yr old women I know look for guys under 40 and of attractive they get their pick


Those guys will bang her but not marry her.


I'm 38 and engaged to a well off 35 yr old. I get guys in their 20s hitting on me regularly but I prefer 30s.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is your are 32 you look for men 46+



Lol most 40 yr old women I know look for guys under 40 and of attractive they get their pick


Those guys will bang her but not marry her.


Oh have to add we broke up once and he was dating a 28 yr old and a 32 yr old. He dropped them both to date me again.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.


married men?


Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")


Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.


If a woman is top 1% looks, yeah she can pull something decent off like that. If OP was Amal or Markle there is no way she would be on DCUM right now, she'd be too busy turning men down. We're talking about the other 99% of women.


IMO neither of them is stunningly beautiful. What they do have is ambition. Amal was a very successful attorney. Markle became an actress and was very careful to put herself in the right situations to meet the kind of people she wanted to hobnob with. Neither of them sat around in a dead-end job, relying on a man to support them, then expecting another man to just swoop in and pick up the pieces and take over supporting them. Love them or hate them, Amal and Markle worked hard to build their own lives.

OP, please see if you can get affordable therapy. You have no close friends, which is telling in itself. Try to forge a path on your own. You deserve to have a better life, but you have to create it. Good luck.


Markle did actually look for a rich guy to support her if she was putting herself in situations to meet a rich guy and she got a prince. That's golddigger ambitious anyway you slice it. Its a classic golddigger thing to do actually. Also both need to eat a sandwich they are at least 30lbs under weight.


PP you're responding to here. OK, fair enough. But my point is that Markle worked hard at it. OP is also an entitled goldigger but she's doing a lousy job at it and expecting it to just fall into her lap.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes.


Amazing isn't it? The problem is always someone else, and not you. ALL your friends deserted you? They're ALL flakes? What are the odds?


They didn't desert me. I did because I realized they just came to me to gossip negatively, turned 2 face on me, or only called me when they needed me but women friends are like that.


Nope, nope nope. As a woman, I tell my male single friends to be very cautious of a woman who doesn't have at least a small circle of female friends. It's not a deal breaker, but it should be a yellow caution light.

You really need to get a handle on why you are choosing people that are untrustworthy or gossipy or what have you as friends. It's simply not the norm for people to not have friends, to always have people desert you. Are you driving people away? Work on your judgment, your ability to perceive someone's good character (or lack thereof). You can't separate male-female relationships from the overall issue you are having with interpersonal relationships as a whole.


I’m a woman introvert (possibly on the spectrum according to my husband.) Even I have a few close female friends.

You need therapy if you think all female friends are flakes or out to get you.


I'm extroverted but I trust some men more than women. You ask a woman friend a question and she will Dilly dally as if it were a secret. For example, I asked about a job she recently got and she refused to say. If you ask a guy the same question he'd be more than happy to share.


Your view of your fellow women is pretty messed up.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is your are 32 you look for men 46+



Lol most 40 yr old women I know look for guys under 40 and of attractive they get their pick


Those guys will bang her but not marry her.


Oh have to add we broke up once and he was dating a 28 yr old and a 32 yr old. He dropped them both to date me again.


DP here. Of course it depends on the person in question. I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume that you bring more to the table than OP.

Lots of divorced women in their 30's, 40's, 50's, etc marry successful, good men. Many of these women have children too. At a certain age, it's suspect if a woman doesn't have kids yet. I know lots of divorced UMC / some UC men who married divorced women in their 40's and 50's with kids. These men almost always chose women who were decent looking but not drop dead gorgeous. These women brought a lot to the table though. OP needs to work on herself before she can land one of these kinds of good guys. She has problems with females and that's a problem. How is she going to support her husband's professional social life, become friends with the parents at their kids' schools and volunteering, set a good model for kids, have a social life of her own? When I look at the women the successful guys married, most of them bring this to the table. OP also seems very passive in her own life and that's just not attractive to the right kind of guy.

Some people post on here trying to excoriate women for not being hot enough, but honestly from what I've seen IRL a woman just needs to be attractive enough. No decent guy is going to just marry the hottest women he can get. The good guys prioritize character, personality, etc. Well off men might gladly support a woman financially, but typically they expect the woman to bring a lot to the table too. OP needs to take a hard look at what she's giving, not just hoping to get. I'm married so no skin in the game.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes.


Amazing isn't it? The problem is always someone else, and not you. ALL your friends deserted you? They're ALL flakes? What are the odds?


They didn't desert me. I did because I realized they just came to me to gossip negatively, turned 2 face on me, or only called me when they needed me but women friends are like that.


Nope, nope nope. As a woman, I tell my male single friends to be very cautious of a woman who doesn't have at least a small circle of female friends. It's not a deal breaker, but it should be a yellow caution light.

You really need to get a handle on why you are choosing people that are untrustworthy or gossipy or what have you as friends. It's simply not the norm for people to not have friends, to always have people desert you. Are you driving people away? Work on your judgment, your ability to perceive someone's good character (or lack thereof). You can't separate male-female relationships from the overall issue you are having with interpersonal relationships as a whole.


I’m a woman introvert (possibly on the spectrum according to my husband.) Even I have a few close female friends.

You need therapy if you think all female friends are flakes or out to get you.


I'm extroverted but I trust some men more than women. You ask a woman friend a question and she will Dilly dally as if it were a secret. For example, I asked about a job she recently got and she refused to say. If you ask a guy the same question he'd be more than happy to share.


Your view of your fellow women is pretty messed up.


+1. That's going to be a problem for any decent guy.
Anonymous
OP, this needs to be asked: do you have race requirements for the man you want? Religion requirements?

What are your race and religion?
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