Why are dating apps filled with MC or LMC guys?

[Anonymous]

I agree. Know what you want and be clear on what you expect. If you know what you want, you have a better chance of getting it. I knew the type of guy I wanted would probably not go on a dating app, so I focused on networking and asking friends to set me up. It worked.

I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes. I'm a very young looking late 30s f never married who 20 somethings always mistake me for their age. Younger men frequently hit on me but I'd like someone single mature and settled and a little closer to my age. If I look at guys in their 40s they look like my father.

Yikes. If that is you, OP, it is a major red flag that you have no friends. It makes me wonder why you're getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us

+1

So true.

I bet your husband works for me. And he is a (not too) secret bottom at and after work.

Ha! Reminds me of that news story of the rich lawyer who got caught soliciting sex from a man at a DC hotel but ended up dead killed by a lesbian masquerading as a man.

Um, what?

I will need a link.

Yes, PP, the story of a gay man being murdered in a brutal knife attack was a real barrel of laughs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us

+1

So true.

I bet your husband works for me. And he is a (not too) secret bottom at and after work.

Ha! Reminds me of that news story of the rich lawyer who got caught soliciting sex from a man at a DC hotel but ended up dead killed by a lesbian masquerading as a man.

Um, what?

I will need a link.

https://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/2-women-to-be-sentenced-in-donovan-hotel-murder/112671/

[Anonymous]

To the PPs promoting Eharmony and Match, those are trash today. I think most sites see a sharp degrade in quality the more mainstream they become. I used to meet great men on those sites when single years ago. Same with OKC. They're all a waste of time today.

OP, I'd suggest Hinge. I'm mid 30s and am not attracted to mid-40s and older. Hinge is made up primarily of millennials. 95% of my matches are 32-38 and there are plenty of professional men. My gf has had success on Bumble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm 38 and engaged to a well off 35 yr old. I get guys in their 20s hitting on me regularly but I prefer 30s.

Every other woman poster on DCUM has men "hitting on me" regularly. They all have to turn men down all the time.

I do not buy it. Only the very elite (in terms of looks) women will have this happen, and they are very, very seldom posting about it.

Another poster said it best - men will take action (i.e., approach) a large number of women in the hopes that these women will have sex with them.

However, these same men consider virtually all of these women unsuitable candidates for an LTR or marriage. I am sure the "30s" men you prefer will gladly stop by for a night; however, they are not looking at 38 year old woman as anything more than a rest stop.

When I was in my 20s the 20s guys were all looking at any women for mostly sex. Some women sleep with the guys first date and ended up marrying them so why is looking for sex bad according to you to put down attractive women in their 30's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The UMC guys already got married to the rest of us

+1

So true.

I bet your husband works for me. And he is a (not too) secret bottom at and after work.

Ha! Reminds me of that news story of the rich lawyer who got caught soliciting sex from a man at a DC hotel but ended up dead killed by a lesbian masquerading as a man.

Um, what?

I will need a link.

Yes, PP, the story of a gay man being murdered in a brutal knife attack was a real barrel of laughs.

Yes a closeted gay married man with kids cheating on his wife is a hero to you.

[Anonymous]

Every other woman poster on DCUM has men "hitting on me" regularly. They all have to turn men down all the time.
I do not buy it. Only the very elite (in terms of looks) women will have this happen, and they are very, very seldom posting about it.
Another poster said it best - men will take action (i.e., approach) a large number of women in the hopes that these women will have sex with them.
However, these same men consider virtually all of these women unsuitable candidates for an LTR or marriage. I am sure the "30s" men you prefer will gladly stop by for a night; however, they are not looking at 38 year old woman as anything more than a rest stop.

When I was in my 20s the 20s guys were all looking at any women for mostly sex. Some women sleep with the guys first date and ended up marrying them so why is looking for sex bad according to you to put down attractive women in their 30's?

Read my post. I never said looking for sex is bad. I pointed out that "having men hit on you all the time" does not mean you are attractive.

You are confusing "attractive enough to have sex with" - which for most men covers a very wide population - with beautiful enough to attract a mate that most other women would desire for the same reason.

If you are looking for sex, I hope you find and enjoy it. However, you are not attractive simply because men will have sex with you. It is much more likely that your appeal is based on your willingness to have sex, not your appearance. Now, this is not true in every case and there are a number of women on DCUM who are very attractive.

Again, however, most of the women that use the fact that men will sleep with them as evidence that they are attractive are not nearly as attractive as they are suggesting.


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[Anonymous]

Again, however, most of the women that use the fact that men will sleep with them as evidence that they are attractive are not nearly as attractive as they are suggesting.

In other news, it has been found that the Pope is Catholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Again, however, most of the women that use the fact that men will sleep with them as evidence that they are attractive are not nearly as attractive as they are suggesting.

In other news, it has been found that the Pope is Catholic.

And water is wet ...

[Anonymous]

If you are looking for sex, I hope you find and enjoy it. However, you are not attractive simply because men will have sex with you. It is much more likely that your appeal is based on your willingness to have sex, not your appearance. Now, this is not true in every case and there are a number of women on DCUM who are very attractive.

Again, however, most of the women that use the fact that men will sleep with them as evidence that they are attractive are not nearly as attractive as they are suggesting.

Every guy has had sex with an uggo or a fatty “because he could”. He felt dirty afterward, ghosted her, and would be mortified if his friends found out about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Every other woman poster on DCUM has men "hitting on me" regularly. They all have to turn men down all the time.
I do not buy it. Only the very elite (in terms of looks) women will have this happen, and they are very, very seldom posting about it.
Another poster said it best - men will take action (i.e., approach) a large number of women in the hopes that these women will have sex with them.
However, these same men consider virtually all of these women unsuitable candidates for an LTR or marriage. I am sure the "30s" men you prefer will gladly stop by for a night; however, they are not looking at 38 year old woman as anything more than a rest stop.

When I was in my 20s the 20s guys were all looking at any women for mostly sex. Some women sleep with the guys first date and ended up marrying them so why is looking for sex bad according to you to put down attractive women in their 30's?

Read my post. I never said looking for sex is bad. I pointed out that "having men hit on you all the time" does not mean you are attractive.

You are confusing "attractive enough to have sex with" - which for most men covers a very wide population - with beautiful enough to attract a mate that most other women would desire for the same reason.

If you are looking for sex, I hope you find and enjoy it. However, you are not attractive simply because men will have sex with you. It is much more likely that your appeal is based on your willingness to have sex, not your appearance. Now, this is not true in every case and there are a number of women on DCUM who are very attractive.

Again, however, most of the women that use the fact that men will sleep with them as evidence that they are attractive are not nearly as attractive as they are suggesting.


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+1

Mn "play the numbers game". If you act interested in enough women, a certain percentage will be interested (because they think the man is interested). Of those, a certain number of women will have sex right away. So, men who are hitting on women really have nothing to lose, even if you aren't that good looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm 38 and engaged to a well off 35 yr old. I get guys in their 20s hitting on me regularly but I prefer 30s.

Every other woman poster on DCUM has men "hitting on me" regularly. They all have to turn men down all the time.

I do not buy it. Only the very elite (in terms of looks) women will have this happen, and they are very, very seldom posting about it.

Another poster said it best - men will take action (i.e., approach) a large number of women in the hopes that these women will have sex with them.

However, these same men consider virtually all of these women unsuitable candidates for an LTR or marriage. I am sure the "30s" men you prefer will gladly stop by for a night; however, they are not looking at 38 year old woman as anything more than a rest stop.

When I was in my 20s the 20s guys were all looking at any women for mostly sex. Some women sleep with the guys first date and ended up marrying them so why is looking for sex bad according to you to put down attractive women in their 30's?

Wait, women who have sex right away are attractive? Wut?

[Anonymous]

+1

Mn "play the numbers game". If you act interested in enough women, a certain percentage will be interested (because they think the man is interested). Of those, a certain number of women will have sex right away. So, men who are hitting on women really have nothing to lose, even if you aren't that good looking.


+1000

If you are a woman, and putting it out there from your (pre-COVID) perch at J. Gilbert's, then it is likely to get picked up.

However, the men hitting on you are not doing so because they believe you will be a great wife. In fact, they are going to block your number as soon as they leave your apartment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

You should post a photo of yourself so the men on here can analyze your potential for landing UMC guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every guy has had sex with an uggo or a fatty “because he could”. He felt dirty afterward, ghosted her, and would be mortified if his friends found out about it.

Not me