Why are dating apps filled with MC or LMC guys?

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Anonymous wrote:Your pickings on the dating apps at your age are the men who are now divorced but have a good career and money.

I know because I'm one of them and dating single women in their late 20s and early 30s is a breeze.

Ditto.

I have noticed there are plenty of LMC women on OLD if your taste runs that way, so it's not just the single men who are LMC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of people meet in their 30's and get married and have kids. OP, try changing the age range from 28-38. I'll likely get flamed for this, but there's something wrong with most guys who are pushing 40 and haven't been married yet.

Join events through either sports, religion, hobbies, etc. where you can meet men who like to do the same things you can. Ask your friends to set you up with guys. You have to approach this like a part-time job. It might take a while but hopefully one of the guys will work out. Good luck!

You’re not going to get flamed from me!

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

Try church.

LOL single men don't go to church, least of all to meet women.

[Anonymous]

OP, try Match, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel. I think the men you are looking for (UMC men looking for a relationship) frequent these sites more than Tinder or OFC.

The advice of "meet people in person" sounds great but is very hard to make work in real life. Advice like "try church" for meeting men is almost always useless as the age demo is weighted much heavier to toward those above 40 (at least it is at my church.) I think McLean Bible may have a younger demo, so there is that.

Meetup also works well if you find an active group and you like what the group is doing (i.e., do not sign up for "Running in DC" if you hate to run.) There are tons of Meetup groups so you should find something you like.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

Try church.

LOL single men don't go to church, least of all to meet women.

I would think that the ones who do are zealots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, try Match, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel. I think the men you are looking for (UMC men looking for a relationship) frequent these sites more than Tinder or OFC.

The advice of "meet people in person" sounds great but is very hard to make work in real life. Advice like "try church" for meeting men is almost always useless as the age demo is weighted much heavier to toward those above 40 (at least it is at my church.) I think McLean Bible may have a younger demo, so there is that.

Meetup also works well if you find an active group and you like what the group is doing (i.e., do not sign up for "Running in DC" if you hate to run.) There are tons of Meetup groups so you should find something you like.

Thank you! I am a meet up participant. I am a member of several book clubs which are mostly women. What type of groups would cater to men?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa.

I agree. Maybe you can reconnect with some past classmates, or join relevant orgs like YPFP or something. Dating apps are not going on to cut it.

[Anonymous]

Thank you! I am a meet up participant. I am a member of several book clubs which are mostly women. What type of groups would cater to men?

The groups that have more men are the groups involve physical activities (e.g., running, biking, hiking, etc.). Cooking, wine/cocktail tasting, etc. can be the best since the ratio of men to women can be pretty good if you hit the right group at the right time.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa.

Just reading this its clear why you're getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

The UMC guys I know, particularly the older ones, would never dream of seriously dating someone from an app. They meet women through their circle of friends, their country club, and activities like golf. Sign up for golf lessons and join a club if you can.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, try Match, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel. I think the men you are looking for (UMC men looking for a relationship) frequent these sites more than Tinder or OFC.

The advice of "meet people in person" sounds great but is very hard to make work in real life. Advice like "try church" for meeting men is almost always useless as the age demo is weighted much heavier to toward those above 40 (at least it is at my church.) I think McLean Bible may have a younger demo, so there is that.

Meetup also works well if you find an active group and you like what the group is doing (i.e., do not sign up for "Running in DC" if you hate to run.) There are tons of Meetup groups so you should find something you like.

Thank you! I am a meet up participant. I am a member of several book clubs which are mostly women. What type of groups would cater to men?

Sports, go to sporting events.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa.

Just reading this its clear why you're getting divorced.

So you have a lower class salary but only want to date rich men. Okay then. Is your marriage over? Understand there is only a limited supply of men that have salaries that can support your UMC life of international travel.
Most of America settles for domestic travel within the US. Many guys with a bigger paycheck prefer domestic travel anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by LMC - what professions? Are you actually meeting these men and determining that they don’t know what quinoa is? Some LMC trades are quite lucrative. I would keep an open mind, but I guess you are clear on what you want, and what you don’t want.

This. A woman who is too picky will still be dating in her 40's. Many trades pay pretty big money. It does not sound like your own job pays much.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?

Are you UMC with a professional job?

Yes

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors. Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room. Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock.

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\

You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there.

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa.

Just reading this its clear why you're getting divorced.

Have you thought of changing your own job to increase your paycheck? It looks like your current husband makes top dollar. Is your current marriage beyond repair? Take a hard look at bettering yourself.
Also, there are a lot of decent men making top dollar in the trades. You posts come across as very elitist.

[Anonymous]

What do you expect from free dating apps? Use an app that costs money like EHarmony