Why are dating apps filled with MC or LMC guys?

[Anonymous]

Look up the DC collegiate host bars for top schools that also have strong football/basketball programs (think: Michigan, Duke, Stanford, Norte Dame)

Check the schedules and drop by the bar when the DC alumni group is holding a game watch event. It’s not weird because the bars still have normal customers, so you can pretend that you just randomly stumbled into the place full of Stanford grads. It best if you know a little about sports, but some naive enthusiasm can also work.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

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I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes.

Amazing isn't it? The problem is always someone else, and not you. ALL your friends deserted you? They're ALL flakes? What are the odds?

They didn't desert me. I did because I realized they just came to me to gossip negatively, turned 2 face on me, or only called me when they needed me but women friends are like that.

Nope, nope nope. As a woman, I tell my male single friends to be very cautious of a woman who doesn't have at least a small circle of female friends. It's not a deal breaker, but it should be a yellow caution light.

You really need to get a handle on why you are choosing people that are untrustworthy or gossipy or what have you as friends. It's simply not the norm for people to not have friends, to always have people desert you. Are you driving people away? Work on your judgment, your ability to perceive someone's good character (or lack thereof). You can't separate male-female relationships from the overall issue you are having with interpersonal relationships as a whole.

I’m a woman introvert (possibly on the spectrum according to my husband.) Even I have a few close female friends.

You need therapy if you think all female friends are flakes or out to get you.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

No!

More like divorced men —- you know, kinda like OP is a divorced woman...(Hey! They already have something in common!) Maybe even men who already have kids... Maybe men who are older... Something has to give.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Ha! If you couldn’t get that in your 20’s, you’re not getting it in your 30’s with a failed marriage under your belt...

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Anonymous wrote:What do you expect from free dating apps? Use an app that costs money like EHarmony

This

Y tho?

Everyone on the pay sites is on the free sites too.

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As to where to look, among all my friends who are 30s and 40s men and UMC to UC, none of them use the dating apps you mention. Some are on sugar dating sites (the only sites out there where women outnumber men), and others meet socially. These days, if you want to meet someone socially, you'll need to make the first move and be very clear about it (maybe even asking the person out). A lot of men I know are wary at doing this at networking/work events for fear of the metoo stuff. At a purely social event, it's less of a concern, but just realize this if it's a professional event.

This just isn't true. Online dating is your greatest field in which to find a guy. Let's say you go to a social event, maybe you see a few guys who may (or may not) be available. They may be married, gay, asexual, etc. You just don't know what their situation is. Sure, there is a chance you'll meet a single, heterosexual guy looking for someone like you, but more likely than not, you won't. Online dating, supplemented by getting out and meeting as many people as possible, is the way to go. There are lots of guys available online, it's just a matter of filtering and then meeting the ones that interest you. Of course, the more picky you are, the fewer there are to meet. If you are open to age, height, race and profession, there are no shortage of 30-something men that will likely go out with you if you have decent photos and a semi-interesting write up.

This. I'd join more selective dating apps like The League and Raya. I met tons of really awesome, eligible men on there when I was single living in NYC just three or so years ago and (gasp!) 32 years old...

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.

If a woman is top 1% looks, yeah she can pull something decent off like that. If OP was Amal or Markle there is no way she would be on DCUM right now, she'd be too busy turning men down. We're talking about the other 99% of women.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to look for.guys 40+ OP.

+1. And be ok with being a step-mom. But you can still definitely have a family of your own too.

Single never married attractive late 30sf no kids why would I be ok being a stepmom and the buttload of drama that could bring?

Because that’s what’s left if you’re looking for someone who makes a decent income. Sad but true. If you’re ok with younger men who might not have the best jobs, you could find a guy without kids. But most UMC men marry in their late 20s, early 30s to a woman they met in grad school or at work.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.

This is like saying “why can’t a divorced older man marry a supermodel? Rod Stewart did, twice!”

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Anonymous wrote:Separated and has salary demands? That's easy; hard pass.

Yes, believe it or not there are a lot of men who don't want to date "separated." Salary demands reads as gold digger.

Generally it is advised that anyone coming out of a divorce not to date for a year after a divorce to pull their self together and then date casually once they do start dating. OP reads as desperate.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.

Amal married George Clooney —- a man old enough to be her father....

Nobody is telling OP to date losers, just that her standards are way too narrow. Something has to give. Either date a hot older guy or a divorced guy with a kid or something!

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Anonymous wrote:Once you are past 32, the world is no longer "your dating oyster." You have to change your strategy. You have to open yourself up to different kinds of men.

married men?

Older, shorter, poorer, plainer, less well endowed, etc.

("But I deserve a 6' 2" tall CEO with an 8" d1ck, REEEEE!")

Worked for Amal and Markle. I'm truly shocked by the number of people on here who think a woman is dried up and must resign to a solo life by the age of 32. I mean, come on.

Amal married George Clooney —- a man old enough to be her father....

Nobody is telling OP to date losers, just that her standards are way too narrow. Something has to give. Either date a hot older guy or a divorced guy with a kid or something!

As for Markle, the number of older divorced women vastly exceeds the number of incredibly dumb British princes. Too bad!