DD's teacher won't call her by her nickname

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so hard to grasp that if you named your kid Isabella that people will actually call her ISABELLA!!!!! GOOD GOD!!!! Name her what you want her to be called.

A friend of mine is named James Henry. His parents called him Hank from the day he was born. When he came to school and the roster was called he didn't answer to "James" because he was never called that. Is that the teacher's fault. I DON'T think so! NAME YOUR KIDS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE CALLED.

That's actually quite simple to grasp. What I find hard to grasp is that if your kid's nickname is Bella, and you ask the teacher to call the kid Bella, and the kid asks the teacher to call the kid Bella, people would nonetheless purposely insist on calling the kid Isabella.

[Anonymous]

Did you ever hear the Beaver's teacher call him "Beaver". Nope. She called him Theodore. And you didn't see his parents demanding that she cater to their whims.

I have a child who goes by his middle name at home. Even in kindergarten, he was smart enough to answer when his teacher called him by his first name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so hard to grasp that if you named your kid Isabella that people will actually call her ISABELLA!!!!! GOOD GOD!!!! Name her what you want her to be called.

A friend of mine is named James Henry. His parents called him Hank from the day he was born. When he came to school and the roster was called he didn't answer to "James" because he was never called that. Is that the teacher's fault. I DON'T think so! NAME YOUR KIDS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE CALLED.

That's actually quite simple to grasp. What I find hard to grasp is that if your kid's nickname is Bella, and you ask the teacher to call the kid Bella, and the kid asks the teacher to call the kid Bella, people would nonetheless purposely insist on calling the kid Isabella.

Apparently it is not easy to grasp at all since 14 pages later you still can't grasp it. Let me tell it to you again, if you want your kid called Bella you should have put that on her birth certificate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever hear the Beaver's teacher call him "Beaver". Nope. She called him Theodore. And you didn't see his parents demanding that she cater to their whims.

I have a child who goes by his middle name at home. Even in kindergarten, he was smart enough to answer when his teacher called him by his first name.

Leave It To Beaver was a fictional TV show. True fact.

[Anonymous]

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Apparently it is not easy to grasp at all since 14 pages later you still can't grasp it. Let me tell it to you again, if you want your kid called Bella you should have put that on her birth certificate.

Shorter PP: I don't care what people want to be called, I will call them what I want to call them, so there, ha.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Apparently it is not easy to grasp at all since 14 pages later you still can't grasp it. Let me tell it to you again, if you want your kid called Bella you should have put that on her birth certificate.

Shorter PP: I don't care what people want to be called, I will call them what I want to call them, so there, ha.

I never say this, but you truly are an entitled idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Yes.

How dumb. But not surprising.

Can you imagine people doing this in a business setting?

School is not a business setting. Business is a peer to peer relationship where people can and do refer to colleagues as Mr. Smith. Oh, no, call me Ted. And you do as requested by a peer or superior.

School is a formal relationship. The teacher is in charge. Using nicknames confers familiarity and can create illusion of favoritism. So I can see why teachers decide to follow a no exceptions policy.



Employment is a formal relationship. The boss is in charge. And I would think he was either a total jerk or slow if he insisted on calling someone by a name other than what the subordinate wanted to be called. Same with the teacher. But again, it does not surprise me that some teachers insist on this.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous...the teacher should be calling her by the name she prefers (that is why they ask "nickname" on the paperwork). I don't think it's a stretch to wonder if the teacher can't get that straight, then just how deep does the well go. I have over 70 direct reports, and I remember and call them by the names they tell me they prefer. And I never get it wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you ever hear the Beaver's teacher call him "Beaver". Nope. She called him Theodore. And you didn't see his parents demanding that she cater to their whims.

I have a child who goes by his middle name at home. Even in kindergarten, he was smart enough to answer when his teacher called him by his first name.

Leave It To Beaver was a fictional TV show. True fact.

Yes, but it is reflective of reality. The school I went to growing up had a no nicknames policy. So, Jo was Josephine, Billy was William, Tommy was Thomas, Nancy was Ann. It actually is nice for children to realize that school is a more formal place than the playground, with different behavioral expectations. The use of the more formal form of a child's name helps to create an atmosphere that the classroom is a place for attention and learning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever hear the Beaver's teacher call him "Beaver". Nope. She called him Theodore. And you didn't see his parents demanding that she cater to their whims.

I have a child who goes by his middle name at home. Even in kindergarten, he was smart enough to answer when his teacher called him by his first name.

Leave It To Beaver was a fictional TV show. True fact.

Yes, but it is reflective of reality. The school I went to growing up had a no nicknames policy. So, Jo was Josephine, Billy was William, Tommy was Thomas, Nancy was Ann. It actually is nice for children to realize that school is a more formal place than the playground, with different behavioral expectations. The use of the more formal form of a child's name helps to create an atmosphere that the classroom is a place for attention and learning.

OMG -- that's awesome. The "I'll call you your formal name regardless of what you want" fascist thinks Leave It To Beaver is "reflective of reality". You win the internet today!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so hard to grasp that if you named your kid Isabella that people will actually call her ISABELLA!!!!! GOOD GOD!!!! Name her what you want her to be called.

A friend of mine is named James Henry. His parents called him Hank from the day he was born. When he came to school and the roster was called he didn't answer to "James" because he was never called that. Is that the teacher's fault. I DON'T think so! NAME YOUR KIDS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE CALLED.

That's actually quite simple to grasp. What I find hard to grasp is that if your kid's nickname is Bella, and you ask the teacher to call the kid Bella, and the kid asks the teacher to call the kid Bella, people would nonetheless purposely insist on calling the kid Isabella.

Apparently it is not easy to grasp at all since 14 pages later you still can't grasp it. Let me tell it to you again, if you want your kid called Bella you should have put that on her birth certificate.

And let me tell it to you again, if a person named "James" asks you to call him "Jim", then you should call him Jim. Or you're an asshole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so hard to grasp that if you named your kid Isabella that people will actually call her ISABELLA!!!!! GOOD GOD!!!! Name her what you want her to be called.

A friend of mine is named James Henry. His parents called him Hank from the day he was born. When he came to school and the roster was called he didn't answer to "James" because he was never called that. Is that the teacher's fault. I DON'T think so! NAME YOUR KIDS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE CALLED.

That's actually quite simple to grasp. What I find hard to grasp is that if your kid's nickname is Bella, and you ask the teacher to call the kid Bella, and the kid asks the teacher to call the kid Bella, people would nonetheless purposely insist on calling the kid Isabella.

Apparently it is not easy to grasp at all since 14 pages later you still can't grasp it. Let me tell it to you again, if you want your kid called Bella you should have put that on her birth certificate.

And let me tell it to you again, if a person named "James" asks you to call him "Jim", then you should call him Jim. Or you're an asshole.

No, you are the asshole for naming your child something that you didn't want her called and creating a lifetime uphill battle. But I can totally see how you're not going to see my point again.

[Anonymous]

So if your name is James, and your nickname is Jim, and you want people to call you Jim, that makes you an entitled idiot...?

There must surely be only one nickname-hating poster on this thread? I have certainly never met anybody with a similar attitude in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if your name is James, and your nickname is Jim, and you want people to call you Jim, that makes you an entitled idiot...?

There must surely be only one nickname-hating poster on this thread? I have certainly never met anybody with a similar attitude in real life.

Yes, yes it does.

To ask people to call you Jim is one thing, but to insist on it and be offended when people don't call you Jim is a whole different thing.

[Anonymous]

Every teacher I ever had, form pre-K to university, always asked student what they preferred to go by and then called them that.

Strange that this teacher wouldn't do this. Seems like a pretty easy thing to just call the kid the nickname she prefers.