DD's teacher won't call her by her nickname

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The reality is that school is a more formal place than the playground. A teacher who is setting up a classroom where she is teaching children to treat each other with respect and, yes, a little touch of formality is creating a calm environment for learning. A teacher who is giving her students a sense that the classroom calls for different behavior than the playground is doing her students a favor. A person who has learned at a younger age how to conduct him/herself in formal and business situations will have an advantage later in life

How about a workplace? Is that a more formal place than the playground? I have bosses who call themselves Tom, Debbie, and Dave. Should I insist on calling them Thomas, Deborah, and David?

Oh, the Name Fascist will just say that bosses/teachers can call underlings/children anything they want. How about this question: I supervise a dozen or so people. Should I refuse to call Thomas "Tom" as he has requested? Or ask to see his birth certificate to determine whether it says "Tom"?

Obviously, you should demand to see his birth certificate, and then inform him that you will only call him "Thomas Middlename Lastname" because, after all, that is his name. You do not believe in shortening names. The parents wanted him to have all three names and so that is what he will be called. You yourself will go by whatever name you'd like because you are the boss.

That's right. And he's a grown man, so if he doesn't like it, he can just change his name. To "Tom". That will be awesome.

However, in that case, Tom had better not hope to ever become a Supreme Court justice. It is necessary to have a formal name for that. This is one of the many facts I have learned on DCUM. He will have to choose between his legal ambitions and his nickname.

If he had not erred in his choice of parents, who should have foreseen this problem, he would not face such a dilemma. But that's what abdicating personal responsibility does for you.

It's true. However, since we are of like minds, I don't mind telling you how distressed I was when I learned that Sandra Day O'Connor went by "Sandy" in law school. Well, sometimes the riff-raff does slip through, I suppose.

Terrible. I shall never read her opinions with a straight face again.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be handled easily by me. With the attention of the principal. It's disrespectful and idiotic that a teacher would insist on calling a child something other than what the parents and child have asked him/her to be called. This is not the teacher's choice. At all.

There are 28 children in my DC's 2d grade class. Some of the names are "unusual," and not simple, easy "nicknames." Yet, our wonderful teacher doesn't seem to have any problems and it's only the 3d week of school. So, it's not an excuse. You call the kid what the parents/kid want her to be called.

You call that "entitlement." I call it calling the child by his/her name.

LOL, the child's name IS Isabella, NOT Bella. You shot down your own argument in your closing line, idiot!

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Anonymous wrote:This would be handled easily by me. With the attention of the principal. It's disrespectful and idiotic that a teacher would insist on calling a child something other than what the parents and child have asked him/her to be called. This is not the teacher's choice. At all.

There are 28 children in my DC's 2d grade class. Some of the names are "unusual," and not simple, easy "nicknames." Yet, our wonderful teacher doesn't seem to have any problems and it's only the 3d week of school. So, it's not an excuse. You call the kid what the parents/kid want her to be called.

You call that "entitlement." I call it calling the child by his/her name.

LOL, the child's name IS Isabella, NOT Bella. You shot down your own argument in your closing line, idiot!

Lady, give it up. No one's buying what you're selling.

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Anonymous wrote:1. how many kids are in the class? My husband teaches 2nd grade and has a hard time learning all the kids names as they are on the roster, and then to be asked to remember everyone's nickname in the first or two would be excessive for 20+ kids.

2. Cut the teacher a break and be grateful she knows your child's name at all. If it is that meaningful to you, talk to the teacher. Ask her if it would be ok for you to put a nametag on your child or your child's desk for the first few weeks to help her remember the child's name.

Before my husband became a teacher (after two decades doing something else), I would have been "that" parent. Don't be "that" parent or throw a teacher under the bus. Communicate your priority to the teacher in a respectful manner and realize you are not the only parent with a request of the teacher at the beginning of the year.

Put in perspective that if you insist on your child being called something other than the way you named her or registered for school, and then later you have more requests, the teacher may consider you to be one of "those" parents even if you don't mean to be. Put this request in priority perspective before you become too demanding.

Really? Is that the bar we're setting for teachers - that we should be grateful that they know our kids' names? Learning 25 names isn't that hard if this is your class. I have 50 employees and I remember their names and nicknames and for most thier spouses' and kids' names. Your husband sounds like a moron.

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I just can't quit this thread...it is too awesome for words.

On a serious note, I'm curious what anti-nickname PP's think about cultures where the common practice is to select a nickname at the time of birth and call all but the eldest sibling by their nickname.

Also, I'm curious how much it annoys the anti-nickname people that the FBI HQ is named the J. Edgar Hoover building?

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Anonymous wrote:So, does anyone else have ads for the American Girl doll "Isabelle" showing up on the side of the page?

I wonder if this doll goes by the nickname "Belle" in her books?

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Anonymous wrote:This would be handled easily by me. With the attention of the principal. It's disrespectful and idiotic that a teacher would insist on calling a child something other than what the parents and child have asked him/her to be called. This is not the teacher's choice. At all.

There are 28 children in my DC's 2d grade class. Some of the names are "unusual," and not simple, easy "nicknames." Yet, our wonderful teacher doesn't seem to have any problems and it's only the 3d week of school. So, it's not an excuse. You call the kid what the parents/kid want her to be called.

You call that "entitlement." I call it calling the child by his/her name.

LOL, the child's name IS Isabella, NOT Bella. You shot down your own argument in your closing line, idiot!

Says who? you? You think you have any more say in what I call my child than I do? Wrong song, sister.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why so many people are asking why OP would have named her child Isabella in the first place, or suggesting she legally change the name. It's such common thing to use nicknames! Did you not grow up with a classroom full of kids called Katie, Brad, Billy, Jenny, Joey, etc? Some of you are acting like you've never heard of such a thing as asking a teacher to call you by a nickname. Either some bizarrely clueless people here, or are you just being deliberately obtuse?

+1 My vote is for deliberately obtuse. Oddly, I have heard this argument from people who go by nicknames themselves, and yet haven't gotten around to getting their name legally changed to Jenny or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:1. how many kids are in the class? My husband teaches 2nd grade and has a hard time learning all the kids names as they are on the roster, and then to be asked to remember everyone's nickname in the first or two would be excessive for 20+ kids.

2. Cut the teacher a break and be grateful she knows your child's name at all. If it is that meaningful to you, talk to the teacher. Ask her if it would be ok for you to put a nametag on your child or your child's desk for the first few weeks to help her remember the child's name.

Before my husband became a teacher (after two decades doing something else), I would have been "that" parent. Don't be "that" parent or throw a teacher under the bus. Communicate your priority to the teacher in a respectful manner and realize you are not the only parent with a request of the teacher at the beginning of the year.

Put in perspective that if you insist on your child being called something other than the way you named her or registered for school, and then later you have more requests, the teacher may consider you to be one of "those" parents even if you don't mean to be. Put this request in priority perspective before you become too demanding.

Really? Is that the bar we're setting for teachers - that we should be grateful that they know our kids' names? Learning 25 names isn't that hard if this is your class. I have 50 employees and I remember their names and nicknames and for most thier spouses' and kids' names. Your husband sounds like a moron.

Agreed. High school teachers have to learn 100+ names each year and typically manage to do so. I am awful with names and I still manage to get everyone's name down by the end of September (and I'm ashamed that it sometimes takes me that long to remember a few kids). Wanting to be called by the name everyone else uses (not Scooter or T-Rex or mackdoodle, just the typical nickname for your name) does not make a kid or their parent a PITA.

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Anonymous wrote:1. how many kids are in the class? My husband teaches 2nd grade and has a hard time learning all the kids names as they are on the roster, and then to be asked to remember everyone's nickname in the first or two would be excessive for 20+ kids.

2. Cut the teacher a break and be grateful she knows your child's name at all. If it is that meaningful to you, talk to the teacher. Ask her if it would be ok for you to put a nametag on your child or your child's desk for the first few weeks to help her remember the child's name.

Before my husband became a teacher (after two decades doing something else), I would have been "that" parent. Don't be "that" parent or throw a teacher under the bus. Communicate your priority to the teacher in a respectful manner and realize you are not the only parent with a request of the teacher at the beginning of the year.

Put in perspective that if you insist on your child being called something other than the way you named her or registered for school, and then later you have more requests, the teacher may consider you to be one of "those" parents even if you don't mean to be. Put this request in priority perspective before you become too demanding.

Really? Is that the bar we're setting for teachers - that we should be grateful that they know our kids' names? Learning 25 names isn't that hard if this is your class. I have 50 employees and I remember their names and nicknames and for most thier spouses' and kids' names. Your husband sounds like a moron.

Agreed. High school teachers have to learn 100+ names each year and typically manage to do so. I am awful with names and I still manage to get everyone's name down by the end of September (and I'm ashamed that it sometimes takes me that long to remember a few kids). Wanting to be called by the name everyone else uses (not Scooter or T-Rex or mackdoodle, just the typical nickname for your name) does not make a kid or their parent a PITA.

I do think PPs name tag suggestion is a nice way of handling it if the teacher is just forgetting, although if it really is a case of forgetting it might also just be worth just being patient.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be handled easily by me. With the attention of the principal. It's disrespectful and idiotic that a teacher would insist on calling a child something other than what the parents and child have asked him/her to be called. This is not the teacher's choice. At all.

There are 28 children in my DC's 2d grade class. Some of the names are "unusual," and not simple, easy "nicknames." Yet, our wonderful teacher doesn't seem to have any problems and it's only the 3d week of school. So, it's not an excuse. You call the kid what the parents/kid want her to be called.

You call that "entitlement." I call it calling the child by his/her name.

LOL, the child's name IS Isabella, NOT Bella. You shot down your own argument in your closing line, idiot!

Np here. My friends a teacher and when annoying children come up to asking asking stupid questions like can you please call me Bella she flicks them in the nose really hard. Done end of that the kids are then scared of her. And the principal he is scary too no child wants to go there as he uses a paddle.

Maybe little Bella will get her nose flicked or op her butt paddled.

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OP i feel your pain... My name is Miing and when i was in high school my teacher kept calling me Ming. I asked her to call me Miing but that never happened. give it up.

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It could be worse!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dd7FixvoKBw

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This is a good time to teach your daughter to have a true sense of self and strong identity regardless of what people around her are doing/saying to her. Tell her to write her name Bella on all of her papers. But seriously, why would you name your daughter Isabella and then be offended if someone actually called your daughter by her full name?!

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Np here. My friends a teacher and when annoying children come up to asking asking stupid questions like can you please call me Bella she flicks them in the nose really hard. Done end of that the kids are then scared of her. And the principal he is scary too no child wants to go there as he uses a paddle.

Maybe little Bella will get her nose flicked or op her butt paddled.

Your friend and the principal should be arrested and both have their licenses license revoked. Who does she think she is?

PARENTS decide what to call a child and how to discipline them. NOT some self-important twit.