DD's teacher won't call her by her nickname

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her not to respond to the teacher until the teacher uses her nickname.

If the teacher gets upset, practice with your DD saying "If you want me to respond, use my correct name" or simply type up a note, laminate it and hand it to the teacher with the same.

Talk to the teacher yourself and tell her plainly "if you can not get something so basic as a child's name correct, how can I believe that you are capable of teaching my child?"

Wow. This seems really extreme and adversarial to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the posters on this. OP, this would upset me and I would be speaking to the teacher. It is not up to the teacher what she wants to call your daughter.

I was one of the PP's. I was upset and it sucked and I did speak to the teacher and I mentioned it to the principal ... but alas, she had the wrong name stuck in her head and eventually my son (and I) had to get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the posters on this. OP, this would upset me and I would be speaking to the teacher. It is not up to the teacher what she wants to call your daughter.

I was one of the PP's. I was upset and it sucked and I did speak to the teacher and I mentioned it to the principal ... but alas, she had the wrong name stuck in her head and eventually my son (and I) had to get over it.

I think there's a distinct difference between refusing to call a child by their preferred nickname and honestly and genuinely forgetting a Jack is really a Jake.

[Anonymous]

Why do you even give your kid a name if you will only and forever allow them to use the nickname? This whole thing could be avoided if people would either choose the name that they would like their child to be called OR realize that in some settings, some people will use their given name and not a nickname. Training your child a first grader to refuse to respond to anything other than their nickname is insanity to me. Why didn't you just GIVE her the name that you wanted her to use?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her not to respond to the teacher until the teacher uses her nickname.

If the teacher gets upset, practice with your DD saying "If you want me to respond, use my correct name" or simply type up a note, laminate it and hand it to the teacher with the same.

Talk to the teacher yourself and tell her plainly "if you can not get something so basic as a child's name correct, how can I believe that you are capable of teaching my child?"

[Anonymous]

Personally, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. You named your child Isabella - why is it so "disrespectful" for someone to call your child by that given name? If you didn't want her called that then...well, you shouldn't have named her that.
Look at it as a learning opportunity. As your child gets older she will no doubt come into contact with many others who aren't intimately familiar with her that will see her name on a spreadsheet and call her by her given name. As opposed to setting her up for confrontation after confrontation in demanding others accommodate her and call her X why not ease her into the practice of tolerance and get her to embrace her given name.

[Anonymous]

1. how many kids are in the class? My husband teaches 2nd grade and has a hard time learning all the kids names as they are on the roster, and then to be asked to remember everyone's nickname in the first or two would be excessive for 20+ kids.

2. Cut the teacher a break and be grateful she knows your child's name at all. If it is that meaningful to you, talk to the teacher. Ask her if it would be ok for you to put a nametag on your child or your child's desk for the first few weeks to help her remember the child's name.

Before my husband became a teacher (after two decades doing something else), I would have been "that" parent. Don't be "that" parent or throw a teacher under the bus. Communicate your priority to the teacher in a respectful manner and realize you are not the only parent with a request of the teacher at the beginning of the year.

Put in perspective that if you insist on your child being called something other than the way you named her or registered for school, and then later you have more requests, the teacher may consider you to be one of "those" parents even if you don't mean to be. Put this request in priority perspective before you become too demanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the posters on this. OP, this would upset me and I would be speaking to the teacher. It is not up to the teacher what she wants to call your daughter.

I was one of the PP's. I was upset and it sucked and I did speak to the teacher and I mentioned it to the principal ... but alas, she had the wrong name stuck in her head and eventually my son (and I) had to get over it.

I think there's a distinct difference between refusing to call a child by their preferred nickname and honestly and genuinely forgetting a Jack is really a Jake.

Agreed. I think the latter is worse. It's the wrong name! From his regular teacher (i.e., not a substitute)! Terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. You named your child Isabella - why is it so "disrespectful" for someone to call your child by that given name? If you didn't want her called that then...well, you shouldn't have named her that.
Look at it as a learning opportunity. As your child gets older she will no doubt come into contact with many others who aren't intimately familiar with her that will see her name on a spreadsheet and call her by her given name. As opposed to setting her up for confrontation after confrontation in demanding others accommodate her and call her X why not ease her into the practice of tolerance and get her to embrace her given name.

I agree with this poster. You chose the name Isabella for your daughter, perhaps you should teach your daughter that some people will call her by her legal first name and other might be more kind and call her the preferred nickname. It's really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her not to respond to the teacher until the teacher uses her nickname.

If the teacher gets upset, practice with your DD saying "If you want me to respond, use my correct name" or simply type up a note, laminate it and hand it to the teacher with the same.

Talk to the teacher yourself and tell her plainly "if you can not get something so basic as a child's name correct, how can I believe that you are capable of teaching my child?"

LOL this is amazing.

[Anonymous]

This is insane. You have the right to choose what your child is called, period. Try one more time with the teacher. Then go to the director.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You have the right to choose what your child is called, period. Try one more time with the teacher. Then go to the director.

She did choose it. She named her child Isabella. It's not like the teacher is calling her Margaret FFS.

[Anonymous]

There are probably 3 Isabel/Isabella/Bellas in the class and she can't get it all straight. Trendy names are so painful. Name your kid something else if you expect anyone to be able to remember it in a crowd of girls with similar names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You have the right to choose what your child is called, period. Try one more time with the teacher. Then go to the director.

She did! She named her Isabella! She is going to look like a crazy person if she complains to the director that the teacher won't use a nickname. Oh my god!

[Anonymous]

So even though child's name is, in fact, Isabella the parent prefers she be called

"Bella"
And for some reason since the teacher calls the child her actual name instead of

"Bella"
This is somehow some sort of insult?

Riiiight...