DD's teacher won't call her by her nickname

[Anonymous]

DD is Bella. Yes, her legal name is Isabella, but we have never called her that and she has always gone by Bella. If someone yells "Isabella" she doesn't even think to turn around. When we filled out the forms for school we wrote "Bella" under preferred nickname.

We've trained DD to say "I prefer to be called Bella" each time her teacher calls her Isabella and we sent a note requesting that she respect Bella's desire to be called by the name everyone has called her for her entire life. Where do we go with this? It's making her hate her teacher, though I know she loves learning.

[Anonymous]

I would not die on that hill. Your daughter will get used to it and won't even notice after a while if you also let it go.

[Anonymous]

Well my son's name is Jake and his teacher called him Jack for a year... so I eventually told him to get over it... but the year sucked.

I have a beautiful friend named Bella and another named Belle... PP is angry at her own life, ignore her.

[Anonymous]

It is your decision what to call your daughter, NOT the teacher's. Sounds like someone is on a power trip.

[Anonymous]

Ask to meet with the teacher and discuss with her. Don't escalate it unless necessary -- just go talk to the teacher.

[Anonymous]

I would guess that the teacher has forgotten the note. Did you send the note directly to the teacher? Do you know if he/she got it. I would give them the benefit of the doubt and send an email to the teacher - start off with something positive, and then ask if she wouldn't mind using "Bella" because your DD is not used to "Isabella" and prefers not to have it used as her name.

Problem solved.

Unless, of course, the teacher writes back and says no, they won't do it. Ha ha ... can you imagine that? It's not going to happen.

[Anonymous]

My child's teacher refused to call him by his full name. Said it was too long and would only use the common nickname.

We spoke to her, said that it would make him feel better to be called by his actual name. She wouldn't budge.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe the posters on this. OP, this would upset me and I would be speaking to the teacher. It is not up to the teacher what she wants to call your daughter.

[Anonymous]

This would have sucked for me-- EVERYONE calls me by my middle name. Definitively mention this again to the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to the teacher.

[Anonymous]

OP, what grade is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would guess that the teacher has forgotten the note. Did you send the note directly to the teacher? Do you know if he/she got it. I would give them the benefit of the doubt and send an email to the teacher - start off with something positive, and then ask if she wouldn't mind using "Bella" because your DD is not used to "Isabella" and prefers not to have it used as her name.

Problem solved.

Unless, of course, the teacher writes back and says no, they won't do it. Ha ha ... can you imagine that? It's not going to happen.

I know she got the note. I handed it to my daughter and sent her onto the yard, watching her walk right up to her teacher and hand it to her.

[Anonymous]

Tell her not to respond to the teacher until the teacher uses her nickname.

If the teacher gets upset, practice with your DD saying "If you want me to respond, use my correct name" or simply type up a note, laminate it and hand it to the teacher with the same.

Talk to the teacher yourself and tell her plainly "if you can not get something so basic as a child's name correct, how can I believe that you are capable of teaching my child?"

[Anonymous]

Dora's legal name must be Isadora, but her mother regrets she completed the birth forms with that name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what grade is this?

First grade. It's her first year at the school.