One person wants a prenup and the other does not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

Oh, so you get to make blanket statements about our marriages but you don't want to get a response. Typical.

I am married and we ARE fine. Just because you can't imagine a world in which people don't think the way you do, doesn't mean we aren't out there. Get a clue.

The rest of your statement about your husband's layoff has nothing to do with a divorce or a prenup. Prenups are a way to protect financial assets in the event things don't work out. I would rather do it while I don't want to divorce and not when or if a divorce is on the horizon.

Yes, I do. It's a forum. And I still call BS on your marriage. My statement about my husband's layoff is entirely relevant to a conversation about a jerk who doesn't value someone who doesn't make as much as he does. Post back when the prenup you signed is implemented and let us know how that process goes.

God bless your husband.

I know, thanks! He's a lucky guy. So am I.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

She's obviously unbalanced. I don't think she got that poster's "bless your husband" comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Women do earn less than men even though there may be individual situations where that is not true

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/17/gender-wage-gap_n_3941180.html

The disparity is even greater at much higher compensation levels which is where prenups become almost a prerequisite before marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

That whooshing sound is me not giving a shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

She's obviously unbalanced. I don't think she got that poster's "bless your husband" comment.

Wow, you're really smart.

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling OP won't post an update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

That whooshing sound is me not giving a shit.

Not that whooshing sound is testament to your inability to articulate a point of view in a coherent manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

That whooshing sound is me not giving a shit.

Not that whooshing sound is testament to your inability to articulate a point of view in a coherent manner.

Irony.

[Anonymous]

OMG can you two stop with the cat fighting already?!?

[Anonymous]

I have not read all the pages, but my husband and I have a prenup, which he had no problem signing. He took it to an attorney and they went over it with him. It basically says this. What I came into the marriage with is mine (business), what he came in with is his. What is in our name stays ours. What we buy together gets split down the middle should we divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the men posting here are assuming that women want prenups and it's against the interests of men. And "until they earn the same amount as men" made me choke. You have got to be kidding me.

But don't worry. I don't think women will be beating down your doors to get married. Don't bother with "I'm already married and we're fine" posts. They're BS and you're lying.

And yes, I work and in no way am I looking for a handout. My husband is facing a layoff. My income looks pretty good to everyone in the family right about now, because we're a team. He said, "it's a good thing one of us will have an income." Yes, it is.

It is as idiotic to accuse those who say they are married of lying as it would be for someone to accuse you of lying when you say that your husband is facing a layoff and will now be dependent on your income. Both are entirely plausible scenarios.

That whooshing sound is me not giving a shit.

Not that whooshing sound is testament to your inability to articulate a point of view in a coherent manner.

Irony.

+1. That comment gave me the lulz.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling OP won't post an update.

OP here. There is nothing to update, sorry. I am still thinking about it. He really isn't a jerk, at all. He isn't the least bit controlling. He is however, all about money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling OP won't post an update.

OP here. There is nothing to update, sorry. I am still thinking about it. He really isn't a jerk, at all. He isn't the least bit controlling. He is however, all about money.

And you are so going to sign, and he knows it.

[Anonymous]

Will he compensate you for getting pregnant? For tear and wear on your body? For tears during L&D? For nursing the baby? If you get stretchmarks, what's that worth? What about getting up with the baby, is there going to be an hourly fee or what?

Actually, the only way I would do it (assuming I had no plans for children) is to live in his house, do minimal housework and sock away all my salary. That way it amounts to free room and board. And if his income is fully his, then mine is fully mine, too. Let him contribute 100% to the house, if he wants to keep 100% of it. I will just fill up my savings account, and when I have enough, I'll peel off. That's what men like this deserve.