One person wants a prenup and the other does not

[Anonymous]

What happens when one person in the relationship wants a prenup and the other person, does not? What is the compromise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens when one person in the relationship wants a prenup and the other person, does not? What is the compromise?

No compromise. This is the mother of all redflags.

[Anonymous]

no prenump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens when one person in the relationship wants a prenup and the other person, does not? What is the compromise?

No compromise. This is the mother of all redflags.

+1 although there's a strong possibility that we are on opposite sides of this issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens when one person in the relationship wants a prenup and the other person, does not? What is the compromise?

There isn't one. You don't marry.

[Anonymous]

Does one person own their own business? That's pretty much the only time I can understand a pre nup. But I also live in a 50/50 state so I kind of get why some people insist on a pre nup.

[Anonymous]

OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens when one person in the relationship wants a prenup and the other person, does not? What is the compromise?

No compromise. This is the mother of all redflags.

+1 although there's a strong possibility that we are on opposite sides of this issue.

To me, the only thing that matters is that one person wants it and the other doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

Dump his sorry ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

What else would you expect? It's not your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

Oh hells no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

Dump his sorry ass

OP here. I can't just walk away from love. I'm assuming there is no compromise though. I understand protecting a family business, but there isn't one. I get it's his own but if I'm still helping financially, and for the up keep up the house, and working, and raising kids, then it should account for something. I'm beyond torn

[Anonymous]

OP, what is his parents' marriage like. I know a few people who insisted on a prenup and did not own their own business. All came from unhappy homes whether it was cheating, volitile divorce, or just a lot of unhappiness. A couple ended up doing away with the prenup when their significant other said no marriage with one, 2 are in bad marriages but there were problems before the marriage (with respect, money, and cheating) and one is very happily
Married with a pre nup.

It's hard to say what you should do without knowing more details. Does he not trust you with money? Does he want to keep all things separate? Is he controlling in other ways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

What else would you expect? It's not your business.

I don't care about the business's and actually want no part in them. I was simply answering a previous posters question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is his parents' marriage like. I know a few people who insisted on a prenup and did not own their own business. All came from unhappy homes whether it was cheating, volitile divorce, or just a lot of unhappiness. A couple ended up doing away with the prenup when their significant other said no marriage with one, 2 are in bad marriages but there were problems before the marriage (with respect, money, and cheating) and one is very happily
Married with a pre nup.

It's hard to say what you should do without knowing more details. Does he not trust you with money? Does he want to keep all things separate? Is he controlling in other ways?

OP here. His parents were happy, no prenup. My parents ended in divorce. I am not a spender, at all! I'm beyond cheap. He wants separate accounts but agreed upon a separate account and then one joint account. It just doesn't feel like a marriage out of love, to me. This is about business and numbers it seems like.