One person wants a prenup and the other does not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of insecure women here looking for a good provider.

Why not try getting out and working so that you are no dependent on some guy's income whether you remain married or not? What ever happened to all the feminism and self-worth when it comes prenups?

Rich single working mom here. Getting out and working, great idea - if they don't have kids. Once you have kids, it becomes very, very difficult for a woman to maximize her earning potential.

I agree that OP is better off with a sperm bank than this guy.

How did you do it? (maximize?) Do you date? It literally seems impossible, so please tell me there's hope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

Oh hells no.

He sounds like someone I would never trust. Why get married then?

I would sign off on assets earned before the marriage. However anything earned during the marriage should be a 50/50 split. I don't think he understands a judge would likely throw that out because of state/federal laws. What a DB imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

This sounds like a borderline abusive relationship. How are you going to factor in who woke up with the baby at night? You do not want to be in a position where you have kids, and he’s become even more abusive and controlling and you can’t afford to leave. Read all the threads about being the default and how it torpedoes your career. You’re setting yourself up to get royally screwed.

Remember, before marriage is when people generally show you the best version of themselves. These glimpses into his controlling behavior are huge red flags. If he’s being an a$$ to his fiancée, multiply that by a thousand and that’s how he will treat his wife. Don’t sign up for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a prenup is a great idea. What's wrong with the idea that men and women are equal and his money is his and her money is her's? If the woman starts the next Microsoft why should the man share in it if things don't work out? Same if the man does that.

Just because you marry a rich guy you shouldn't think that his success becomes your success if things don't work out. Same for a man marrying a wealthy woman.

Why did you bump a 5 year old thread troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a prenup is a great idea. What's wrong with the idea that men and women are equal and his money is his and her money is her's? If the woman starts the next Microsoft why should the man share in it if things don't work out? Same if the man does that.

Just because you marry a rich guy you shouldn't think that his success becomes your success if things don't work out. Same for a man marrying a wealthy woman.

I agree for assets you bring into the marriage.

The assets you make in the marriage are 50/50. How do you factor in one spouse moving across the country for the other spouse’s career? One spouse taking care of the children? If you build wealth as a team you need to split it fairly when the union ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

LOL run honey. Run.

What if you stay home with the kids? What price does that have on it for alimony.
If he is nickle and diming you now, wait til he hates you and has cheated and wants to build a new house with his new girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

If I ever have cause to sign a pre-nup, it’s going to include a provision that anyone who drags up a five-year-old thread about pre-nups gets nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No businesses owned. He makes more money than I. Any businesses that he creates in the marriage, he wants. No alimony. If I contribute, say 20 percent towards house bills, then in a divorce, that's what I get towards the house.

Run- seriously. This is bad.

[Anonymous]

Folks, this is a 5- year old thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He is going into the marriage planning for divorce. His plan also involves screwing you as much as possible.

You don't go into a healthy, viable marriage with an eye on divorce as the most important consideration. You also don't go into a healthy marriage with the intention of screwing over your spouse as much as possible for the future divorce that you are planning for.

+?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He is going into the marriage planning for divorce. His plan also involves screwing you as much as possible.

You don't go into a healthy, viable marriage with an eye on divorce as the most important consideration. You also don't go into a healthy marriage with the intention of screwing over your spouse as much as possible for the future divorce that you are planning for.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He is going into the marriage planning for divorce. His plan also involves screwing you as much as possible.

You don't go into a healthy, viable marriage with an eye on divorce as the most important consideration. You also don't go into a healthy marriage with the intention of screwing over your spouse as much as possible for the future divorce that you are planning for.

+100

5 year old thread, some troll bumped it

[Anonymous]

I'd love to hear from the OP 5 years later... anybody out there?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people do still look sideways at women who have babies outside of marriage, at least in my SES. Sure, they don't openly discriminate anymore, but deep down, there's a prejudice.

As there should be. For a reason, ladies.

And the reason is? Care to elaborate?

Oh good God.

Why on Earth would you dig up this FIVE YEAR OLD zombified post??

Only a troll would bump up a 5 year old post & then add absolutely nothing to the conversation with the exception of 8 words that have no bearing 5 years later.

Get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

I hate that people are still commenting to the originals OP from 2014 — but I’m kinda hoping they may see this thread and update too.