WWYD? We hate the name of our foster-to-adopt child

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Thanks for the update OP. Congratulations on your TWO girls! Upon hearing your daughter's birth name, I am totally convinced that yes, you have to change it. Charlotte, Charlene or Charlize (ie Theron) could all work with Grace or another middle name and are lovely. I actually think your other daughter's name, Chanel is okay to keep even in a professional capacity, and I'm pretty waspy. Maybe you want to change both girls' names. I don't know how old they are, but you could share with them some of your family names and let them know you want to give them these names as a special gift since they are now members of a new family. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:Or Charlotte Grace. Keeps the Cha- at the beginning. Grace is a lovely middle name.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the update OP. Congratulations on your TWO girls! Upon hearing your daughter's birth name, I am totally convinced that yes, you have to change it. Charlotte, Charlene or Charlize (ie Theron) could all work with Grace or another middle name and are lovely. I actually think your other daughter's name, Chanel is okay to keep even in a professional capacity, and I'm pretty waspy. Maybe you want to change both girls' names. I don't know how old they are, but you could share with them some of your family names and let them know you want to give them these names as a special gift since they are now members of a new family. Good luck!

They are 4 and 6. We will not be re-naming Champagne to Charlene or Charmaine. Dh and I don't feel like we have to do the same things for each girl. Chanel is an okay name; it just lends itself to Nelly quite easily. Champagne is a hard name to go through, but doesn't lend itself to anything other than Pagne which has a negative association on multiple levels. I'm a little all over the place with this - we're operating on very little sleep and a ton of screaming.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the update OP. Congratulations on your TWO girls! Upon hearing your daughter's birth name, I am totally convinced that yes, you have to change it. Charlotte, Charlene or Charlize (ie Theron) could all work with Grace or another middle name and are lovely. I actually think your other daughter's name, Chanel is okay to keep even in a professional capacity, and I'm pretty waspy. Maybe you want to change both girls' names. I don't know how old they are, but you could share with them some of your family names and let them know you want to give them these names as a special gift since they are now members of a new family. Good luck!

They are 4 and 6. We will not be re-naming Champagne to Charlene or Charmaine. Dh and I don't feel like we have to do the same things for each girl. Chanel is an okay name; it just lends itself to Nelly quite easily. Champagne is a hard name to go through, but doesn't lend itself to anything other than Pagne which has a negative association on multiple levels. I'm a little all over the place with this - we're operating on very little sleep and a ton of screaming.

Champ for a nickname in the short term. Because she got through 2 or 4 years of a hard life so far, so she is a champ. And maybe in these first tough weeks, you have to call her her name, because she needs to hear someone call her the name she knows with some love, not derision.

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Thanks for the update op. Best of luck to you!

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the update OP. Congratulations on your TWO girls! Upon hearing your daughter's birth name, I am totally convinced that yes, you have to change it. Charlotte, Charlene or Charlize (ie Theron) could all work with Grace or another middle name and are lovely. I actually think your other daughter's name, Chanel is okay to keep even in a professional capacity, and I'm pretty waspy. Maybe you want to change both girls' names. I don't know how old they are, but you could share with them some of your family names and let them know you want to give them these names as a special gift since they are now members of a new family. Good luck!

They are 4 and 6. We will not be re-naming Champagne to Charlene or Charmaine. Dh and I don't feel like we have to do the same things for each girl. Chanel is an okay name; it just lends itself to Nelly quite easily. Champagne is a hard name to go through, but doesn't lend itself to anything other than Pagne which has a negative association on multiple levels. I'm a little all over the place with this - we're operating on very little sleep and a ton of screaming.

Champ for a nickname in the short term. Because she got through 2 or 4 years of a hard life so far, so she is a champ. And maybe in these first tough weeks, you have to call her her name, because she needs to hear someone call her the name she knows with some love, not derision.

What about her initials C.G.? Then you can all take some time and find a full name that she and you like when you're not so tired and stressed.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sorry it took so long to get back here. Things got very hectic very quickly, especially as we found out last minute there was an older sister available for adoption.

We are now parents to two daughters! The one I was posting here about is Champagne Glitz. I was not kidding about the name. Her older sister also has a stripper name but almost immediately DH found a tweak to it and we will aim to work towards modifying her name to the nickname if she's amenable.

Please know that even though it took me quite some time to update you all, DH and I both read through all your responses and appreciate the time each of you took to weigh in with your opinions.

So, within the last month you found out the sister exists and adopted her? Because usually there's a six month waiting period, and during that waiting period you almost definitely don't have permission to post a child's name online.

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Chandler? (Has the same cha sound)

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sorry it took so long to get back here. Things got very hectic very quickly, especially as we found out last minute there was an older sister available for adoption.

We are now parents to two daughters! The one I was posting here about is Champagne Glitz. I was not kidding about the name. Her older sister also has a stripper name but almost immediately DH found a tweak to it and we will aim to work towards modifying her name to the nickname if she's amenable.

Please know that even though it took me quite some time to update you all, DH and I both read through all your responses and appreciate the time each of you took to weigh in with your opinions.

So, within the last month you found out the sister exists and adopted her? Because usually there's a six month waiting period, and during that waiting period you almost definitely don't have permission to post a child's name online.

Unless she was already in the system in another county or the parents voluntarily relinquished rights. Don't be such a curmudgeon

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Why is Nelly better than Chanel?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is Nelly better than Chanel?

I'd see it as a shortcut to Nell, which is sweet and old fashioned (and a nickname for Helen). Chanel just sounds aspirational, like someone wanted to sound rich. Cf Diamond, Tiffany, Crystal, etc.

It's all a matter of opinion, of course, but that's how it strikes my ear.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sorry it took so long to get back here. Things got very hectic very quickly, especially as we found out last minute there was an older sister available for adoption.

We are now parents to two daughters! The one I was posting here about is Champagne Glitz. I was not kidding about the name. Her older sister also has a stripper name but almost immediately DH found a tweak to it and we will aim to work towards modifying her name to the nickname if she's amenable.

Please know that even though it took me quite some time to update you all, DH and I both read through all your responses and appreciate the time each of you took to weigh in with your opinions.

So, within the last month you found out the sister exists and adopted her? Because usually there's a six month waiting period, and during that waiting period you almost definitely don't have permission to post a child's name online.

Unless she was already in the system in another county or the parents voluntarily relinquished rights. Don't be such a curmudgeon

No, there's a six month waiting period after the child is placed in your home. Even a child who is already free, or to whom you already have a connection.

Either the OP is lying, or the OP doesn't care a whit about these kids, to use their uncommon and identifiable names in this setting. Or she's a troll. I hope that's what's true.

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Anonymous wrote:Champ for a nickname in the short term. Because she got through 2 or 4 years of a hard life so far, so she is a champ. And maybe in these first tough weeks, you have to call her her name, because she needs to hear someone call her the name she knows with some love, not derision.

If you are just looking for a nickname for the short term, try Cammie. Or ask if there is a nickname she'd like to use.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sorry it took so long to get back here. Things got very hectic very quickly, especially as we found out last minute there was an older sister available for adoption.

We are now parents to two daughters! The one I was posting here about is Champagne Glitz. I was not kidding about the name. Her older sister also has a stripper name but almost immediately DH found a tweak to it and we will aim to work towards modifying her name to the nickname if she's amenable.

Please know that even though it took me quite some time to update you all, DH and I both read through all your responses and appreciate the time each of you took to weigh in with your opinions.

So, within the last month you found out the sister exists and adopted her? Because usually there's a six month waiting period, and during that waiting period you almost definitely don't have permission to post a child's name online.

Unless she was already in the system in another county or the parents voluntarily relinquished rights. Don't be such a curmudgeon

No, there's a six month waiting period after the child is placed in your home. Even a child who is already free, or to whom you already have a connection.

Either the OP is lying, or the OP doesn't care a whit about these kids, to use their uncommon and identifiable names in this setting. Or she's a troll. I hope that's what's true.

For agency adoption. For private adoption, there isn't a waiting period. If it is foster to adopt it is a minimum of six month to make sure everyone adjusts.