WWYD? We hate the name of our foster-to-adopt child

[Anonymous]

It is a VERY "white trash/stripper" type of name. However, the child is old enough that she knows her name already and we don't want to screw with her head by changing her name. It's not one that lends to any sort of good nicknames. But we REALLLLLLLLY hate the name. To be honest, I'm kind of embarrassed by it.

What would you do?

[Anonymous]

My neighbor changed the boys name, but she made him a junior so it was very nice.

[Anonymous]

What I would do would be to get over myself. It's her name, and she knows it.

That said, if you hate it that much, you could call her by a nickname of some kind. Plenty of people have nicknames that are not derivative of their given name.

[Anonymous]

You take the child as she is and you embrace her and her name. However, is there a nickname or alternate first name that you can use? How about a middle name?

[Anonymous]

Keep her name. Stop being embarrassed. And think about what your being embarrassed by your foster-to-adopt child's "white trash/stripper" says about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a VERY "white trash/stripper" type of name. However, the child is old enough that she knows her name already and we don't want to screw with her head by changing her name. It's not one that lends to any sort of good nicknames. But we REALLLLLLLLY hate the name. To be honest, I'm kind of embarrassed by it.

What would you do?

It's the only thing the child that is her own. How old is the child?

[Anonymous]

How old is the child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a VERY "white trash/stripper" type of name. However, the child is old enough that she knows her name already and we don't want to screw with her head by changing her name. It's not one that lends to any sort of good nicknames. But we REALLLLLLLLY hate the name. To be honest, I'm kind of embarrassed by it.

What would you do?

It's the only thing the child that is her own. How old is the child?

She's 4.

[Anonymous]

I want to know the name!!

[Anonymous]

If and when you legally adopt that names becomes middle name you pick new first name. For a year call her by both names and gradually drop using middle name. She is only 4.

[Anonymous]

I would keep her name. But I also want to know the name. Might change my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to know the name!!

We're still technically her foster parents so I am not comfortable saying it, even though this is anon.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the PP. I would call her by both her first and middle names for while and then gradually drop the first name. When you enroll her in school, tell the teacher that she goes by "Larla".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep her name. Stop being embarrassed. And think about what your being embarrassed by your foster-to-adopt child's "white trash/stripper" says about you.

What exactly does it say about her, PP, oh wise one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep her name. Stop being embarrassed. And think about what your being embarrassed by your foster-to-adopt child's "white trash/stripper" says about you.

+1

And I agree with the other poster who said it's the only thing that is her own.

But if her name really doesn't agree with her new SES, pick the name you would like for her and keep it in reserve. In a few years she might wish to have a different name, and you could say, "here's what we would have picked..."