WWYD? We hate the name of our foster-to-adopt child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either this is a troll thread or the worst person I ever met -.- How can you think about changing a child's name. How can you hate a child's name? That doesn't feel like the right kind of person to adopt a child to me -.-

And honestly...Champagne Glitz? So what? ._. Call her Champagne...Shampain to be clear on pronunciation. And how is "Champ" not the best nickname one could ever have?!?! How did you not think of that one...?

She will grow up with a very unique name and if you love it, so will she and so will everybody else. Sometimes it's a question of having the right attitude.

You are either a troll or have no kids. Seriously, you want your kid to be laughed at by her peers?

[Anonymous]

I am the one who said to keep her name and nickname her Champ.

I stand by what I said. A child's name does not define her. If her new parents treat her with love and respect instead of underlying hate or disrespect the girl will turn out fine. She will love her name as part of her identity, because her parents do the same.

I wonder how close-minded some people can be...expecting children to treat her differently because she is named Champagne is a self fulfilling prophecy, nothing more. Take her as the beautiful girl she is and love her for that instead of trying to conform her to your or other people's standards. That's just horrible.

I once met a boy who had the same name as a German laundry detergent. I was just as close minded as you folks and thought "What a horrible name". After having known him for a bit it turned out the name feels totally natural for him and if I try to imagine him with a different name it just doesn't feel right. Just because a name feel strange at first doesn't mean you have the right to just go ahead and change it. It's her name. The first thing her Mom gave to her. Probably the only thing she will have left from her birth mother for the rest of her life - or until SHE is old enough to decide for herself if she wants to take on a different name. Nobody has the right to make that decision for her...

[Anonymous]

OP, congratulations on your new family, and thank you for actually providing the name. But remember that if your daughter ever googled her actual name, this thread will pop up.

[Anonymous]

Champagne = Agne

[Anonymous]

What about going by her initials, CG?

[Anonymous]

I actually just googled it to see if that's true ROFL And no, it is not. If you google "Champagne Glitz" a lot of really stunning jewelry websites pop up That's not bad at all

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I'm a New Englander who went to boarding school and Champ would be a totally normal nickname for a boy or girl. The more gender-neutral the better. Buy her a lacrosse stick for her 5th birthday.

[Anonymous]

Charlie and Nell

[Anonymous]

Definitely shorten to Pagne and pronounce it like the West African wrapper garment. It's exotic sounding and will look fine on a resume.

[Anonymous]

CG - CeeGee

[Anonymous]

Payne is actually a nice name and a great compromise. My BFF from college recently adopted three siblings and slightly modified the spellings of two of the kids' names during the process.

[Anonymous]

How calling a child "Pain" is better than Champagne is beyond me...

[Anonymous]

OP, I definitely think the name should be changed. It's not even a "pretty" stripper name like some of the ones mentioned earlier in the thread, like Misti Rain or Bambi Rose. "Champagne" doesn't have a particularly nice sound and has the negative of being an alcoholic beverage. "Glitz" to me has a harsh and unappealing sound. Sorry, not trying to disparage the name but just wanting to be supportive of any decision to make a change.

Is there a book C.G. likes that has a character with a nice name? I remember that my mom and I always loved the Anne of Green Gables books, and the main character, Anne Shirley, was adopted. I could see choosing to be named Anne after reading these books. Probably the Anne books are for older kids and a 4-year-old would not relate, but if there is a similar nice story that could be a touchstone in your family, it would be nice to take a character's name from the book. A heroine with some admirable characteristics, maybe a survivor, someone starting a new life, or even a princess like Anna or Elsa from Frozen or another movie. Elsa who never knew the greatness that she was capable of, until she had the courage to be herself.

[Anonymous]

My name is Michelle and I was adopted. My adoptive mother died and I got a new step mom who insisted in calling me Missy. I HATED being called Missy and eventually took to ignoring her and her whole family when they used it. I still refuse to answer to it 25 years later. Your name is one of the foundations of your identity. You can't take that away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How calling a child "Pain" is better than Champagne is beyond me...

It's not "pain"; it's "Payne" (Payne Stewart, for example). Typically a boy's name but I kinda dig it for a girl. Anyway, good luck, OP.