WWYD? We hate the name of our foster-to-adopt child

[Anonymous]

We adopted my sister at 6 years old and change her name. Before it was changed all the students at the school called her the new name. She was so happy. Change it. In 1 year you will feel weird about even calling her the old name

[Anonymous]

Btw her name was Danae. We changed it to Anaya. She was very very happy about it and never had any problems and always wanted to be called by her new name. Reconsider your decision. Champagne is an alcoholic beverage, not consumable for kids to drink. Think about how this will affect HER (not you) growing up it your type of neighborhood. This is why the child needed to be adopted--- the parents are incompetent. Paige is a nice name that keeps the sound of her name. Amber keeps the "Cham" sound. Maine is a unique name.

[Anonymous]

OP, congrats and good luck. That's cool that you have a daughter... and her name is Champagne! An easy nickname would be Cece.

[Anonymous]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/225/364656.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wanted to thank everyone for weighing in with their opinions and ideas. We are slowly transitioning Chanel to Nelly. We will leave Chanel as her first name. We spoke with a child psychologist about Champagne. She actually asked if we minded if she spoke with some of her colleagues about it to brainstorm. She told us that as a parent her personal gut instinct was to protect her child at all costs, so change the name. But as a doctor who saw a little girl attached to her name it would cause a lot of problems. That's what made her conflicted. What she came back with was that we need to "own" the name, and let changing it be Champagne's request/decision. She also cautioned that when people question her name in front of her, we can not say "She's adopted and her birth mother chose her name" or anything like that, because Champagne will see that as us blaming her mother for her getting negative attention. So Dh and I have to really own the name too. So. We have a daughter. And her name is Champagne.

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[Anonymous]

Good job, OP. 👍

[Anonymous]

I think the therapist's advice is great. But I also think that you could easily introduce the nickname Champ -- just like you are introducing a nickname for her sister -- and it wouldn't have negative connotations re: your opinion on her old name, is a completely natural nickname and is SO much better.

[Anonymous]

I knew a family who adopted a little girl when she was 7 and changed her very “white trash stripper” name to a similar but UMC white girl name (think, “ShayLita to Charlotte”). I thought it was messed up. Hugely messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the therapist's advice is great. But I also think that you could easily introduce the nickname Champ -- just like you are introducing a nickname for her sister -- and it wouldn't have negative connotations re: your opinion on her old name, is a completely natural nickname and is SO much better.

I think a 15 yo may have opinions about this

[Anonymous]

Are freakin kidding? It's her name. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

How is champagne and family doing 9 years later?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is champagne and family doing 9 years later?

Hopefully they can count better than you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is champagne and family doing 9 years later?

Hopefully they can count better than you can.

Are you trying to be mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep her name. Stop being embarrassed. And think about what your being embarrassed by your foster-to-adopt child's "white trash/stripper" says about you.

What exactly does it say about her, PP, oh wise one?

It says that her embarrassment is more important than the comfort of the child. Not a good look.