Gay man who adopted a child: Ask me Anything

[Anonymous]

What is your skin care routine?

How much are your haircuts?

FWIW, I wouldn't allow my daughter to spend the night at any home where there is just a man there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the one continuing to ask all the questions. What ones do you have for me?

Okay here's my questions for you.

1. Do you think all non-homophobic women secretly want to be best friends with a gay man? I notice a lot of jokes from new female friends about becoming my fag hag.
2. On a scale of 1-10 how much of an issue do you think my daughter will have with sleepovers when she's older?

OP, I'm a non-homophobic woman. I have had many gay male friends in my day. I would not refer to myself as a fag hag, though.

I also have a daughter your daughter's age and would have no problem letting her spend the night at your house.

+ 1

I personally don't get involved in other people's sex lives, and I don't want others involved in mine. I have gay, lesbian, straight and transgendered friends. To me - they are just friends.

I would have no problem letting my daughter spend the night at your house, as long as you have locked doors, feed her and any guns locked up.

[Anonymous]

Would you allow your daughter to spend the night at the home by a woman raised by a lesbian?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your skin care routine?

How much are your haircuts?

FWIW, I wouldn't allow my daughter to spend the night at any home where there is just a man there.

I switch between Kiehl's, Origins and Ahava skin products. Wash, shave, moisturize, sunscreen.

Haircuts? Around $65.

[Anonymous]

Is it true that gay men don't really like lesbians?

Why do so many lesbian women look decidedly masculine? I ask this in all honesty; if you are a gay woman, wouldn't you be most attracted to an uber hot, feminine woman? Why are gay women attracted to women who look like men? I know I am generalizing here.

I do not see this disparity among gay men...as often. Usually, I am shocked at how many long term male couples really resemble each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it true that gay men don't really like lesbians?

Why do so many lesbian women look decidedly masculine? I ask this in all honesty; if you are a gay woman, wouldn't you be most attracted to an uber hot, feminine woman? Why are gay women attracted to women who look like men? I know I am generalizing here.

I do not see this disparity among gay men...as often. Usually, I am shocked at how many long term male couples really resemble each other.

Percentage-wise it seems like more gay men hate women than straight men, but that may only be because straight men are trying to get laid so they can't allow themselves to hate women. Most gay guys I know love their female friends, and I can only think of one gay guy who truly hates women.

On your lesbian question - not everyone's sole reason for dressing/presenting the way they do is to attract a mate. Plus statistically speaking, men are much more visual than women. Women look past looks on men (how else do men like Howard Stern hook up with Beth Whatever?), so it stands to reason that women who are lesbians can look past looks on women too.

[Anonymous]

Do you have gaydar? Are you open with your colleagues ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I care far more about your car seat use, parenting style, flexibility with feeding (we are vegetarians), you supervision style (i.e. involved know what the kids are doing vs. let them free play while you check out), etc. over your sexuality. A good dad is a good dad. But, I'd like to see your home study and like with anyone would do a google search and the basic free criminal background check before considering handing over my child to you. Adoption is a plus for us as we adopted.

Wait... do you mean you do a criminal background check parents before you will let your child go to their house? I thought I was being paranoid just for doing a google glance, and wanting to meet them in person first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have gaydar? Are you open with your colleagues ?

Yes, and yes. I mean, my business card doesn't say Carter Collins, Gay Attorney at Law or anything. But I wouldn't hide it, and have problem referencing ex-boyfriends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have gaydar? Are you open with your colleagues ?

Yes, and yes. I mean, my business card doesn't say Carter Collins, Gay Attorney at Law or anything. But I wouldn't hide it, and have problem referencing ex-boyfriends.

That should say, "have no problem." Clearly, I had a problem there for a minute.

[Anonymous]

Has your gaydar been wrong ever?

What do you think of the pray away the gay movement? I think it has caused a lot of pain, wasted time from lives, and unnecessary unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has your gaydar been wrong ever?

What do you think of the pray away the gay movement? I think it has caused a lot of pain, wasted time from lives, and unnecessary unhappiness.

Are you asking if I've ever hit on a straight guy? No. Sometimes it's taken me more than two seconds to suss out which team a guy plays for but I've never embarrassed myself that way.

I agree with you about the pray away the gay movement. I can't imagine God would really rather gay people kill themselves in shame they can't stop being who they are, than that they just ... do life. I have family members wasting years of valuable time praying that I'll stop being gay and move back home to spend the rest of my life asking Jesus to forgive me, when they could have just accepted who I am and enjoyed spending time with me and my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has your gaydar been wrong ever?

What do you think of the pray away the gay movement? I think it has caused a lot of pain, wasted time from lives, and unnecessary unhappiness.

Are you asking if I've ever hit on a straight guy? No. Sometimes it's taken me more than two seconds to suss out which team a guy plays for but I've never embarrassed myself that way.

I agree with you about the pray away the gay movement. I can't imagine God would really rather gay people kill themselves in shame they can't stop being who they are, than that they just ... do life. I have family members wasting years of valuable time praying that I'll stop being gay and move back home to spend the rest of my life asking Jesus to forgive me, when they could have just accepted who I am and enjoyed spending time with me and my daughter.

There was a good documentary on just this: how painful it was for people to fave their families who still believed it was possible and how shamed the participants felt about telling their families the truth and "disappointing" them.

[Anonymous]

Are there some posted questions you have chosen not to answer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there some posted questions you have chosen not to answer?

He didn't answer ..."Would you allow your daughter to spend the night at the home by a woman raised by a lesbian"