Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

You were looking for a sugar daddy and got him. Too bad it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Use this as a lesson to make better life choices.

So you blame her (who was a teenager), not the middle aged man.

Did she trip on a banana peel and fall on his d!ck?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

She got knocked up at 18 by a 40-year old man with kids her own age. Clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

The victim blaming abounds.

How many 18 year olds cannot be fooled by a man more than twice their age?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

She got knocked up at 18 by a 40-year old man with kids her own age. Clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

The victim blaming abounds.

How many 18 year olds cannot be fooled by a man more than twice their age?

It's not so much victim blaming as trying to get her to see that she is in fact a victim and that her situation is quite bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Some females are raised to depend on men.

If she is from a poor family, and not college bound, her family might have pressured her to accept his advances. (See daughters being sold to older men)

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

So wonderful.

What’s his next cool vacation he’s taking his 8 yo son and second wife on?

I don’t know. He’s not allowing it and won’t tell me why. I don’t know what to tell our son.

Sorry. You still sound like a teenager, asking grownups what to do.

Your dynamic with your husband is not healthy and you need marriage counseling to gain some power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

You were looking for a sugar daddy and got him. Too bad it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Use this as a lesson to make better life choices.

So you blame her (who was a teenager), not the middle aged man.

Did she trip on a banana peel and fall on his d!ck?

Well, it wasn’t even legal for her to buy alcohol yet, so there’s that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

[Anonymous]

Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

You were looking for a sugar daddy and got him. Too bad it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Use this as a lesson to make better life choices.

So you blame her (who was a teenager), not the middle aged man.

Did she trip on a banana peel and fall on his d!ck?

Well,,, first she made it hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

Cool.
Whatever your say Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Well, all teenagers arent like that I don’t think 40 is old, and why is it dumb to sleep and marry with someone that you love?

It is dumb for a teenager to sleep with a 40 year old divorced dad of 3. It is dumb to get pregnant within a few months of dating such a man. Is is dumb to get married as a pregnant teenager and expect that you will be treated respectfully especially if you never have a job or contribute

What's wrong with being divorced or 40? Neither was an issue for me. I genuinely wanted to date him (not just sleep with him), and I did. There’s nothing foolish about marrying someone who intends to marry you, regardless of whether you're pregnant or not. I wasn't a teenager/kid, and none of this is tied to having a job.

You said you were 18, isn’t that a teenager?

The fact that you haven’t had any job means you are entirely financially dependent on your much older husband who gets to control your spending on vacations. You have no other options as a pregnant teen bride.

It is very unusual for an unwed 18 year old to get pregnant by a 40 year old, as much as you think this was a great idea most teenagers and anyone who cares about them does not.

I’m not like most other teens—I made my own decisions. I wouldn’t call my 18-year-old self a teenager, and I didn’t think like one either. An 18-year-old getting pregnant by a 40-year-old isn’t unheard of, and for me, it wasn’t a dumb decision. We’re still married and raising our child together—that’s the point I’m making.

Doesn't seem to be going so great so your point is actually not made.

[Anonymous]

where is your husband going for vacation with his ex and his children? How many days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

You were not thinking as an adult!

And you were a victim. He did take advantage. He is STILL taking advantage of you. Your cluelessness and refusal to see this is what enables him to do it.