Men who date younger but unable to perform

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Is anyone claiming that it's not possible????

Why are you trying to project your misery onto everyone?

People are saying it's a need. A need is something you require. People don't require sex. They can live without it.

And I'm not miserable.

It is a need. Just because you don't understand it and can force yourself to go without, it doesn't mean it's not a need. By your own admission, you're not doing it because you don't have the need. You're doing it because you think it's sinful to get it outside of your marriage.

If you weren't miserable, you wouldn't be touting how "it's NOT A NEED" every chance you get.

I don't discuss this every chance I get. I don't think I've ever discussed it before my first comment in this chain. And I think that I don't need anything that I can go without. I don't need sex anymore than I need Pepsi or cigarettes. They're things people like, but can go without. You can repeat "it is a need" until you're blue in the face, but it doesn't change that basic fact.

That your logic is ALSO the logic of rapists is alarming, as well.

I'm curious, when did you start using your own personal, repressed beliefs as facts?

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Is anyone claiming that it's not possible????

Why are you trying to project your misery onto everyone?

People are saying it's a need. A need is something you require. People don't require sex. They can live without it.

And I'm not miserable.

It is a need. Just because you don't understand it and can force yourself to go without, it doesn't mean it's not a need. By your own admission, you're not doing it because you don't have the need. You're doing it because you think it's sinful to get it outside of your marriage.

If you weren't miserable, you wouldn't be touting how "it's NOT A NEED" every chance you get.

Dude, that is literally exactly what it means! You NEED air. You can't force yourself to go without it. Try it (please). You can force yourself to go without food and water, but only for a very limited time, and the consequences are serious. But, as multiple people (not just one) have tried to help you understand, sex is NOT a need. You can go your entire life, birth to death, never having sex.

I'm sorry your sex-starved addict brain is having trouble functioning without someone else's genitals mashed on yours, but... that's a you problem. And yeah, you do seem pretty miserable about it. Seek help.

DUDETTE, learn how to read. I already told you, I have plenty of sex. Not every need we have is life or death. Clearly your need to come back here repeatedly to piss in the wind how you don't want sex and therefore no one NEEDS it is a sick NEED of some sort. You just need to come back every chance you get to spew your nonsense.

Stop making a perfectly healthy need for sex that the overwhelming majority of the human species has something perverted.

You are the only one with a problem. Clearly the lack of sex is messing with you and making a miserable, angry shrew.

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

These men are trying to have sex with OP. But there seems to be difficult my with PIV to OP’s satisfaction. This strikes me as entirely different territory from people who refuse any intimacy with their partner, which is usually when people start talking about sex as a need.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You obviously intimidate these men. Just pick some that are more on your level.

Are you saying they would perform flawlessly with an average slightly overweight woman ? If so, why are they so stuck on seeing me ?

Perform flawlessly? Model body? Flawless skin? Hard to believe you are middled aged woman with any actual life experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You obviously intimidate these men. Just pick some that are more on your level.

Are you saying they would perform flawlessly with an average slightly overweight woman ? If so, why are they so stuck on seeing me ?

Perform flawlessly? Model body? Flawless skin? Hard to believe you are middled aged woman with any actual life experience.

It's been determined pages ago that OP is a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

Are you so fragile that the merest mention of this sets you off this way? Sounds like a you problem.

Here's what started this thread:
"The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking"

You really think having sex outside of marriage is sinful, cheap exploitation?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.

Not pressuring people into sex is, indeed, the "way to go." You sound like a rapist.

I thought when men put on their profile they look to date, they are looking for sex among other things? If there is a medical problem that prevents you from taking V pill shouldn't you disclose it early on, and not a few months after "dating", when the woman is attached is gets hard to break things off?

Man here and PP above. I totally agree with this. Sex is an expectation of any relationship. Doesn't matter if it's first date or after 6 months of dating. Whatever the couple decides but it is an end goal. If he's not able, he should not be in the game or needs to search for someone who only wants a non-sexual relationship.

Thank you - finally, someone understands where I'm coming from. I feel like I was totally led on and was used for social and emotional companionship reasons. I think we'll break up

Yeah, but you want to sleep with them immediately, and not just one guy, either. And you are put off by someone who wants a connection (?) now, but you are looking for a long term relationship. Not adding up, really. Secondly, if you are stunned by all this non- performance, and still claim that in 10- 15 years you won't be dating because you assume you will be in a relationship with potentially one of these guys, what you you think THAT will look like? You'll be in your 50s and this guy will be pushing 80. I mean does any of this make sense?
You don't want anyone your age because they have kids and you no longer do as they are launched, so you are picking men who have been there, done that, have $$ presumably, but can't really do this. It's about this, it seems, to you.
You need a Mr.Goodbar experience for about 10 years, then hook up with an age appropriate life partner when his kids are grown. He can take his viagra, and you can slap on the estrogen patch and cream at the same time. It'll be fun.

You have wild phantasies about my sex life, lady. There are no wild risky encounters. I was seeing them with a goal of finding one long term relationship, and it just happened that way I’m still seeing both. I don’t sleep around. There is no third man.
And my suitors won’t be pushing 80, they are about 10 years older. True that I don’t want to get too attached or invested by being exclusive before I’m certain all aspects of the relationship are satisfying. Not sure what’s wrong with that.

You comprehended items that I didn’t write, which is even more interesting. Never said anything about anything "wild." And yes is you are in your 40s now and these men are in their 60s, and your goal is to find one man in this experiment of which older man can get it up, again- it has to be asked- when you are in your 50s, you do realize they will be pushing 80? Is it comprehension or math that is the problem?

I repeat- date a guy in your age group and grow old together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

Yeah, but in two years, you'll go crazy at the Pon farr.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.

Not pressuring people into sex is, indeed, the "way to go." You sound like a rapist.

I thought when men put on their profile they look to date, they are looking for sex among other things? If there is a medical problem that prevents you from taking V pill shouldn't you disclose it early on, and not a few months after "dating", when the woman is attached is gets hard to break things off?

Man here and PP above. I totally agree with this. Sex is an expectation of any relationship. Doesn't matter if it's first date or after 6 months of dating. Whatever the couple decides but it is an end goal. If he's not able, he should not be in the game or needs to search for someone who only wants a non-sexual relationship.

Thank you - finally, someone understands where I'm coming from. I feel like I was totally led on and was used for social and emotional companionship reasons. I think we'll break up

Yeah, but you want to sleep with them immediately, and not just one guy, either. And you are put off by someone who wants a connection (?) now, but you are looking for a long term relationship. Not adding up, really. Secondly, if you are stunned by all this non- performance, and still claim that in 10- 15 years you won't be dating because you assume you will be in a relationship with potentially one of these guys, what you you think THAT will look like? You'll be in your 50s and this guy will be pushing 80. I mean does any of this make sense?
You don't want anyone your age because they have kids and you no longer do as they are launched, so you are picking men who have been there, done that, have $$ presumably, but can't really do this. It's about this, it seems, to you.
You need a Mr.Goodbar experience for about 10 years, then hook up with an age appropriate life partner when his kids are grown. He can take his viagra, and you can slap on the estrogen patch and cream at the same time. It'll be fun.

You have wild phantasies about my sex life, lady. There are no wild risky encounters. I was seeing them with a goal of finding one long term relationship, and it just happened that way I’m still seeing both. I don’t sleep around. There is no third man.
And my suitors won’t be pushing 80, they are about 10 years older. True that I don’t want to get too attached or invested by being exclusive before I’m certain all aspects of the relationship are satisfying. Not sure what’s wrong with that.

You comprehended items that I didn’t write, which is even more interesting. Never said anything about anything "wild." And yes is you are in your 40s now and these men are in their 60s, and your goal is to find one man in this experiment of which older man can get it up, again- it has to be asked- when you are in your 50s, you do realize they will be pushing 80? Is it comprehension or math that is the problem?

I repeat- date a guy in your age group and grow old together.

Do you read? The men are in their 50s about 10 years older

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I’ve never used condoms even as a teen (I can get hard with them on but can’t finish the act). Maybe you should have volunteered finishing them with your hand/mouth/butt….

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never used condoms even as a teen (I can get hard with them on but can’t finish the act). Maybe you should have volunteered finishing them with your hand/mouth/butt….

Do you test for STDs?

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Is anyone claiming that it's not possible????

Why are you trying to project your misery onto everyone?

People are saying it's a need. A need is something you require. People don't require sex. They can live without it.

And I'm not miserable.

It is a need. Just because you don't understand it and can force yourself to go without, it doesn't mean it's not a need. By your own admission, you're not doing it because you don't have the need. You're doing it because you think it's sinful to get it outside of your marriage.

If you weren't miserable, you wouldn't be touting how "it's NOT A NEED" every chance you get.

Dude, that is literally exactly what it means! You NEED air. You can't force yourself to go without it. Try it (please). You can force yourself to go without food and water, but only for a very limited time, and the consequences are serious. But, as multiple people (not just one) have tried to help you understand, sex is NOT a need. You can go your entire life, birth to death, never having sex.

I'm sorry your sex-starved addict brain is having trouble functioning without someone else's genitals mashed on yours, but... that's a you problem. And yeah, you do seem pretty miserable about it. Seek help.

DUDETTE, learn how to read. I already told you, I have plenty of sex. Not every need we have is life or death. Clearly your need to come back here repeatedly to piss in the wind how you don't want sex and therefore no one NEEDS it is a sick NEED of some sort. You just need to come back every chance you get to spew your nonsense.

Stop making a perfectly healthy need for sex that the overwhelming majority of the human species has something perverted.

You are the only one with a problem. Clearly the lack of sex is messing with you and making a miserable, angry shrew.

I have more sex than you, guaranteed. You continue to assume facts not in evidence about an anon on the internet, while projecting your mediocrity onto me. You don't seem to understand the fundamental difference between "needs" (things you must have to survive) and "wants" (things you really enjoy, that make your life happier and/or more fulfilling, but which you could survive without). You also keep trying to claim someone said it was "perverted". Didn't happen. Read the thread again.

I don't have a problem, I simply have a perspective you disagree with. Calm down about it or log off. You've sounded stupid from the start and you're beginning to sound unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

Are you so fragile that the merest mention of this sets you off this way? Sounds like a you problem.

Here's what started this thread:
"The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking"

You really think having sex outside of marriage is sinful, cheap exploitation?

Sometimes, yes. Though, if you're asking, I see plenty of "duty sex" within the confines of a marriage the same way, so... 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Is anyone claiming that it's not possible????

Why are you trying to project your misery onto everyone?

People are saying it's a need. A need is something you require. People don't require sex. They can live without it.

And I'm not miserable.

It is a need. Just because you don't understand it and can force yourself to go without, it doesn't mean it's not a need. By your own admission, you're not doing it because you don't have the need. You're doing it because you think it's sinful to get it outside of your marriage.

If you weren't miserable, you wouldn't be touting how "it's NOT A NEED" every chance you get.

Dude, that is literally exactly what it means! You NEED air. You can't force yourself to go without it. Try it (please). You can force yourself to go without food and water, but only for a very limited time, and the consequences are serious. But, as multiple people (not just one) have tried to help you understand, sex is NOT a need. You can go your entire life, birth to death, never having sex.

I'm sorry your sex-starved addict brain is having trouble functioning without someone else's genitals mashed on yours, but... that's a you problem. And yeah, you do seem pretty miserable about it. Seek help.

DUDETTE, learn how to read. I already told you, I have plenty of sex. Not every need we have is life or death. Clearly your need to come back here repeatedly to piss in the wind how you don't want sex and therefore no one NEEDS it is a sick NEED of some sort. You just need to come back every chance you get to spew your nonsense.

Stop making a perfectly healthy need for sex that the overwhelming majority of the human species has something perverted.

You are the only one with a problem. Clearly the lack of sex is messing with you and making a miserable, angry shrew.

I have more sex than you, guaranteed. You continue to assume facts not in evidence about an anon on the internet, while projecting your mediocrity onto me. You don't seem to understand the fundamental difference between "needs" (things you must have to survive) and "wants" (things you really enjoy, that make your life happier and/or more fulfilling, but which you could survive without). You also keep trying to claim someone said it was "perverted". Didn't happen. Read the thread again.

I don't have a problem, I simply have a perspective you disagree with. Calm down about it or log off. You've sounded stupid from the start and you're beginning to sound unhinged.

Awww, I’m sorry I triggered you so much. I hope you’re having more sex than I am truly. It’s a stress reliever and you seem really tightly wound. Perhaps while you’re not screwing, look up the hierarchy of needs. I never claimed anyone would die without sex. Only you do that. You do it in every thread you respond to. Then you come back to pretend it’s not you bla bla bla. Just like today you first said you don’t have sex because sex outside of your sexless marriage is sin, but whatever.

I’ll say it again, sexual needs are basic human needs. Not sure why that earks you so much since you have “so much sex.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

Are you so fragile that the merest mention of this sets you off this way? Sounds like a you problem.

Here's what started this thread:
"The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking"

You really think having sex outside of marriage is sinful, cheap exploitation?

Sometimes, yes. Though, if you're asking, I see plenty of "duty sex" within the confines of a marriage the same way, so... 🤷🏼‍♀️

So what the actual f*** is your point?
1) Pre or extramarital sex is bad and we're going to burn in hell or,
2) maybe it's not so bad compared to bad marital sex.