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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. [b]All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet. [/b]

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating![/quote]

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.[/quote]

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.[/quote]

Not pressuring people into sex is, indeed, the "way to go." You sound like a rapist.[/quote]

I thought when men put on their profile they look to date, they are looking for sex among other things?[b] If there is a medical problem that prevents you from taking V pill shouldn't you disclose it early on, and not a few months after "dating", when the woman is attached is gets hard to break things off? [/b][/quote]Man here and PP above.  I totally agree with this.  Sex is an expectation of any relationship. Doesn't matter if it's first date or after 6 months of dating.  Whatever the couple decides but it is an end goal.  If he's not able, he should not be in the game or needs to search for someone who only wants a non-sexual relationship.  [/quote]

Thank you - finally, someone understands where I'm coming from. I feel like I was totally led on and was used for social and emotional companionship reasons.  I think we'll break up[/quote]
Yeah, but you want to sleep with them immediately,  and not just one guy, either. And you are put off by someone who wants a connection (?) now, but you are looking  for a long term relationship.  Not adding up, really.  Secondly,  if you are stunned by all this non- performance,  and still claim that in 10- 15 years you won't be dating because you assume you will be in a  relationship with potentially one of these guys, what you you think THAT will look like? You'll be in your 50s and this guy will be pushing 80.  I mean does any of this make sense? 
You don't want anyone your age because they have kids and you no longer do as they are launched, so you are picking men who have been there,  done that, have $$ presumably,  but can't really do [b]this[/b].  It's  about this, it seems, to you. 
You need a Mr.Goodbar experience for about 10 years, then  hook up with an age appropriate life partner when his kids are grown. He can take his viagra, and you can slap on the estrogen patch and cream at the same time. It'll be fun. [/quote]

You have wild phantasies about my sex life, lady. There are no wild risky encounters. I was seeing them with a goal of finding one long term relationship, and it just happened that way I’m still seeing both. I don’t sleep around. There is no third man. 
And my suitors won’t be pushing 80, they are about 10 years older. True that I don’t want to get too attached or invested by being exclusive before I’m certain all aspects of the relationship are satisfying. Not sure what’s wrong with that.
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You comprehended items that I didn’t write, which is even more interesting. Never said anything about anything "wild." And yes is you are in your 40s now and these men are in their 60s,  and your goal is to find one man in this experiment of which older man   can get it up,  again- it has to be asked- when you are in your 50s, you do realize they will be pushing 80? Is it comprehension or math that is the problem?

I repeat- date a guy in your age group and grow old together.  [/quote]

Do you read? The men are in their 50s about 10 years older [/quote]

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