Weird situation with new neighbor from high school - WWYD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of this is a matter of immaturity and perspective. Sometimes we think the "popular kids" are excluding us, but many don't see themselves as popular or desirable and wouldn't realize that they are part of some in group. People may assume they are ignoring them or being rude when they're just seeking their familiar friends.

--never the cool-kid, but currently a parent and a teacher

I have a feeling the situation in this instance was not this simple. Don’t you think the new neighbor would have an adult perspective now? Don’t you think she would recognize what you explain above after so many years? She’s not in high school anymore.

[Anonymous]

Has OP come back at all to let us know the truth about her behavior in high school? It's odd that she hasn't responded at all. Soul searching?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Actually, I don't really remember us interacting much in high school at all. I certainly didn't hate you, I barely knew you. Also, I'm a bit uncomfortable with some of the things my kids have told me you've been saying to them since you moved here. Can you explain?"

NP, and I think this is a good approach. The neighbor seeking out OP's kids to spill her old feelings is hella weird. That's the only reason I think OP should take it up directly with the neighbor. Otherwise, as PPs have said the other neighbors will figure out that there is something not right with her on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whole lot of pathetic 30 and 40-something professional victims here still clinging to perceived high school slights. As an orange imbecile would say, sad.

And before you clap back with the idiotic HARRR HARRR FOUND THE MEAN GIRL BULLY, I was in the arts in a huge high school and other than sitting next to them in English or math class, I never interacted with any kid in my high school who wasn’t in my arts discipline, so no, I was neither “popular” in the larger school nor a “bully”

Awww, you sure tried didn't you.

Awww, you didn't have a cogent rebuttal, but hey, you tried. Go play the victim more. It's such a fabulous look for a grown woman.

(insert childish emoji here)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whole lot of pathetic 30 and 40-something professional victims here still clinging to perceived high school slights. As an orange imbecile would say, sad.

And before you clap back with the idiotic HARRR HARRR FOUND THE MEAN GIRL BULLY, I was in the arts in a huge high school and other than sitting next to them in English or math class, I never interacted with any kid in my high school who wasn’t in my arts discipline, so no, I was neither “popular” in the larger school nor a “bully”

Maybe, but you also don’t state that you were bullied. Until you have experienced that, you don’t have a leg to stand on.

You are an adult now. Stop obsessing about freaking HIGH SCHOOL and grow up.

[Anonymous]

We have two crazies in this neighborhood. Mentally ill. If I were OP I wouldn’t be rushing in to engage with this HS situation. She will continue to focus on you. Her behavior is already out of bounds. Don’t encourage it by having a sit down about it. Be nice but keep your distance.

[Anonymous]

OP isn’t giving updates bc she realizes she was a mean girl and karma is a …..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP isn’t giving updates bc she realizes she was a mean girl and karma is a …..

Oh please with that tired mean girl shit. It’s so lame. Did OP stalk Thai woman’s family and spread rumors about her to small children and her friends? Probably not, right? Who is the “meanie” now?

[Anonymous]

Serious question. How many posters that are very into this whole mean girl rhetoric are really talking about feeling left out? Do you think maybe you made someone else feel left out? I highly doubt that more than one or two posters experienced actual real bullying. Just not feeling cool or part of it. Is this right? Is that actually mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why we need to teach our children to be kind. Mean kids in high school scar their victims for life. While you may not remember your cruelty to this person, she does. You should apologize to her, genuinely. I am guessing you were mean to other people, too, not just her. Reflect on your viciousness and think about what you have learned since then that changed your behavior. You still sound mean, quite honestly.

+1. Just apologize. Short and to the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two crazies in this neighborhood. Mentally ill. If I were OP I wouldn’t be rushing in to engage with this HS situation. She will continue to focus on you. Her behavior is already out of bounds. Don’t encourage it by having a sit down about it. Be nice but keep your distance.

Agree. It was a long time ago and the other woman is clearly uncomfortable for whatever reason. OP shouldn’t engage at all. If necessary, I would directly tell the woman that i didn’t appreciate her going around telling my children and others i was mean and she needs to stop it’s time to move on. I wouldn’t go down a long road with no happy ending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why we need to teach our children to be kind. Mean kids in high school scar their victims for life. While you may not remember your cruelty to this person, she does. You should apologize to her, genuinely. I am guessing you were mean to other people, too, not just her. Reflect on your viciousness and think about what you have learned since then that changed your behavior. You still sound mean, quite honestly.

+1. Just apologize. Short and to the point.

Stop throwing around buzz words. What exactly is mean? How do you know OP was mean? What in her post is mean? Just because you want to be a victim doesn’t mean OP is the villain.

[Anonymous]

It’s amusing to me that so many PPs deny that bullying exists in high school and instead victim blames. News flash - just because it didn’t happen to you doesn’t mean it didn’t happen to others. Bullies themselves are the most oblivious later in life when they’re faced with the hurt they caused. Bullying is abuse and abuse damages a person.

[Anonymous]

I think it's great that the neighbor told the kids that their mother was a mean girl. She had it coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why we need to teach our children to be kind. Mean kids in high school scar their victims for life. While you may not remember your cruelty to this person, she does. You should apologize to her, genuinely. I am guessing you were mean to other people, too, not just her. Reflect on your viciousness and think about what you have learned since then that changed your behavior. You still sound mean, quite honestly.

+1. Just apologize. Short and to the point.

Stop throwing around buzz words. What exactly is mean? How do you know OP was mean? What in her post is mean? Just because you want to be a victim doesn’t mean OP is the villain.

We know OP was mean because people don’t make this stuff up out of the blue. OP needs to do some serious soul searching and apologize.