Weird situation with new neighbor from high school - WWYD

[Anonymous]

So obvious OP was a mean gurl in high school. OP, you reap what you sow. Time to face the music. Yes, you can go on and on about how long ago that was, but you damaged this person. Own up and talk to her. You’re the bad person here, not her.

[Anonymous]

Most bullies “don’t remember” their victims or act like it was no big deal. But truth is, they cause life long damage.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are dealing with a true CRAZY. Don’t apologize. Don’t write a note. Watch out because she is NUTS. HS was a long time ago and you don’t even remember this psycho.

You were obviously a mean girl in high school too, just like OP. Bullies don’t realize or care about the lasting harm they cause. Bullies are the true “psychos”

Yup. And anyone who dares to actually remember their crappy behavior is NUTS.

Well it was decades ago. Time to move on and live in the present. People stuck in the past reliving high school have issues. Seems neighbor still hasn’t learned behave in a socially acceptable manner. The other neighbors will figure it out soon enough.

Right...they have issues because horrible people like OP caused them to. And for those of you asking how we know OP was at fault: you can just read it in her original post. She's an arrogant mean girl, to this day, who lives in denial about the hurt and pain she has caused other people.

Np here, for Pete’s sake, did it ever occur to you that the hurt and pain caused was in your head? Op is not responsible for managing the neighbor’s feelings. Sometimes things that we percieved to have happened are not in sync with reality. Some of you ladies are so imbalanced and emotionally that it’s scary. Stop trying to get others to own your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Whole lot of pathetic 30 and 40-something professional victims here still clinging to perceived high school slights. As an orange imbecile would say, sad.

And before you clap back with the idiotic HARRR HARRR FOUND THE MEAN GIRL BULLY, I was in the arts in a huge high school and other than sitting next to them in English or math class, I never interacted with any kid in my high school who wasn’t in my arts discipline, so no, I was neither “popular” in the larger school nor a “bully”

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are dealing with a true CRAZY. Don’t apologize. Don’t write a note. Watch out because she is NUTS. HS was a long time ago and you don’t even remember this psycho.

You were obviously a mean girl in high school too, just like OP. Bullies don’t realize or care about the lasting harm they cause. Bullies are the true “psychos”

Yup. And anyone who dares to actually remember their crappy behavior is NUTS.

Well it was decades ago. Time to move on and live in the present. People stuck in the past reliving high school have issues. Seems neighbor still hasn’t learned behave in a socially acceptable manner. The other neighbors will figure it out soon enough.

Right...they have issues because horrible people like OP caused them to. And for those of you asking how we know OP was at fault: you can just read it in her original post. She's an arrogant mean girl, to this day, who lives in denial about the hurt and pain she has caused other people.

Np here, for Pete’s sake, did it ever occur to you that the hurt and pain caused was in your head? Op is not responsible for managing the neighbor’s feelings. Sometimes things that we percieved to have happened are not in sync with reality. Some of you ladies are so imbalanced and emotionally that it’s scary. Stop trying to get others to own your feelings.

Bullies are also gas lighters as in above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are dealing with a true CRAZY. Don’t apologize. Don’t write a note. Watch out because she is NUTS. HS was a long time ago and you don’t even remember this psycho.

You were obviously a mean girl in high school too, just like OP. Bullies don’t realize or care about the lasting harm they cause. Bullies are the true “psychos”

Yup. And anyone who dares to actually remember their crappy behavior is NUTS.

Well it was decades ago. Time to move on and live in the present. People stuck in the past reliving high school have issues. Seems neighbor still hasn’t learned behave in a socially acceptable manner. The other neighbors will figure it out soon enough.

Right...they have issues because horrible people like OP caused them to. And for those of you asking how we know OP was at fault: you can just read it in her original post. She's an arrogant mean girl, to this day, who lives in denial about the hurt and pain she has caused other people.

Np here, for Pete’s sake, did it ever occur to you that the hurt and pain caused was in your head? Op is not responsible for managing the neighbor’s feelings. Sometimes things that we percieved to have happened are not in sync with reality. Some of you ladies are so imbalanced and emotionally that it’s scary. Stop trying to get others to own your feelings.

Bullies are also gas lighters as in above.

Gaslight this: You. Are. Insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whole lot of pathetic 30 and 40-something professional victims here still clinging to perceived high school slights. As an orange imbecile would say, sad.

And before you clap back with the idiotic HARRR HARRR FOUND THE MEAN GIRL BULLY, I was in the arts in a huge high school and other than sitting next to them in English or math class, I never interacted with any kid in my high school who wasn’t in my arts discipline, so no, I was neither “popular” in the larger school nor a “bully”

Awww, you sure tried didn't you.

[Anonymous]

It's amusing that posters seem to believe there is a simple social dynamic in high schools splitting everyone into two groups: the abused and the bullies.

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OP, do you keep in touch with anyone from high school? Give them a call to see what they remember.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amusing that posters seem to believe there is a simple social dynamic in high schools splitting everyone into two groups: the abused and the bullies.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amusing that posters seem to believe there is a simple social dynamic in high schools splitting everyone into two groups: the abused and the bullies.

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It’s ridiculous. In my high school like all I’d venture to say there were numerous social groups and most were cliquey. It may well be that there was one where the girls were cheerleaders, vey recognized, and others thought they were the cool group, but everyone had their own group. The soccer girls for example weren’t letting others join them but somehow that didn’t earn them the same “mean girl” status as the other girls who also simply had a group. It is true that we all feel left out at certain points. As someone who was actually bullied by the older girls in high school - I am talking threats of bodily harm, chasing, extreme name calling, vandalism, abuse - and who went on to be successful and social - I hold no animosity. We were all different people put in roles and acting out adult stuff. It’s far more complicated and nuanced than this stupid mean girl nice girl nonsense. That shit is misogynistic and backward. Drop it.

OP, you may have left her out and I personally believe you were well within acceptable social behavior to do so. None of us should be forced in situations we don’t want. She is clearly hurt and angry and not a very healthy person. I’d tread carefully with her. It’s not normal behavior and she’s behaving in alarming ways. I’d be very concerned if she approaches anyone else in your family. I would ask her to sit down with you so she can air her grievances and let her know you hear her, than be distant and polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s doing an excellent job of putting people off by how she’s acting and what she’s saying. I wouldn’t worry about it. If people ask you about it I’d very casually respond with how strange you think it is and that you really have no memory of her at all.

Oh, I hope OP does this. With the same demeanor that she used in her post. Then that neighborhood in which she has so thoroughly "established' herself will begin to understand what kind of person she really is. I would guess many already know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whole lot of pathetic 30 and 40-something professional victims here still clinging to perceived high school slights. As an orange imbecile would say, sad.

And before you clap back with the idiotic HARRR HARRR FOUND THE MEAN GIRL BULLY, I was in the arts in a huge high school and other than sitting next to them in English or math class, I never interacted with any kid in my high school who wasn’t in my arts discipline, so no, I was neither “popular” in the larger school nor a “bully”

Maybe, but you also don’t state that you were bullied. Until you have experienced that, you don’t have a leg to stand on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are dealing with a true CRAZY. Don’t apologize. Don’t write a note. Watch out because she is NUTS. HS was a long time ago and you don’t even remember this psycho.

You were obviously a mean girl in high school too, just like OP. Bullies don’t realize or care about the lasting harm they cause. Bullies are the true “psychos”

PP here: Actually I was kind of the odd invisible girl in HS. But every neighborhood has its crazy person. Project much IRL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it could be that the neighbor is nervous and doesnt know how to navigate - worried that with someone who she considered (right or wrong) to be mean to her as a neighbor, now all the other neighbors will also dislike her. She probably thinks by just blurting it out in the open, she can sort of “get her arms around it” but it’s doing the opposite - just making things more awkward, and now she’s coming off a little crazy, which is contributing to her being even more awkward.

Basically, a downward spiral of awkwardness.

She should be worried. There is a 100% chance that OP will be sure that this woman's behavior is known all around the neighborhood. OP and the neighbor are both in the wrong.