Weird situation with new neighbor from high school - WWYD

[Anonymous]

But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

No need for the quotes. A grown woman who approaches someone else’s minor children without their parents present to whine that their mother was a high school “bully” is indeed mentally unstable. Next question?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

No need for the quotes. A grown woman who approaches someone else’s minor children without their parents present to whine that their mother was a high school “bully” is indeed mentally unstable. Next question?

I'm not saying she is or is not. I do not agree with what the neighbor did. We have no idea if OP's version is at all accurate. You don't just believe one person's side, and start a war against someone without knowing both sides. This is how entire neighborhoods get bad reputations - because one person thinks they are the self appointed "mayor". Further, OP is accused of bullying as young person, then reacts to that by (you guessed it) bullying. Shouldn't OP be old enough to know better, and take the high road, for once? OP "not remembering" that OP bullied, does not mean it didn't happen. It must have been pretty bad for the neighbor to remember, after all these years. I don't understand defending that behavior, at all.

OP, maybe try a different approach, other than bullying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

DP. If you are not age 16 or under, you should, in all sincerity, be truly embarrassed. Grow so very much up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

This is it. It's amazing how so many people would take OPs word without question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

This is it. It's amazing how so many people would take OPs word without question.

It's amazing how many people invent the neighbor's backstory without question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

Just morons like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But how on earth could we possibly know which side is “unstable”, when we only hav OP’s version of events to go on?

This is it. It's amazing how so many people would take OPs word without question.

It's amazing how many people invent the neighbor's backstory without question.

Right? We don’t have neighbors side so people have helpfully created a whole back story and written paragraphs about all the supposed trauma she endured because of relentless bullying by OP who had no clue who she was. It’s really something to behold.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

Just morons like you.

Wow. Once a mean girl always a mean girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

Just morons like you.

Wow. Once a mean girl always a mean girl.

Pointing out that you are inane and bordering on moronical is not mean. It’s simply stating a fact. You’re repeatedly name calling, without any substance or background. Just throwing out nasty labels. Who is being a bully here? I get that you aren’t very bright but the hypocrisy is rather glaring, maybe even you can see it?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Firstly, I am so sorry that so many of you were hurt by bullies in high school and some are still hurt by what happened a long time ago. That is terrible. Secondly, I want to clarify - I definitely do NOT want to start some sort of Mean Girls thing in the neighborhood. I don't want to gossip with old hs friends about this woman - I truly just reached out to a couple of people because I was so confused by what was going on. I was not some queen bee popular girl in high school. I was in a couple of different groups of friends, and mostly had at least one friend in each class or club I was in.

I've thought about this woman and what high school was like, on and off throughout the past week. I remember being made fun of for taking the bus until 12th grade, and for not having a boyfriend, and looking up to the girl I worked with at our retail job who was a grade ahead of me who had a really nice one. I just worked hard on grades, at my job, and having fun with family and friends during down time. I vaguely recall this woman being on the same bus as me, and her being in a couple of the asme classes I was in.

If/when I see her again, I am thinking that I will apologize if she wished she'd been included more than she was. Because that's really all I can think of - that we never invited her to any plans we were making. I truly don't believe I bullied her, or anyone, so I won't apologize for something I didn't do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is this did not come out of nowhere. OP is not telling the whole story of what happened in HS. Or she forgot. It must have been pretty bad if her neighbor is still hurt. Bullying has long term effects.

But that’s not true. It’s recognized that people tend to romanticize, dramatize or fantasize about their high school experiences and create somewhat fictional narratives about them. This may well be the neighbor’s version. It could be very loosely based in any reality. The drama of her reaction doesn’t make it true.

Ok whatever. You were a mean girl and are just trying to make yourself feel better

You sound like you are still in high school. These replies aren’t the clever quips you seem to think they are. You sound like an immature fool.

Ok mean girl. Are you still bullying people?

Just morons like you.

Wow. Once a mean girl always a mean girl.

Well, you would know it best since you're pretty adept at calling other people names. The only "mean girl" here seems to be you. Maybe troll elsewhere for awhile? Your shtick is boring.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for coming back and clarifying, OP, and I'm sorry people here were so mean to you.

[Anonymous]

This post is hilariously (or sadly) becoming a wars between the bullies and bullied - withe neutrals in the middle - of high school. A psychologist would have a great time with this. - signed, a middle person