Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP COME BACK AND EXPLAIN WHY YOU WERE ALL SLEEPING IN THE SAME ROOM!!!!!!!

^^I know you think this is funny, but it’s not. You sound creepy. Let it go.

[PP; not OP]

NOT FUNNY. IT IS WEIRD! This was a house? Why was OP sleeping in the same room as her friend and spouse?

That is obviously a greater level of intimacy than just being someone’s houseguest!

It is clearly relevant to the question. Page 11 of this thread and no answer!?

You’re obsessed. That is creepy.

Maybe they have a polyamorous relationship. What’s it to you? Need pearls to clutch?

If OP was having a sexual relationship with the friend who owned the house, then turning a thermostat up or down is not so rude.

This is so interesting. Why does a sexual relationship or lack thereof dictate why you can touch someone else’s thermostat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

Turn your thermostat 3 degrees down tonight and try to sleep through it. Come back tomorrow morning and tell me how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

Turn your thermostat 3 degrees down tonight and try to sleep through it. Come back tomorrow morning and tell me how you feel.

NP. I would probably not even notice if someone turned the heat down 3 degrees without my knowledge. It definitely wouldn’t wake me up if I was already asleep under the covers.

[Anonymous]

Would I have done it? No. Would I make a huge deal if someone did it at my house? Also no (unless they turned it to 80 or something). It sounds like everyone slept well so it's really not a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super rude OP.

Don't mess with other people's thermostats.

LOL this is right up there with touching another man's BBQ grill. It's a NO from me dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

Turn your thermostat 3 degrees down tonight and try to sleep through it. Come back tomorrow morning and tell me how you feel.

NP. I would probably not even notice if someone turned the heat down 3 degrees without my knowledge. It definitely wouldn’t wake me up if I was already asleep under the covers.

Your thermostat must work very differently from mine. 3 degrees is very noticeable in your own home.

[Anonymous]

Boy people on here are really protective of their thermostats.

I wouldn't do it, but I also wouldn't be all that upset if someone did this in my home. Especially if I am on such close terms with them that we were sharing a bedroom to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP COME BACK AND EXPLAIN WHY YOU WERE ALL SLEEPING IN THE SAME ROOM!!!!!!!

^^I know you think this is funny, but it’s not. You sound creepy. Let it go.

[PP; not OP]

NOT FUNNY. IT IS WEIRD! This was a house? Why was OP sleeping in the same room as her friend and spouse?

That is obviously a greater level of intimacy than just being someone’s houseguest!

It is clearly relevant to the question. Page 11 of this thread and no answer!?

You’re obsessed. That is creepy.

Maybe they have a polyamorous relationship. What’s it to you? Need pearls to clutch?

If OP was having a sexual relationship with the friend who owned the house, then turning a thermostat up or down is not so rude.

This is so interesting. Why does a sexual relationship or lack thereof dictate why you can touch someone else’s thermostat?

Friends with benefits. One of the benefits is you can adjust the temperature in the apartment without waking your partner up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

Turn your thermostat 3 degrees down tonight and try to sleep through it. Come back tomorrow morning and tell me how you feel.

I wouldn’t feel dead, that’s for damn sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

😂😂😂😂

Thanks for the much needed laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely did something wrong and it’s kind of surprising that you have to survey a group of people to understand that. While if I were your friend I wouldn’t publicly confront or chastise you I would absolutely be taken aback and probably not invite you to stay again.

This. Your inability to understand how inappropriate your behavior was is shocking. If you are this unaware regularly, this might have been the last straw. I wouldn’t have scolded you but I would have asked you not to do it again and you would not be asked back.

“Shocking”? For God’s sake, this was a thermostat, not a heart-lung machine. Get a grip.

Turn your thermostat 3 degrees down tonight and try to sleep through it. Come back tomorrow morning and tell me how you feel.

NP. I have a setback thermostat. It already does that every night.

[Anonymous]

Y’all are weird. It would never occur to me to be annoyed if a guest changed the damn thermostat. OP, your friends are weird. You did nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My hot-flashing SIL did this when we were visiting with an infant (her house, we were visiting). Woke up to weak cries from the baby's room only to find he was so cold his lips were turning blue. It was terrifying.

Oh COME ON.

BOLLOCKS

Wow, I'm surprised you don't believe me. Totally true. It was winter and the baby was a preemie with very little body fat.

[Anonymous]

OP again. It’s been a few days. I’ve been busy. You all are hilarious and wound-way-too-tight. Yes, we are (were maybe) in an intimate relationship. We were in the same bed and they were asleep. I thought I could be comfortable there and the response I got indicated a different level of relationship than I thought we had. It was my second time spending the night although I’ve been there numerous other times. We’ve actually known each other for decades. We dated exclusively earlier in our lives.

Maybe I turned the thermostat down 2 degrees and not 3. Either-way, the reaction felt over the top to me and judgmental. They mentioned something about the thermostat and I said I changed it not thinking it would cause the rest of our time together to be ruined. I surely would not have uttered a word if I thought they would snap back at me and then keep going on and on about it like I had committed a criminal act. Seriously now. If it were my home and someone who has seen me naked and more who I’ve known for decades adjusted my thermostat I could have cared less.