Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

There’s a bit of the alpha personality with the anti-other woman. She has to be the main dish. She isn’t going to stand for stolen moments or being a minor side plot character in anyone’s drama. The anti-other woman knows her self-worth and she is not willing to take the crumbs off anyone’s plate.

OW have very low self-esteem and self-worth and use sex with unavailable married men as a means to try to make themselves not feel so low. Never works. Only makes things worse.

Strong, bad-ass women don’t go after other women’s husbands or boyfriends. They live by girl-code. They support other women.

OP- you are an Alpha I can tell which is why you want to bring this b@tch down. I know it’s early. These revenge fantasies are normal the first months in. Fantasize about them, talk about them with friends, wish her harm and misfortune, but I think you are smart and tough enough to not act on them. That trash is not worth the time of day.

The hurt will get easier with time. It can take 2 years or more and lots of therapy. You will always have integrity and morals and won’t go to your death bed with this type of vile behavior on your conscience. She has to live it for the rest of her life and so does your husband.

You win. Seriously. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

Anyone can give their p*ssy away. Give me a break.

You are proving the point. You chose to initiate an affair with somebody already married. You are dysfunctional and not hot enough to get your own single man. Why do you want a cheater? Somebody else’s garbage?

What a whore and proud of it. Mom and Dad must be so proud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

Anyone can give their p*ssy away. Give me a break.

You are proving the point. You chose to initiate an affair with somebody already married. You are dysfunctional and not hot enough to get your own single man. Why do you want a cheater? Somebody else’s garbage?

What a whore and proud of it. Mom and Dad must be so proud.

DP. Agree. What a low life. At 30, the LAST thing I would want was an affair with a married man. My fiancé and took sabbaticals from our lucrative careers at 30 and toured around Europe for a year together. I didn’t have to wait for scraps when he was free from his wife and kids. I was busy planning a wedding as well.

2nd marriages are 70% likely to end in divorce and a cheater always cheats again on the next wife. Always.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

Gross. Something wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

If you are initiating affairs with married men, you need therapy. Lots of it. Quite a bit of emotional baggage there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

Sure, you’re not lacking in self esteem at all. Just need to brag about how much $ you make (is that supposed to mean you’re a “better” person or something?).

[Anonymous]

Did OP leave yet?

[Anonymous]

Do it x 1000. I did, amd I dont regret it. The shit hit the fan. My husband reached out (I had ready kicked him out) and accused me of harassing his affair partner's family. Lol. Im sure that's what she told him.... because she only lies to her husband, never to her affair partner.

The OW's husband reached out to me several months later and thanked me for everything. Said that it helped him make sense of a constant stream of lies that had him questioning his own reality. Im glad I was able to do that for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you send via email or certified letter (signature required)? It was a multi-year affair, unprotected sex. He deserves to know.

I sent mine registered, certified mail requiring her and only her signature. I forget what that is called but you can do it. I was afraid her husband, who was banging my wife, would intercept it.

Ask me if you want to know more.

OP — DID YOU SEND IT????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

And yet you still went for the one that was married. Classy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

I have too many friends like you... the rest of us always wonder why are all our CEO friends are the worst at dating.

You would not need to tell us how much money you make if your self esteem was not low.

Seriously get some therapy, you have so much potential but you are a mess but really most unattached 28-33 year old women are a mess. Cue PP... that is my choice.. no it isn't girl, you waited too long, you put all your eggs in one basket, the pickings are slim, you are getting with married men because you lack options and self worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you send via email or certified letter (signature required)? It was a multi-year affair, unprotected sex. He deserves to know.

I sent mine registered, certified mail requiring her and only her signature. I forget what that is called but you can do it. I was afraid her husband, who was banging my wife, would intercept it.

Ask me if you want to know more.

OP — DID YOU SEND IT????

Pp here. I am not OP. Should have made it more clear sorry. I thought reference to someone banging my wife was clear enough I am a different poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sending a letter like that makes YOU look crazy.

Completely depends on the tone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, sorry PP, keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. I’m an alpha woman who initiated an affair with a married man because I could, not because I am lacking in self-esteem or self-worth. I definitely don’t “feel low” about myself, but it’s not worth explaining to you because you won’t believe me, regardless. Whatever helps you sleep at night!

- 30 year old who makes $350k/ year in finance and can date any guy I want

I went to a highly regarded business school and the women I know in finance are all single and not by choice. I’m confused as to why you think that is something men care about. Prob 80% of what matters to them is appearance.