Why he won't leave his wife for his mistress

[Anonymous]

Yes. True hatred is there for that. He was in the hospital all the time with us. Helped my mom tremendously (during illness and after death), brought us meals. He really helped our kids throughout and had wonderful talks and support for them.

But- somehow he justified doing all these wonderful things allowed him to see her on the side.

Yes—wtf?

[Anonymous]

Deep deep grief prevented from being emotionally/physically available for a period of time. You support a spouse through that not run away to have your needs filled.

[Anonymous]

John Edwards and Newt Gingrich cheated when wives had cancer.

Truly awful human beings.

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Anonymous wrote:John Edwards and Newt Gingrich cheated when wives had cancer.

Truly awful human beings.

Let’s remember, Newt famously dumped wife #1 for wife #2 while wife #1 was in the hospital recovering from cancer surgery. As in literally went to the hospital to present her with divorce papers while she was recovering from surgery for uterine cancer.

He eventually dumped wife #2 for wife #3 shortly after wife #2 was diagnosed with MS back in 1999. And he was having the affair on wife #2 with wife #3 while he was turning the country upside down trying to drive Bill Clinton from office over his affair with Monica Lewinsky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deep deep grief prevented from being emotionally/physically available for a period of time. You support a spouse through that not run away to have your needs filled.

He could have talked to his friends etc. That was just an excuse.

The AP is just as evil especially when that kind of trauma is happening in a family. I'd have to divorce because just looking at him would make me sick. He back-stabbed your entire family while pretending to be a saint. That's sociopathic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Deep deep grief prevented from being emotionally/physically available for a period of time. You support a spouse through that not run away to have your needs filled.

He could have talked to his friends etc. That was just an excuse.

The AP is just as evil especially when that kind of trauma is happening in a family. I'd have to divorce because just looking at him would make me sick. He back-stabbed your entire family while pretending to be a saint. That's sociopathic.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:John Edwards and Newt Gingrich cheated when wives had cancer.

Truly awful human beings.

Let’s remember, Newt famously dumped wife #1 for wife #2 while wife #1 was in the hospital recovering from cancer surgery. As in literally went to the hospital to present her with divorce papers while she was recovering from surgery for uterine cancer.

He eventually dumped wife #2 for wife #3 shortly after wife #2 was diagnosed with MS back in 1999. And he was having the affair on wife #2 with wife #3 while he was turning the country upside down trying to drive Bill Clinton from office over his affair with Monica Lewinsky.

+1. Newt Gingrich is especially evil. He is a true sociopath. There was also some talk of him not providing his wife #2 with appropriate level of support (alimony) after divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

NP. How on earth would the OW know if the wife was insane or not? Still a risk.

Infidelity happens in an estimated 30%-70% of marriages, and stories like that are so rare that everyone knows about them. Cheating is a lousy idea for many reasons, but dying in an elaborate murder suicide is unlikely to be an outcome. A disease is far more likely.

No, a disease is more likely among those in the single dating pools. I can find married women all day who haven't had sex with anyone but their husbands in over a decade, and not even him in the last few years. They are pretty safest group of all.

That depends on what her DH has been up to.

yes, it's not 100% safe because you could say that about my wife too if I remained faithful. But within the greater dating pool of sexually available people, they are the safest group.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

Sure he can. And the point of this thread is that most likely he will continue to be married to the wife, and this willing woman will be a warm body instead of a partner, having to take whatever she gets.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

Sure he can. And the point of this thread is that most likely he will continue to be married to the wife, and this willing woman will be a warm body instead of a partner, having to take whatever she gets.

And I'm fine with that. You can say the same thing about what I am to her. She wants sex that she isn't getting. I'm that warm body. It's stated up front, we aren't trying to change each other's marriage. Just seeking to satisfy each other when we can sneak away for a few hours.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

Sure he can. And the point of this thread is that most likely he will continue to be married to the wife, and this willing woman will be a warm body instead of a partner, having to take whatever she gets.

And I'm fine with that. You can say the same thing about what I am to her. She wants sex that she isn't getting. I'm that warm body. It's stated up front, we aren't trying to change each other's marriage. Just seeking to satisfy each other when we can sneak away for a few hours.

From what I've seen, your situation - two married people not looking to end up together but just hooking up with no attachment - is not the norm. There are often feelings involved on one side, one person starts to want the other to leave the family. Or, as in my friend's case, she's emotionally involved with the married guy, and she is single. She gets lonely, as she only gets scraps of his time and attention.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

Sure he can. And the point of this thread is that most likely he will continue to be married to the wife, and this willing woman will be a warm body instead of a partner, having to take whatever she gets.

And I'm fine with that. You can say the same thing about what I am to her. She wants sex that she isn't getting. I'm that warm body. It's stated up front, we aren't trying to change each other's marriage. Just seeking to satisfy each other when we can sneak away for a few hours.

From what I've seen, your situation - two married people not looking to end up together but just hooking up with no attachment - is not the norm. There are often feelings involved on one side, one person starts to want the other to leave the family. Or, as in my friend's case, she's emotionally involved with the married guy, and she is single. She gets lonely, as she only gets scraps of his time and attention.

From what you've seen? you mean, your friend? Clearly, you haven't seen much. I've been cheating for a long time and my situation is more the norm. For sure, people can get feelings, men and women. But most are in it for the sex they are missing and not ready to leave their marriage right now, or maybe never.

[Anonymous]

I would expect there are many more situations where two people are married in bad marriages but do not want to divorce (money, kids, inconvenience) but that cheating to emotional and physical needs met is much more common than one person being single. That is just stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

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No matter the reason, she doesn't want it and he can easily find a woman who does.

Sure he can. And the point of this thread is that most likely he will continue to be married to the wife, and this willing woman will be a warm body instead of a partner, having to take whatever she gets.

And I'm fine with that. You can say the same thing about what I am to her. She wants sex that she isn't getting. I'm that warm body. It's stated up front, we aren't trying to change each other's marriage. Just seeking to satisfy each other when we can sneak away for a few hours.

From what I've seen, your situation - two married people not looking to end up together but just hooking up with no attachment - is not the norm. There are often feelings involved on one side, one person starts to want the other to leave the family. Or, as in my friend's case, she's emotionally involved with the married guy, and she is single. She gets lonely, as she only gets scraps of his time and attention.

From what you've seen? you mean, your friend? Clearly, you haven't seen much. I've been cheating for a long time and my situation is more the norm. For sure, people can get feelings, men and women. But most are in it for the sex they are missing and not ready to leave their marriage right now, or maybe never.

Yep, NGL