Another troll |
Yes. For the seven-year-old about to miss his Little League game because dad doesn’t know how to communicate. Listen man, we totally get that you want a household scenario in which men come first and only their feelings matter. I’m sorry if you were born in the wrong decade. The 1950s might’ve been for you. But this is not how functional relationships worked, even back then. Women just didn’t have any other options at that time. We do now. I understand it’s a bummer for people like you. |
She doesn't want divorce, says they can't do therapy, what do you suggest then? May be her trying to see things from DH's perspective can give OP some empathy or insight into his issues and make their dynamic less dysfunctional. |
Not misogyny. OP is acting immature and stupid. |
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And (for some inexplicable reason) the dog might have run into the street!!! |
Even if its all his fault and she is a perfect saint, if divorce or therapy isn't acceptable then what's the solution here?
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Yep. In true, DCUM tradition, I’m going to diagnose her: borderline personality disorder. Maybe histrionic. could be either. |
I'm not reading all 13 pages of this, especially since some of the posters are nuts. But OP, if you're still following: could be this. My ex was like this. Didn't realize he really didn't want to do married life/father life until we had a child, and he dipped. FF my DH adopted him, and we've been married 25 yrs with three kids who are all in or post college now. |
Definitely not a “singular poster” lol. But nice try at discrediting the 10 people who disagree with you. |
OP does not want a solution; she wants to run frantic through her house and post on here with histrionics. |
He didn't just take a walk. He was nasty to her and then left without telling her where he was going, and without any regard to his kids' and their needs/plans. That's just a dick move. |
I think you need to relearn the definition of histrionics. |
Yes, in a functional set up, dad would drop the kid to his game, feed the dog and mow the yard so wife can go to Target and birthday and they would discuss their ongoing issues later but this isn't a functional set up so toxicity of contempt and resentment is clouding their judgement. |
Yes but if he is depressed and being put in similar scenarios every day then its hard to rationally follow her strict and busy timetable. If there is mutual empathy in a couple, then both look for ways to make things work, if there is mutual hostility then expecting other partner to follow your timetable isn't a realistic expectation. |