Svelte teen girls -- being the ugly duckling in a school of swans

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

This might be the craziest response yet.

I’m not that pp but I posted a few pages back that I’m a BMI of 22 and not really thin. I’m 5’4” and weigh 128 pounds. I’m totally not thin at all. I have a little belly and my face feels chubby today. I feel very average size.

If I was 150 pounds and BMI of 25, I would be fat. This is as a middle aged woman. For a teen, that would absolutely be fat.

And? 12 pages in, that is helpful how?

Right? Like…ok girl is bigger. My daughters are this height and are 105 and 115 and the one that is 115 looks pretty average (vs her sister looks slim) compared to peers. But like…okay now that we’ve established that, what your point, guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

Wow. Vicious atmosphere for girls at these schools. Created by parents.

It's vicious having to grow up being fed like a goose at home and then being bullied in school because your mom failed at basic parenting. You should be the one suffering, not your child. They did nothing wrong. Stop being irresponsible, partner. Your child is not big-boned; your child is not ok weight, and your child is not just genetically overweight. Your child just has bad parents.

So how do you explain siblings in the same family with widely different BMIs and/or eating habits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

This might be the craziest response yet.

I’m not that pp but I posted a few pages back that I’m a BMI of 22 and not really thin. I’m 5’4” and weigh 128 pounds. I’m totally not thin at all. I have a little belly and my face feels chubby today. I feel very average size.

If I was 150 pounds and BMI of 25, I would be fat. This is as a middle aged woman. For a teen, that would absolutely be fat.

And? 12 pages in, that is helpful how?

Right? Like…ok girl is bigger. My daughters are this height and are 105 and 115 and the one that is 115 looks pretty average (vs her sister looks slim) compared to peers. But like…okay now that we’ve established that, what your point, guys?

I was only responding to someone saying the pp’s post was crazy. I didn’t think it was crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

This might be the craziest response yet.

I’m not that pp but I posted a few pages back that I’m a BMI of 22 and not really thin. I’m 5’4” and weigh 128 pounds. I’m totally not thin at all. I have a little belly and my face feels chubby today. I feel very average size.

If I was 150 pounds and BMI of 25, I would be fat. This is as a middle aged woman. For a teen, that would absolutely be fat.

And? 12 pages in, that is helpful how?

Right? Like…ok girl is bigger. My daughters are this height and are 105 and 115 and the one that is 115 looks pretty average (vs her sister looks slim) compared to peers. But like…okay now that we’ve established that, what your point, guys?

I was only responding to someone saying the pp’s post was crazy. I didn’t think it was crazy.

DP. I was the one who said it was crazy. I stand by it. That poster sounds crazy. They seem to be saying that buying clothes for an overweight teen that fit well is tantamount to “helping her hide her fat” and hence, teaching her to be ashamed of her looks. It doesn’t make any sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

This might be the craziest response yet.

I’m not that pp but I posted a few pages back that I’m a BMI of 22 and not really thin. I’m 5’4” and weigh 128 pounds. I’m totally not thin at all. I have a little belly and my face feels chubby today. I feel very average size.

If I was 150 pounds and BMI of 25, I would be fat. This is as a middle aged woman. For a teen, that would absolutely be fat.

And? 12 pages in, that is helpful how?

Right? Like…ok girl is bigger. My daughters are this height and are 105 and 115 and the one that is 115 looks pretty average (vs her sister looks slim) compared to peers. But like…okay now that we’ve established that, what your point, guys?

I was only responding to someone saying the pp’s post was crazy. I didn’t think it was crazy.

DP. I was the one who said it was crazy. I stand by it. That poster sounds crazy. They seem to be saying that buying clothes for an overweight teen that fit well is tantamount to “helping her hide her fat” and hence, teaching her to be ashamed of her looks. It doesn’t make any sense.

I wish fat could be hidden so easily

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

PP doesn’t know many teens, athletes or otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

PP doesn’t know many teens, athletes or otherwise.

I have two teen sons. Both play 3 sports each.

My daughter is only in elementary and everyone is stick skinny. I occasionally see a large girl in ballet but in her actual school, I can’t think of any large girls.

All my kids are thin. My boys are muscular.

[Anonymous]

I meant in my daughter’s elementary school, there are no large girls in her grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

PP doesn’t know many teens, athletes or otherwise.

I have two teen sons. Both play 3 sports each.

My daughter is only in elementary and everyone is stick skinny. I occasionally see a large girl in ballet but in her actual school, I can’t think of any large girls.

All my kids are thin. My boys are muscular.

I haven't been a hundred lbs since 5th grade. You haven't even listed a height with that weight. I assure you my 5'7" teen would look skeletal at 100 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

PP doesn’t know many teens, athletes or otherwise.

I have two teen sons. Both play 3 sports each.

My daughter is only in elementary and everyone is stick skinny. I occasionally see a large girl in ballet but in her actual school, I can’t think of any large girls.

All my kids are thin. My boys are muscular.

I haven't been a hundred lbs since 5th grade. You haven't even listed a height with that weight. I assure you my 5'7" teen would look skeletal at 100 lbs.

My kids play tennis as their main sport. Those are the girls I see most.

Some girls are not thin. You are correct. I have seen some girls who are bigger than my sons.

My kid just started high school. Middle school girls look petite and thin and 100 pounds.

There are some kids in high school who look like grown men.

[Anonymous]

Can anyone imagine a thread where we discussed and compared teen boys’ bodies in such excruciating detail? This is really gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone imagine a thread where we discussed and compared teen boys’ bodies in such excruciating detail? This is really gross.

Unathletic fat boys are often also left out and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are usually thin and weigh 100 pounds.

You don't know many athletes, do you?

This thread illustrates just how girls get eating disorders.

PP doesn’t know many teens, athletes or otherwise.

I have two teen sons. Both play 3 sports each.

My daughter is only in elementary and everyone is stick skinny. I occasionally see a large girl in ballet but in her actual school, I can’t think of any large girls.

All my kids are thin. My boys are muscular.

I haven't been a hundred lbs since 5th grade. You haven't even listed a height with that weight. I assure you my 5'7" teen would look skeletal at 100 lbs.

My kids play tennis as their main sport. Those are the girls I see most.

Some girls are not thin. You are correct. I have seen some girls who are bigger than my sons.

My kid just started high school. Middle school girls look petite and thin and 100 pounds.

There are some kids in high school who look like grown men.

My kids play tennis too and at the high school level, there are definitely plenty of girls that are not thin. Not obese looking, but a variation in sizes for sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BMI of 25 would be roughly 5’5” and 150 lbs, which isn’t abnormal for a 45 year old woman but I can see it sticking out a little bit for a ritzy private HS kid. Cut way back on snacks, sweets, cook and eat more meals at home/much less restaurant food. It’s easy for the teen age range to drop weight quickly. Also make sure she looks good in her clothes - bras that actually fit and don’t cause back fat and lumps, pants that are the right size and aren’t giving muffin top. Physical activity is important, but just “doing a sport” alone isn’t going to really move the needle on weight if the diet doesn’t improve.

That is some mental weight gymnastic! I am 54, almost 5'5", and weigh 125 lbs. I have a belly and fat in my belly. If I were 150, I would be fat, as plain as that.
Now, you are comparing a teen's weight to grown older women. Teens at that weight are overweight. OP and the child's father are responsible for this, not the child. And now you are telling her mom to help her hide her fat? Hence, teach the kid to be ashamed of her looks. Everything you wrote is messed up. OP needs to accept her responsibility and apologizes to her daughter.

Adults are responsible for their actions, kids are not, not when it comes to weight.

This might be the craziest response yet.

I’m not that pp but I posted a few pages back that I’m a BMI of 22 and not really thin. I’m 5’4” and weigh 128 pounds. I’m totally not thin at all. I have a little belly and my face feels chubby today. I feel very average size.

If I was 150 pounds and BMI of 25, I would be fat. This is as a middle aged woman. For a teen, that would absolutely be fat.

And? 12 pages in, that is helpful how?

Right? Like…ok girl is bigger. My daughters are this height and are 105 and 115 and the one that is 115 looks pretty average (vs her sister looks slim) compared to peers. But like…okay now that we’ve established that, what your point, guys?

I was only responding to someone saying the pp’s post was crazy. I didn’t think it was crazy.

DP. I was the one who said it was crazy. I stand by it. That poster sounds crazy. They seem to be saying that buying clothes for an overweight teen that fit well is tantamount to “helping her hide her fat” and hence, teaching her to be ashamed of her looks. It doesn’t make any sense.

I wish fat could be hidden so easily

Right? If someone knows the secret to this, please let us know and I can stop feeling horrific side effects from Wegovy.