Discrepancy between you want vs what you can get

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

OP says she has a great job at a think tank or NGO. Just because she doesn’t make > 300k doesn’t mean she is a secretary. You sound like a fool. Or a troll.

I was responding to the previous post that places like Bethesda and Chevy Chase are full of SAHMs. Yes, they are, but SAHMs with excellent backgrounds. Im and no OP doesn't have a "great job". That's my point. If you don't get that you don't get any of this.

My DH is 6'3", Ivy educated and makes 1m+ a year. Guess my background. It's not think tank.

Your husband is 6’3: and your point is what?

Kids won’t be short and may be better athletes then. Plus the taller you are the more weight you can gain before you look fat.

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exactly what do you make at your wonderful non-profit/think tank job, miss priss?

you are self-described as not a catch. why do you think a high NW man would even give you a second look?

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HI, I am the one dating the tall divorced doctor-center. I appreciate the warning but it is not the same person (I'm sure there's more than one, which was kind of the point of my post). Mine got divorced in Boston and moved here later. They had no custody issues and cooperate well on children.

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^doctor-cheater

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Average people typically marry other average people. Everyone would like the cream of the crop, but there are so few and a lot of competition for them. The cream of the crop typically chooses the cream of the crop. Why would they choose to marry you and your friends? Let’s be for real here. Women’s market value goes down as we age. You can marry if you become realistic. Marry someone who is average like yourself. You’re only above average and special in your own mind.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

OP says she has a great job at a think tank or NGO. Just because she doesn’t make > 300k doesn’t mean she is a secretary. You sound like a fool. Or a troll.

I was responding to the previous post that places like Bethesda and Chevy Chase are full of SAHMs. Yes, they are, but SAHMs with excellent backgrounds. Im and no OP doesn't have a "great job". That's my point. If you don't get that you don't get any of this.

My DH is 6'3", Ivy educated and makes 1m+ a year. Guess my background. It's not think tank.

Your husband is 6’3: and your point is what?

Kids won’t be short and may be better athletes then. Plus the taller you are the more weight you can gain before you look fat.

Ah, the unloved short children.

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The dating market doesn't lie. Who you get is exactly who is "worthy" of you. Build the best life you can with that person.

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This thread is full of out and out misogyny. Do you all hear yourselves?! And I bet most people posting consider themselves feminists…yet it’s pretty clear you HATE women.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing. I know this lifestyle of wealthy people very well. The grass is not greener on that side, no! My exH is an actual multi millionaire, he's worth over $100mm (probably one of the wealthiest persons in DMV area, if not #1). He lives in a central DC mansion all on himself (did't marry his AP, just dates her as he doesn't trust anyone); locks his doors and windows on coded locks overnight; screams at our son at custodial visits; drinks secretly liqueur and is extremely unhappy person. He's a serial cheater (I was the wife #2, he's now with his AP. I know many SAHM from CC, many of them continue working and are successful. They are not necessarily Ivy educated but are successful real estate agents, gym owners etc. Money is with private business equity owners (chain retail, oli&gas, real estate, hotels, finance, law equity partners etc), not in 9-5pm corporate world. And what about Chevy Chase and Bethesda that makes living there so special? These are classical upper middle neighborhoods with boring retirees where I personally would never live.

Am I unhappy after we divorced and now longer living the millionaire life with catered parties, boat trips, private planes rides to Alaska? The answer is I am the happiest person in the world in my Kalorama townhouse with my can and my kids. I am no longer a multi-whatever but nobody is cheating on me, making me feel like I am below them, not worthy their family, friends and connections. I don't want to remarry ever again.

And I think I know that 60 y.o. wealthy doctor from CC who cheated and got divorced with his exwife. Whoever is dating him be very careful: the guy was violent during his divorce. He made his exW, a well know CC real estate agent, take huge loans fighting for custody an alimony. Then he wanted to reconcile 3 years after divorce, but she didn't take him and lives her calm life of a 60 y.o. cat lady in CC.

OP, just pick an IT guy in data science making 100K/year, move to an area with good public schools like Arlington or Bethesda (you can buy a condo). And be happy!

FYI, IT guys in data science make way more than that if they are, in fact, doing real data science jobs, not code monkeys.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing. I know this lifestyle of wealthy people very well. The grass is not greener on that side, no! My exH is an actual multi millionaire, he's worth over $100mm (probably one of the wealthiest persons in DMV area, if not #1). He lives in a central DC mansion all on himself (did't marry his AP, just dates her as he doesn't trust anyone); locks his doors and windows on coded locks overnight; screams at our son at custodial visits; drinks secretly liqueur and is extremely unhappy person. He's a serial cheater (I was the wife #2, he's now with his AP. I know many SAHM from CC, many of them continue working and are successful. They are not necessarily Ivy educated but are successful real estate agents, gym owners etc. Money is with private business equity owners (chain retail, oli&gas, real estate, hotels, finance, law equity partners etc), not in 9-5pm corporate world. And what about Chevy Chase and Bethesda that makes living there so special? These are classical upper middle neighborhoods with boring retirees where I personally would never live.

Am I unhappy after we divorced and now longer living the millionaire life with catered parties, boat trips, private planes rides to Alaska? The answer is I am the happiest person in the world in my Kalorama townhouse with my can and my kids. I am no longer a multi-whatever but nobody is cheating on me, making me feel like I am below them, not worthy their family, friends and connections. I don't want to remarry ever again.

And I think I know that 60 y.o. wealthy doctor from CC who cheated and got divorced with his exwife. Whoever is dating him be very careful: the guy was violent during his divorce. He made his exW, a well know CC real estate agent, take huge loans fighting for custody an alimony. Then he wanted to reconcile 3 years after divorce, but she didn't take him and lives her calm life of a 60 y.o. cat lady in CC.

OP, just pick an IT guy in data science making 100K/year, move to an area with good public schools like Arlington or Bethesda (you can buy a condo). And be happy!

FYI, IT guys in data science make way more than that if they are, in fact, doing real data science jobs, not code monkeys.

What I meant is that 100K is an out of grad school and pretty decent salary for data science. A guy like this (maybe shorter than average and not as good looking as she imagined) would be a perfect match for OP. They are usually unpretentious, go home stuff and have great earning potential for the future (maybe even 300K that OP shoots for). She just needs to "invest" in her man, like many women do and don't approach it with instant gratification attitude

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30’s and still single? Good luck! Sugar daddies and 50’s combovers living in Mama’s basement.

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Wow. SO much hatred at the OP!! What is wrong with a woman wanting to marry a high value man?

Why is this so triggering to you?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. SO much hatred at the OP!! What is wrong with a woman wanting to marry a high value man?

Why is this so triggering to you?

Since you asked, what triggers me is stating that people are either “high value” or “low value”. It is reductive and demeaning to all.

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If you were willing to go to college, do so much work and work so hard at your jobs- why couldn't you lose the weight? I mean that's probably the easiest thing to fix on your list.

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Anonymous wrote:30’s and still single? Good luck! Sugar daddies and 50’s combovers living in Mama’s basement.

Newsflash: most guys in their 50s have thinning hair and yours will too.